OK, on this thing I have seen hundreds of questions about a girl and her best friend liking the same guy, or their best friend dating their ex. What is up with that? Why does it bother you so freaking much? It is a guy, a stupid guy, get over it. There are more out there. And so what if your friend is dating your ex. He must not have been that great in the first place. I have had friends steal guys from me, sleep with my guy, make out with my guy, anything you can imagine. Out of my hole dating life, I have only had two guys not cheat on me, and one of them is my husband. But so what if you and your friend like the same guy. What is the animosity about? Why is it a big deal? I say to all you girls out there that are like this, GET THE HELL OVER IT! It is not a big deal. It is a very small deal. Why would you stop being friends with someone just because they are with someone that you liked too? I mean it is only "like" not "love of my life" kind of thing, right? So what is the big huge
2006-09-14 15:31:09 · 22 answers · asked by gin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not saying to get over guys, just the animosity towards friends for likeing a guy that you do, dating a guy that you like, or dating an ex. It is the stupidest thing ever.
2006-09-14 15:34:59 · update #1
I just wanted to see what others thought, hoping I wasn't the only one like this.
2006-09-14 15:36:32 · update #2
lovely, I am in love, to a wonderful man, who treats me better than anyone. But, if he wanted someone else, I would step aside, for I love him and would want him to be happy.
2006-09-14 15:38:17 · update #3
I am mostly talking about young girls. Just trying to understand why they are like this. I never understood it when I was in school. I am not that old myself, I am only 20, but I have never even felt jelousy touawrds others. Is something wrong with me or something for being this way? I just don't understand girls in general I guess. I was always "One of the guys", you know, the only girl in that group kind of thing.
2006-09-14 15:46:13 · update #4
I'm glad I'm a guy... in highschool...i dated a girl my buddy liked and he.... hit me for it.... so um that was it. He liked her for like 2 years and never made a move on her...one day she made a move on me?!?! And well...i had always kinda liked her (but limited my actions because of my friend). See guys get over it quick... he vented.... and it was over. Later on...he had a good laugh when he got to see how messed up she really was.
Then one time a buddy of mine dated a gf that i cared deeply about.... um maybe 3 weeks after we broke up (one of those rare mutual agreements)... but i STILL had a hard time dealing with it.... so my buddy and i didn't hang out for about a month. Afterwards...we cooled off and are best of friends...we even survived the typical after highschool disappearing friends bit.
Men seem to get over things a lot quicker.... and we dont seem to get too emotionally involved. Maybe thats what women need to do?
2006-09-14 15:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, to answer your question, yes you've experienced being backstabbed by a friend. So have I. I would never ever consider someone who have back stabbed me a friend because friends are supposed to be happy for you, not stealing your guy away from you, or sleep with the guy you're dating. Any true friends or BEST friends shouldn't do that, it's not right. My husband would never cheat on me, my ex-best friend tried to steal him, when she clearly said to my face that she'd never ever go after a best friend's boyfriend. well, she tried to steal my husband (boyfriend at the time) and I'm lucky that my husband isn't the type of guy who would go after someone saying she likes him when he knows that he has a girlfriend. Therefore she lied to my face and backstabbed me. Real friends wouldn't do that. But hey you still consider them friends, that's your opinion. and the worst thing is that when I confronted her about it, she keeps on denying it, I had to hear about this from my husband. She was supposed to be the one who to come to me to tell me what she did. But I'm glad my husband told me about it, because that shows that he's responsible, honest and faithful.
Btw, I read some of the answers, and most people say they do that in middle/high school. Well, let me just say that doesn't matter at what age, this always happen. friends who are trying to steal another friend's boyfriend/girlfriend they are not true friends.
2006-09-14 15:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bet that felt great to vent like that. lol
I feel like doing the samething sometimes. Well actually alot...lol
But as I'm reminded my daughter, I was young once also. So I try to keep that in mind as I read some of the foolishness on here.
I only wish some of the youngsters would speak with their parents rather than get on here and blurt out their life histories.
2006-09-14 15:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wayne 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clap, clap, clap. I like this question. You struck the nail on the head when you used the word Girl.
They are young, and brand new to relationships. They do not realize yet that a real good female friend is worth a jillion boys. Especially the type of boy who will allow himself to get "stolen" by another.
They are silly girls, you are a woman.
Be glad, be very glad.
2006-09-14 15:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Matilda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what a rant!! Ive never cheated on a girl ive been with, and if one did on me we would not be together. I also think that if a friend of mine slept with my gf, he wouldnt be much of a friend to do that to a guy, i would dump both of them. If i had a friend who wanted an ex, then yes, so what, that would be his lookout and none of my business. If there were bad feelings between i wouldnt want to hang around with him and her, but i wouldnt be mad about them being together.
2006-09-14 15:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by rand a 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
a freind is someone who you should be able to trust your life with.....i think most of the pain would be from the betrayal that you feel from your friend and bf but im sure what your supposed friend does hurts alot more.....
It sounds like you need to reevaluate some of your freindships as in my book i could never to that to a friend that i love
2006-09-14 15:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes you are true but you need to calm down! seriously most girls are just seeking advice! you wouldnt be married if they were just stupid guys?
2006-09-14 15:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tess c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
theres one person who is a pain, u wine all the time,get over it.if dont like the question,skip it,but with cryn all the time no wonder no one picks your answers.
2006-09-14 15:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen fight for your right to have a future husband. Break up your friendship and go for the short I mean long relationship and have kids and live happily ever after. FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT for you deserve a husband and future kids. Your best friend will never give you that.
FEEEWWW ok I am done. Thanks.
2006-09-14 15:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Stan the answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yeah it's really annoying. AMEN! I hate how EVERYONE has to know someone cheated on them, when really it's part of life and it happens to almost everyone!
2006-09-14 15:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by bob888 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋