soo i dont know what to do. my cousions and brother all treat me like ****..and it pisses me off..and i work with my cousion and its worse at work..they make it a point to tell me i have no friends..when i do..but all they do is drink..so i dont hang with them much..and they call me a drop out b/c i quit regular high school and started doing online school..wich they dont think is the same thing..and they make me feel like ****..all i wanna do is cry when they say these things..and even when i try to stick up for myself it dosnt work..and out parents think they joking..or make some excuse for them..they dont know how much it hurts..what can i do..this is bullshit..
2006-09-14 15:20:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel bad for you. It sounds like they are really bullying you. Did you leave highschool and start online school because you were uncomfortable with the social situation? Maybe you could go and talk to someone (a doctor or psychiatrist). I don't really think you had a problem, but may have developed a problem overtime from all the bullying. They also probably push you around because they get a kick out of it. Why don't you come up with some good retorts and treat them with some medicine of their own. If you don't drink, that's cool. Your parents need to get a grip on the situation though. Do you have an aunt or uncle you could talk to that could get through to your parents. I'm a mom and I hope my kids will never think he/she can't come and talk to me seriously about problems of any kind. Good luck to you.
2006-09-14 15:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by jjeffcott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't have an answer but I can say that I know exactly what you feel, it's hard I know. My family constantly teases me and makes comments about me being irresponsible because I as well dropped out of regular highschool, and all my mistakes have been and will be probably forever brought up . I finally decided to stop (even though it is hard) caring what they said and lived my own life!!!! Is there anyway you could get another job not working with family???? Also if you start distancing yourself from them until they realize that it is not a joke and you really are hurt by the comments they may slow down but if your family is anything like mine it probably will never stop. Just remember that you are a good person and it only matters what you think of yourself!!!! Good luck and really think about getting another job without family.
2006-09-14 22:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by way_random 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl i have just about the same problem with my brothers. do u got friends? if u talk to them u feel much better. no matter what happens u are a person and don't deserve to be treat this way. the more u hang out with friends the u feel better. the way the family members are treating u is ashame bc u seem like a go person, so keep ur hope up and remember one thing have a smile on!!
2006-09-14 22:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by May S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you don't need that kind of crap from your own family. My own sister puts me down all the time and I think that it is her way of bringing down a level or two because she is an underachiever and by putting me down it brings her up a bit. I don't know how old you are or where you live but college can take you to many different places, if you wanted to you could move to another state or another city and branch out on your own, be your own person without having them judge you or put you down. Even if you are not ready to go to a college yet you could still get a job somewhere else giving you the opportunity to discover who You are!
Do you have any friends or external family members living somewhere Else? you could visit them first and check it out, see if you would like to move there maybe. You have choices. Your family will be much nicer to you if they only see you on Christmas and summer visits.
Good Luck to whatever you choose to do.
2006-09-14 22:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by LondonLou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for continuing your education, although it is online. Have you thought about getting another job without working with your family? If so, look for another job. As far as the cousins are concerned, I honestly think that they could be jealous of you. You're doing something with your life and they're both unhappy with theirs. Just ignore them and keep focusing on your education. Be the bigger person. Both of them act like little kids. This will be hard but you will get through this. The more you ignore them, the less they will tease you. I hope my advice helps you. Keep your head held up high and keep doing your thing, girl.
2006-09-14 22:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I'm already impressed with you.....,Your'e doing online school work....That's wonderful!....,Today, a large majority of people get their degrees online and that is very commendable....It sounds as if your self esteem is low...and somehow...you think that just because you...do your studies onine...that this is somehow not good enough....and when your cousins make fun of you.....it just stirs up all your feelings of unworthiness.....and that low self esteem issue....believe me...I've been there and done that myself.....I've been to expensive schools....and had to give that up...due to personal issues....no shame in that...,but I judged myself more than others....It's not where you have been that matters ,it's what you are going to do in the future....that counts....,If at first you don't succeed ...try..try again....,I do it all the time...Try to avoid the negative ones who try to bring you down....and do things and hang around people who up lift you...and help you to feel good about yourself.....You have alot of living to do....and you are already...creating a future worth something for yourself....Don't worry about sticking up for yourself...just know who you are and what you are doing....and be on your way.....You deserve better...Don't give them the time of day....Just remember these cousins will envy you one day....Fill your mind with positive talk...to get this negative stuff out of your head.....Ps...maybe you should get another job ..so your'e not in their line of fire....."I believe in you".....and I don't really know you.....so look yourself in the mirror....and tell yourself...you are worthy....you have friends...and your smart...and just as good....:)
Hugs...:)
2006-09-14 22:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Babylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be firm with them that you wont take their insults anymore. Keep telling them until they quit the insults and rude comments. Dont let their negative comments make you feel bad about yourself
2006-09-14 22:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you are trying to finish your education. You are stuck, because you depend on your parents. Be the bigger person. You will find that as an adult you will have bigger and badder problems, so enjoy it now.
2006-09-14 22:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by JillA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋