How come children are so disrespectful the parent no longer discipline's they befriend them no respect?!?!

Question

You know I was having this discussion last night and I just thought if more of us as parents taught our children how to repsect us as parents and others we wouldn't have such a hard time.

So many times we try to be friends to our children instead of being parents. Some parents are even scared to discipline their children well that is why the society is the way it is today because the parents live in fear of their children and don't teach their children to repect them so why would they respect anyone else.

If we love our children we would discipline them and I am not telling you to beat them to a pulp either, but teach them how to respect take some authority as a parent.

Answer 1

I can't believe there are other parents furious about this mess. I have just been told by a parent-less child in a "university" that spanking teaches a child to hit. I'm not saying beat the crap out of the kid either, there is a line between punishment and abuse. The children have been allowed to take over as the parents. The parents are now just wallets. I have 4 very well behaved children who respect me, but do not fear me and tremble when the see me. We have fun with each other, but they also know who is in charge. They have tried to talk back to me but don't anymore. You must let them know who is the parent and that the parents are in charge. What we do is to protect them, strengthen them, and encourage them.

The childless are trying to teach parents how to raise children. We are asking children for advise on how to raise other children. Anybody see the problem?

Answer 2

you are SOOOO right. I have two little girls(almost 4 and 20 months). My kids are very well behaved for children their age. I think its because before my husband and I had children we were around my parents a lot. I have 3 younger sisters still at home, they walk all over my parents, because of the lack of discipline. My mom found out she had heart disease, had to have open heart surgery, after that she quit disciplining them, just in case something happened. It disgusted us to see my sisters treat my parents the way they do. So we said that our kids would not act like that. they both say please and thank you. Now we are working on the 4 year old not interrupting!
I think there is a thin line between friendship and parenting, and most people cross that line and don't know how to get back over it!

Answer 3

Because the children will call 911 and say they are being beaten. And because the government wont allow us to disipline our children the correct way. Yes spank my children when they do something wrong and when they decide they are going to be smart ellics to me, they get an attitude adjustment. they also get grounded. I also think that the parents just dont care because there lives are to busy. I do have to say i have gotten many complements on how well behaved my children are and how respectful they are of others. my daughter recieved an award at school for being respectful, kind and considerate of others. That showed me i havent completely screwed up my kids. But if the parents spare the rod they will spoil the child. Proven by today's standards of the way children are raised.

Answer 4

I agree!! You know you are exactly right we cannot disipline in public or someone will call DHS on you, I think that kids know this. I belive that schools teach who to tell but leave out that there is a correct way that moms and dads disipline. When we have to tell them no they no which buttons to push and in public they are worse. I once had an exprience with my daughter at a park and she was just being awful the park was full of kids and parents and I could do nothing. I tried to talk to her but it wouldn`t work, she went on and on until we left and all the way home I cried because I was lost in what to do. If there were only simple answers. This is a great topic that every parent should try to find answers to, if you find any let me know.

Answer 5

I'm with u nowadays people want to be the 'cool' parents and don't understand that it's hurting them more than helping. Most people that are successes in life were disciplined and not really beaten but hey my mom put some hurting on me as a child and i was in the military at 17 and now in college for engineering so I think discipline is a plus and I discipline My kids as well

Answer 6

I am a teen, and I think that you should teach kids that stuff, but don't expect them to be respectful to you all the time. Life is hard on teens. It doesn't seem like it from your point of view because you're over it, but there is so much pressure- peer, academics, sports- that sometimes I just blow up. It is not my parents' or any other adults' fault, but I know that if I blow up at them they will forgive me eventually rather than a friend who might blow up the blowing up into a big deal- trust me this happens a lot. Don't worry, as long as you continue to set a good example, we shall follow one day...

Answer 7

You are correct. This is the trend in the society.

I have learned through experience that if you send them to a martial arts class (like Tae Kwondo or Ju Jutsu) where the teacher is strict about 'parent respect' they follow the orders of the teacher. I think this is because when they learn martial arts they become fearful of the teacher.

I have met many kids in martial arts - they all respect their parents very openly.

Answer 8

We tolerate what we allow.
Spare the rod,spoil the child

These two are my favorite sayings.
Parents allow this to happen is the main reason for the disrespect for other adults from children.
When I was growing up my parents gave me " the look ",get ready for a good azz whipping !
Nowday the kids give their parents " the look ".
I just had a 6th grader threaten me yesterday in class that he was going to kick my azz.I replied when I got in his face
" Go ahead,then it's my turn ".He backed off and was stunned by what I told him :)
That's a great question ! !

Answer 9

i just had my baby boy...and i have already made it clear that i know my position in the family. i've acknowledge that my son will have enough friends to go around, so why would he need me as a friend? he only have one mom...and that's me. therefore i should act like his mom. don't think that being a mom means that you're always gonna lecture, teach, and discipline all day long. you can still get along and still get that respect without having to go to the "friend" position.

Answer 10

Do you live in America? If so, try living in England. If respect has ever so much as brushed households there, I would be surprised. Respect is a bigger thing in the States. Believe me, if you are/were ever a mom over there, you'd be a goner. If you already live there, I'll go to your funeral.