I'm a 18 years old girl and i need all the advice that i can get. Me and mom don't get along and everytime that we talk we fight becasue of the fact that 18. My mom don't like my friends or my boyfriend and she thinks that everyone is a bigger promble for me. the more that i go out the more she is thinking that i'm doing drugs, and having sex. i'm not doing drugs, but i did have with my boyfriend. i can't tell her this because she will tell my family and then they would make a bigger problem out it. she thinks that my boyfriend is a trouble maker and he is not. my mom thinks that my friends and boyfriend is a bad influence.
2006-09-14 14:58:59 · 13 answers · asked by May S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take your mother out somewhere without your boyfriend and just spend the time doing stuff she rarely gets to do! Walk in with a smile and an "I love you" hows your day been mum? Sometimes when you are 18 it is all ME ME ME If she's on your back... to me she's putting in the hard yards and obviously loves you heaps! Give some back! It's not all beer and skittles being a mum, give it a go .. see what happens!
2006-09-14 15:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through the same stuff with my mom when I was 18. Whenever we talked we were fighting! You know what sucks? Turns out that she was right about most of teh stuff even though I still won't tell her! I can't really tell you what will make things better. Try to have a heart to heart with her. Tell her that how her accusing you of things is hurting you. Also tell her that you feel like you cannot tell her things without her telling the other family members. Explain you don't want to fight all the time. Most importantly do this maturely without a lot of drama and emotion. I can't promise this will work, but it's worth a try. My mom is my bestfriend now (I'm 26) although there are days she still gets on my nerves=) Good luck!
2006-09-14 15:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by priss879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents generally do not become suspcious unless they have just cause.
Most think the best of their children and wish the best for them.
However it is much easier to see things in a clearer picture when outside of the circumstance.
Such as the person another person may be seeing.....just like you do not understand why some girls give some guys the time of day.
Ugh to you - dream to another.
Perhaps she sees him disrespecting you - things you allow that you would not with someone else, perhaps a friend.
Friends do tend to lead other friends......it is easy to copycat someone in order to be liked or accepted.......what you are copycating is where the danger comes in.
Most likely both of you are talking but not really listening to each other.....it takes patience and time.
Try to remember that life is short and you need to treasure the time you and your mom have together - even when you do not see eye to eye.
Friends and boyfriends may come and go.....but your mom is your mom.
She is there for you - just give her a chance ..... just as you would anyone you thought much of.
2006-09-14 15:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might take her out to consume or make her a remarkable lunch/dinner and tell her whilst ya'll are eating. basically tell her which you have some thing which you would be able to inform her and which you're terrified of what she would be able to think of and which you do no longer % to enable her down....then lay it out for her. i might additionally % to declare congratulations!! a toddler is unquestionably one of those blessing and you're doing the remarkable project! :) do no longer concern approximately all the unfavourable issues remarkable now the two. you have a job interview and a boyfriend, so which you would be positive. Your mom will probable be kinda very much shocked/shocked yet then she would be able to be ecstatic as time is going on!! mothers will love you be responsive to remember what. a newborn is a gorgeous project. you're 25 so i do no longer see how your mom could desire to be that disillusioned the two! basically relax and get you some prenatal supplements ASAP! wish this facilitates and good luck!! :)
2016-11-07 08:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and the first time you experienced drugs was when? and with whom? i see why mom thinks he is a trouble maker. he sounds like a loser and someone who doesn't really care about you. if he did, he would have not let you use drugs and drag you down where he is. as far as your mom ... you only get one. because the BOTH of you do not talk to each other, neither one of you know what is going on. try spending more time with mom and less time with BF. make the effort to get to know your mom. ask her who she is and who she was when she was your age. a good conversation over a burger/tea/coffee can work wonders. it is worth a try - she's your mom.
2006-09-14 15:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by mss_candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel say this to her "mom I need to talk to you why can't we talk without arguing i want to share things with you that are going on in my life but you make it hard because you don't listen to me " then take it from there you mom cares about you she just don't want to see you get hurt or anything you're 18 she has been where you are at you should listen to her she is probably right about your friends when you get to be her age you are gonna wish you had listened to her
2006-09-14 15:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your mom just loves you and wants the best for you. ( I have an 18 year old daughter) I'm always afraid she will get into trouble. You need to tell her that you are trying to make good choices , even if your friends don't and that she needs to trust you. Be nice to her, it's hard to see your child turn into an adult and not need a parent anymore. Please make sure you use a condom.
2006-09-14 15:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents know better I am sorry...BUT.....Have u tried to talk 2 any one else in ur family.....like grandmother...or ur dad...someone that u can trust and that will sit down and listen to you..but dont blame ur mum...cos she is only looking out for ur best interests....and...take it easy on having sex...cos then if u dont use protection...then there will be a bigger problem,like baby...ok....so just think and see if u can try and sit down with ur mum and talk....if not..then talk to someone that is trusting and will listen...good luck.:)
2006-09-14 15:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mother or 2 teenager myself, I am always concerned about who my kids are hanging out with. I make sure that their friends are welcome at our house. That way I can see how they act. A parent can get a pretty good idea what a kid is like. We're smarter than you think.
2006-09-14 15:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by SusieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't pick up the phone!
or if you have to, be quick. say ''hey mom i have to go study for an exam tomorrow! bye"
as for your boyfriend, tell her that you are an adult. you are not financially dependent on her.
so she can stop this stupid sh!t about you and your adult relationships.
good luck!
2006-09-14 15:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋