we both said some nasty stuff to each other last night. when she started raising her voice at me and what i felt as her insulting my intelligence (my perception not necessarily true) i told her i wanted her to get out of my car which she did....got in her car and we both went our seprerate ways. i did leave a voice mail apologizing to her and that i was out of line and should have been more respectful. I didnt call her today and she didnt call me.....any thoughts as to what i should do?
2006-09-14 14:55:01 · 6 answers · asked by drisco21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A great deal of begging is in order.
Make sure she does it.
2006-09-14 14:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had this situation come up.... with a friend of mine.
First off, people deal with things in different ways so you have to decide which way she likes to handle things and make your decision based on that....
Is she the type of person that likes to work things out right away and doesn't like to let things simmer for a while? Or is she the type of person that likes to walk away from the table to debrief and to come down from the emotions before coming back and talking about things. I personally am the latter and if someone tries to get me to talk about it now, I either end up getting more angry because they won't let me leave, or I say something I don't mean or I surrender to the other person and let them win the argument just so that I don't have to deal with it any longer.
On the other hand, if I have the time to de-escalate, then I can reapproach the situation with a clear mind and can have an adult conversation with the other person and the emotions that were there when I was angry no longer play a role in the conversation.
I do know people that have to resolve things right away. They refuse to go to bed until it's settled, make up or break up.
I'm not sure if either way is better but I know that when you are on an emotional high, things don't always work out the way you intended.
2006-09-14 22:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by neurotic3109 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use this as lesson # 1 for your next relationship. I would also recommend that you learn to listen to what is being said, and not take words expressed in a heated manner as a personal attack rather some thing you may need to know
2006-09-14 22:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to her and give her flowers and a card and tell her you don't want to fight. but if this happens again i would take a step back and make sure she can apologize too. don't always do the apologizing. good luck!
2006-09-14 21:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by risarae2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go buy her some flowers and nice apology card take it to her and begg for her forgiveness good luck
2006-09-14 21:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her Roses and say your sorry and she was right (even if she was wrong) .
2006-09-14 22:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Richard R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋