Right after I broke up with my ex-bf of 4 yrs, I met another guy. After I already went out 2 dates with him, my ex came bk to me & wanted to work out again before he left for 3 weeks business trip. I told him we'll talk when he gets back. I was still seeing the other guy while my ex's on the trip. I do like the other guy, i think he likes me alot as well (least that's what he told me). We both felt we'd strong connection and it's the way we never felt before. I've been reserved emotionally and sexually because my ex is still on my mind (even though I really like this guy, almost couldn't believe I met this man cuz he's 2 good to be true). Now my ex is back and he's sick from the trip. I feel guilty to bring up the talk, so i've been still seeing my ex and taking care of him while he's sick. My ex tells me how much he luvs me & wants me 2 trust him . One of reasons I left before bcuz we didn't have solid plan for the future, I was tired of waiting. we'd sex once after he's back
2006-09-14 14:36:01 · 10 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd broken up with him before for the same reason. He keeps telling me we will, but no action. I'm just not so trusting anymore. I don't know if i should believe him anymore...i feel my love for him have been drifting away because of this
2006-09-14 14:45:06 · update #1
This current guy doesn't know my ex is still around. he thinks we broken up long time ago
2006-09-14 14:46:57 · update #2
YOU DONT NEVER LET NOBODY BACK IF THEY DONT KNOW THE FUTURE ON WHO OR WHAT THEY WANT HE WENT AND TESTED THE WATERS AND NOT IT WASNT LIKE HE EXPECTED IT LEAVE HIS SICK *** BEHIND AND GO ON WITH THE KNEW GUY AS FAR AS THE SEX HE WAS TESTING TO SEE IF HE CAN STILL GET IT AND IF YOU ARE STILL GULABLE FOR HIS **** IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN DONT MESS UP AGGOD THING
2006-09-14 14:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I read you've been seeing this Guy, your Ex for four years (4) years??? Is there a WEDDING in the NEAR future at all????
He needs you now because he's sick. Is he saying that he LOVES YOU and wants you to Marry him and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you or is he saying that He Loves how you're taking care of him, and performing WIFELY duties, having sex with him and everything, loving you because not too many Women would do that so he's Loving you because you're not forcing the issue of Marriage where you can maintain some form of Self Respect?
What are his intentions insofar as the future? Then again like the saying goes, "WHY MARRY THE COW WHEN THE MILK IS FREE"?
I would probably give the other guy a chance...not having intimate relations though because some people can't handle emotional upsets and you don't want to end up with a FATAL ATTRACTION JUST IN CASE YOU CAN'T GET OVER YOUR EX AND END UP BACK WITH HIM, plus, sex is better between married people and you won't feel used afterwards because it is a Husband and Wife duty towards each other.
I suggest giving yourself to the LORD and let him direct your path..this sounds like a problem for him. Pray about it.
Let us know, "When's the Wedding".
2006-09-14 22:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what it is that you want.
You broke up with your ex because he wasn't willing to commit to a future. What makes you think he is now?
If you are dating someone, you have no business playing "house" with your ex. It is simply not acceptable or responsible or plain out FAIR to the new man in your life.
Put the shoe on the other foot - put yourself in your new man's position and see how this looks to you. Are you so willing to hurt him this way?
2006-09-14 21:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should make a clear decision as to who will be right for you. It would be considered cheating if you are sleeping with someone else other than the "current" man. Having said that, you must remember that the new man cares for you too(this is what I gather from your question), your ex has to learn from his own mistakes and not keep making them. He may be sick, but you have someone new now.
2006-09-14 21:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have spent a lot of time with this guy. Even though you may like the other guy a lot, you may just think he is great. Tell the other guy what is up...you aren't quite over your ex and you just want to be honest with him. If he really wants to be with you, then he will let you and your ex have a clean break. Just don't lead him on.
2006-09-14 21:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in almost the exact same position u r right now..and i have to say that i went for it with the "current guy"in my situation..not my ex...and it was the best decision i have ever made..u have to move forward in life not backwards..just make a decision on which one makes u the happiest and the one u connect with..and the most sincere..and go for it with him..and tell the other as soon as possible..and everything will clear up for u..let the happiness begin...good luck..
2006-09-14 22:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by PAULA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want your ex back and he is an ex for an reason and this other guy not going to wait around along time for you to make up your mind your ex wants you back cause he probably heard you found some one new so you need to decide good luck
2006-09-14 21:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt make this other guy ur boyfriend b cause if sumtin happens then u will b hurting the other guy because u still have love for ur ex boyfriend.
2006-09-14 21:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by LaTasha A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u r still confused ..... decide what u want/need from either of these guys and then u must let one know the situation n not drag them thru the mud
2006-09-14 21:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well instead of telling us why you left your ex why dont you sit down with him and talk about your future, tell him what you want and if he isnt ready to committ to you then tell him to get back to you when he is.
2006-09-14 21:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋