You get your very own mini-me to indoctrinate with your personal beliefs at a young age and help you to transform the world! What's more cool than that?
2006-09-14 14:35:16 · 22 answers · asked by Lisa 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I've read a lot of posts lately where people ask why everyone wants kids so badly when we live in such a cruel world, it's going down hill, it's overpopulated, there are children who need to be adopted, yadda yadda yadda. I find this VERY hard to believe that these people really feel this way. I think it goes much deeper than that, and they're using these reasons for not having kids as an excuse.
Then again, there are people who truly don't want children, and it's mainly for selfish reasons (from what I've read). Not enough time for kids, love to work, want to travel and don't want to be "burdened" etc.
2006-09-14 18:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all I do not see my children as mini versions of myself. I do not indoctrinate them with my personal beliefs. I educate them so they can develop their own beliefs. I do not expect them to be me. I want them to be happy, healthy INDIVIDUALS.
Also, some people just don't want to take on the responsibility of kids. I can totally respect that. Some people are set in their ways. They like their lifestyle. The don't want to have to be responsible for someone else. I can totally understand. I'm the mom of 2 with 1 on the way and I wouldn't trade my kids for anything but I can very much understand the appeal of a childless lifestyle and I respect people who know themselves well enough not to have kids. I don't respect those that would rather not have them but cave to societies pressure to procreate just because you can.
2006-09-14 14:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
-Its just someones personal preference. Some people like going to the mountains instead of the beach for vacations. This is the same idea. Some people really enjoy their freedom & don't want to be tied down to 18 years of caring for a child. Some people can't financially or emotionally handle it. Some people have no family to help with babysitting while they work. There are a lot of reasons. But I agree. I'm working on baby #3. I think they are fantastic.
2006-09-14 14:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by IMHO 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sounds good but my desire to have children is held in check by my desire to do what I want when I want.
My desire to keep money in my pocket and my bank account balances out any thought of a financial obligation that will last for EIGHTEEN YEARS.
Not only that, but I have absolutely no wish to be forced into some kind of relationship that I can do just as well without. If I want companionship, I'll buy a dog.
As it stands, I'm self-employed, loaded and content to do whatever I damned well please. I don't have to answer to anybody for anything. I can fly to Europe, spend an hour on the beach reading a book and fly all the way back for no other reason save than I goddamned felt like it.
Why would I want to trade that for a nagging *****, child support, shitty diapers and what basically amounts to a prison sentence? As far as I'm concerned, that's all it really is-
A lifetime bond of involuntary servitude.
2006-09-14 14:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some people know that they would not be good parents. Would you rather those people have children and beat them or neglect them? Also some people who had terrible childhoods are afraid to repeat the mistakes their parents inflicted upon them. And there are some who believe that there are enough people in this world that they don't need to help populate the world more.
But as a parent there is nothing more amazing then raising a child.
2006-09-14 14:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's an easy one for me to answer. My first wife whom I was with for 13 years, did not want kids, why? Easy. She saw other people with kids and how unhappy they were, not to mention the time lost alone with each other; and her relationship with her mother, and their conflicts that they had with one another.
And keep dreaming, not you, me, my mom or my grandmother of years ago, can ever transform the world; whether you mentioned that in jest, remember we all wanted to change the world at some point in our lives.
Lastly, having children is no joke; I am remarried with a soon to be 12 year old stepson, believe me it is no picnic and he is a handful, not to mention very immature.
Godspeed.
2006-09-14 14:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by LLOYD S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A child is his or her own person from birth. They are a huge responsibility and very time consuming and expensive. Some people aren't willing to make the sacrifice or aren't ready for it. I think it's great some people are that in touch with themselves that they can make a decision like that.
I know too many people who treat their kids like pets.
2006-09-14 14:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
URBANISATION - makes wanting kids something that's become practically unappealing. Women want total independence so want to earn their own $$ so, no energy/time/help to have them. N many kids have to struggle in this extremely competitive world of today ....... besides, marriages r frequently not permanent bcos in this century, women don't want to be their husband's shadow anymore, viz it's no longer a man's world, guys !!!
2006-09-14 14:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by PikC 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two grown children, both of them have decided not to have children. Why ? One reason is they know that any children will be worse than they were. And reason two with the way things are now in our world no way do they want to bring a life into it.
2006-09-14 14:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by red dragon 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
some people, like my brother-in-law had very bad experiences growing up. Watch his dad cheat all kinds of B.S. made him feel that he did not want to be in that kind of position to influence others. Sorry but true.
2006-09-14 14:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by auhunter04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋