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my friend has not eaten in 4 days and i am really worried i told her that she needs to eat something but i cant be by her side all day to make sure she eats
i told her that if she thinks she is fat then she should work out and eat some food that is good for her
what else should i tell her

2006-09-14 14:21:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

18 answers

Well, to be honest about it you should tell an adult. If she is not helped this could turn into a serious problem. I am a teacher and if there is a teacher at school that you feel comfortable talking to then you should. Most teachers will be willing to help you and your friend.

2006-09-14 14:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by beta_slave 2 · 1 0

You should tell her that you're afraid she's going to die if she doesn't eat, and you have no choice but to tell an adult. If you know of an adult that she may prefer you tell then that's the one to contact. Tell her that you don't want to go behind her back, and that's the only reason you're telling her what you plan to do. Ask her if there's any particular adult she prefers you talk with. Tell her you know this is dangerous, and you know this isn't something you are capable of dealing with.

You aren't her mother, and you can't be taking on the worries of what she does or doesn't do. I don't know if this is wise "psychological advice" because I'm not a doctor, but it would seem to me that if she's getting you to be all worried about her and talking to her about eating she's getting a certain type of attention from you that not eating shouldn't be getting her from a friend.

After you talk to her about your needing to tell the adult of her choice (and if there isn't one then talk to the school guidance person), and after you tell someone, then don't talk to her about eating again. If she's not too angry at you and you still hang out tell her you will talk about anything other than eating. If, by any chance, she does get angry and stays away from you for a while; that's just how it has to be. Its better that a friendship be strained than that a young person die 70 years earlier than she should.

2006-09-15 00:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0 0

How old is she? There are special diets for teenagers.Avoiding eating is not the solution and makes things worse.
Here is my advice:
1- For breakfast,50grams bread + 20grams Cheese+1 tea spoon honey or jam
2- 3 or 4 cube sugar daily
3- about 8 glasses of water daily
4- for lunch 12 spoons of rice + stew (If you do not eat rice you can have bread with your lunch that contains meat +vegetables)
You can have 1/4 a pullet + cooked vegetables
5- Dinner: There are several options for each night : cheese+bread+vegetables
Cooked vegetables
bread+youghurt
1 cooked egg
1 night you are free to eat
6- Chocolate/chips/Cheese puffs/ sweet/candy/ . . . are forbidden
7- You should eat half a kilogram fruit but banana once a week.
8- you should have some vitamin pills.Vitamins will make you thinner and healthier.Multivitamins: daily
" After 1 months you will loose 4 kilograms"

2006-09-18 09:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lili 3 · 0 0

Depending on her age you need to go to her parents.

I had a friend in Jr. High. We wer close friends. I swore we would have been friends till death aprted us. He had told me that he had not ate in 3 days. I told him that if he didnt eat within 24hrs I would tell someone. He told me that its his life and he had the right to put whatever he wanted into his body (or lack of.)

I called my youth pastor (right after that convo) I didnt give him 24hrs. He called his parents. His dad was a doctor and still never cought this. They took him to the Er and he was admitted in the hospital for 72 hours because of how bad he had gotten.

He never talked to me again...but atleast he was ok and alive. 5 years ago I ran into him at a store and he said "Hey Tasha, I just wanted to say Thank You." He gave me a hug and walked away. That was the first time I had seen him in like 4 years.

Do what is healthy and best for your friend.

2006-09-15 00:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Natasha 2 · 0 0

Talk to her parents or your parents if your parents and her parents know each other then your parents could talk to her parents for you. You are so right you can not make her eat but she needs some sort of Adult help in this area. Tell her that she must eat something as she will get very very sick if she does not. Good luck

2006-09-15 00:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0 0

i have a 16 year old daughter who thinks she is fat and on occasion she starves herself and i have noticed the more me and dad make an issue and fuss about her eating, the more she digs her heels in. see if you all cant go to the gym together a couple of times a week . the bigger a deal you make of it, the more adamant she will be come. use reverse psychology and get her out and about, the pounds will soon fall off. hope this helps

2006-09-18 08:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to talk to her parents or another trusted adult. Your friend may have anorexia which is a disease and she will need proffessional help. I know you don't want to seem like a snitch, but anorexia can be deadly and in the end she will thank you. You are a good friend!

2006-09-14 21:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by priss879 2 · 0 0

Tell that she will die if she keeps this up. And since she hasn't eaten in so long . have her start with something simple like hot cereal, lukewarm. Otherwise shes going to be in for stomach pain .

2006-09-14 21:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by joy 3 · 1 0

Taker her to the doctors for a mental eval, and some serious care. Just by telling her these things isnt going to help. She needs help from professionals.

2006-09-14 21:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by crzyfiregirls 2 · 0 0

To not eat is dangerous, you can mess up your system and even if you dont eat get fatter, also its not healthy and its better to work out.

2006-09-14 21:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by DREAMER 2 · 0 0

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