I'm REALLY jealous, b/c my girlfriend's old bf left town and now he's back. I didn't even know they had a relationship, and so it makes me feel like it was a secret. I just wish I could get rid of these feelings, b/c I can't focus on anything else. Every time I try to do something I just think about how I'm jealous of her and his relationship, and the possibility of her leaving me for him.
2006-09-14 14:05:50 · 11 answers · asked by Ian D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to turn jealousy in to positive feelings. don't get caught up with what happend in the past with her and try to make her focus on you the present, and you the future. If she didn't tell you, no big deal. Sometimes its painful to mention something about ur past, even to a loved one or maybe it was so insignificant, that its not worth mentioning. Make sure you acknowlegde that you love her and appreciate her all the time. Do little things, like buying her a gift or tell her that you love her, and don't give her a chance or excuse to even think about her ex. If you want, talk to her about the way you feel and try not to get upset with what she says, because if you let anger overcome you, itll only make a small matter into a blazing inferno. Stay cool man, and i hope it works out.
2006-09-14 14:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by animagus85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- jealousy is normal and even shows that you care about someone- but too much jealousy is NOT good. But do you even know anything about their relationship, because chances are it probably wasn't a secret but it just wasn't important. Have you ever told her anything about your past gf's? And DO NOT deal with jealousy with making her jealous. That is just stupid. Is she even talking to him or seeing him? Unless she is all over him or talking to him or something- you should not take it offensively that he exists and in the same area as your gf. If you really want to deal with it- then talk to her about it, but don't get defensive especially if you don't know the details of the situation. So please- calm down and don't do anything out of jealousy of your girlfriend leaving you for another guy, that might just screw up the relationship you do have. If you both truly love each other you should listen to her, and you should trust her.
2006-09-17 18:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound bad but it works for me. Fight jealously with jealousy. Make her jealous. Instead of wasting your time and energy focusing on HOW jealous you are of them, start focusing some energy on talking to other girls JUST AS FRIENDS and do it in front of her. It will make you feel better and talking to these other girls will get your mind off of them. Your not doing anything bad, but HEY the jealous door swings both ways.
2006-09-14 21:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf has the same prob..he smtimes afraid that my former close male friends get so close and i leave him 4 them..it's all about making him secure and ur gf shud try too.it's normal 2 b that jealous cuz i know that if i was in my bf's place i'll b so jealous.
all u both can do is secure each other and give her ur total trust if u really love her..if u think that ur jealousy is too much u shud leave
2006-09-14 21:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous because you know you aint as good as this other guy and it makes you want to cry like a little girl. Dont humiliate yourself any more you probaly dont measure up. Girls see that and you look weak and then they dont respect you and you will lose her anyway. Be a man act right.
2006-09-14 21:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by the_wire_monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all because you are afraid shes going to leave for him. But im sure thats not the case at all. you are just insecure. You need to trust her and focus on you and her. Forget about him. If she really loves you then you have nothing to worry about. stop stressing
2006-09-14 21:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she willing to leave you, or is she willing to stay by you? I hate it, but it must be one of those tests. I always hoped that I don't get a heartbreak that's really bad. I wish the same for everybody too.
2006-09-14 21:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it or end the relationship. Jealousy is lack of trust and that is no relationship.
2006-09-14 21:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is a very great disaster,obstacle n barrier in every relationship.i think u should ask ur gf all about it and make her sincere so that it will off ur mind and not depride u from so many thing.
2006-09-14 21:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need cto sit down and talk with your girlfriends about any issuses you have and get them out in the open and as far as her old boyfriend got any questions then ask her and that should relieve your jealousy good luck
2006-09-14 21:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋