Last night while i was sleeping my 15 year old daughter took my car without asking, she only has her permit. There was over 300 miles put on it. I am so upset with her and i don't know how to handle it. If anyone has any suggestions on what kind of punishment i should give her i would appreciate it.
2006-09-14 13:57:50 · 18 answers · asked by ~*á?¦Kileaá?¦*~ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give her a punishment that will make her also have to build responsibility. Make it her job to wash the car. Take away her phone privileges. Be really harsh on her for like 2 days, no phone no TV. But let her know why you are disappointed in her. The worst things that parents do when they are angry with their children is NOT tell them what has made them angry. You are angry that she took you car, not just because she took it, but because she could have been killed and you would have thought she was still in the house, sleep. Or that she could have gone somewhere and something bad could have happened. Let her know what you expect of her. After the 2 days of harsh treatment and a week or more of another punishment, tell her that if she can build your trust you will let her borrow the car to visit a friend, on the weekend for a few hours. Monitor the mileage and see if she is truthful about where she has been. But was a young woman, I once put 150 miles on my mom's car just riding around town. If you go up and down every block riding with a friend you would be surprised how many miles you can put on car.
2006-09-14 13:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
they could probable get charged with underaged employing or operating a motorized vehicle without acceptable license. in basic terms getting stuck employing with no license and being lower than elderly is a minor offense, the first time. it would want to impact even as he can get his actual license contained in the destiny. he will also probable ought to pay an excellent and do community service. The court docket can make him attend childrens crew remedy if there are some underlying psychological topics. If this isn't his first offense which will also impact how he's sentanced. also if the automobile develop into suggested stolen then it really is grand robbery automobile, not a minor offense. Then if he ran from the law enforcement officials or did not pull over quickly then he might want to nicely be charged with eluding and likely legal fleeing. If any of those 3 word he will maximum likely do time in juvy or perhaps perhaps tried as an grownup. it would also remember if there have been any difficulty unlawful contained in the automobile - drugs, alcohol.
2016-11-26 23:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by sicinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is good to remember that you were her age once. Something you should do is maybe not punish her, but actually sit down with her, and tell her you love her,. That no matter what she does against your wishes you will always be her mother, and there for her when she needs you. Tell her also that next time sha should simply ask you, then respect your decision, but try to meet in the middle with her so that you are both happy. Whatever you do dont lose your temper. If you do she will only lose trust in you. I know this all too well. Me and my mother came to really bad terms when I was younger. Now she is sick, and all those years I missed out on with her are gone, and I cant get those few precious years as a teenager back. Good luck. Just remember she is your flesh, and blood, and you love her, she loves you.
2006-09-14 14:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a 15 year old myself, I feel that was really stupid but we're still teenagers and we make mistakes. We also want to feel some type of power so sometimes driving helps a lot. I mean maybe it's the only thing she can control in her life? I'm not sure about the predicament but ask her why she did it and what she, herself, thinks the punishment should be. Also ask for her to pay for the gas fee that she had.
2006-09-14 14:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by killmenow 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My brother did the same thing...only he went to a party and was drinking...drove my father's pick up into a tree...and he didn't even have a permit...
I had seen him do this a few other times..when my parents weren't home and I warned him about what could happen!! He's lucky he only hit a tree and broke his wrist and had a few cuts and brusies...The truck?! Totalled...
My father had my brother report himself to the police and he wasn't allowed to get his permit or his license until he turned almost 18...
Tell her what the consequense are...YOU could lose EVERYTHING if she had hit and killed someone...(I know she wasn't drinking..but she can't be an expert driver yet!?) But accidents happen...keep her from getting her license for awhile..THAT WILL HIT HOME!
2006-09-15 02:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. My step son took our car when he was 13. We did nothing. He took it a second time and hit a parked car. He said he did it a second time because he didn't get in trouble for the first time. We still didn't call the police, because his mom didn't want him to get into trouble. Two weeks later he stole her ATM card, got the pin right, withdrew $500 and left for Missouri. I called the cops, we tracked him down, and he spent time in Juvenile. He has gotten into trouble since then, but every time we documented it with the police. If you can't stop her, then you need to protect yourself by getting the authorities involved. If not, you will be responsible for any damages, or deaths that might occur. Good luck!
2006-09-14 14:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son did this when he was 16. He lost all access to the car for a month and had to pay for the gas out of allowance. He never did it again.
2006-09-14 14:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Punishment....like wash and clean the car until she gets her regular license.
You should buy a wal-mart lock safe to put your keys in them. So that she isn't tempted again.
Take care and GOOD LUCK
2006-09-14 14:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest taking away her driving privileges for a year, make he start from the beginning with retaking the written test again. It isn't right she did that, so she should learn to be more responsible and start all over.
2006-09-14 14:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing hurts a teenager ready to get their license like hearing that they're not getting their license! I would tell her that she's not allowed to get it for 3/6/9/+ months after she's elligible. Plus that gives you the opportunity to add on if she does something like that again.
2006-09-14 14:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by jax 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋