How come I cannot find my soulmate? It's the only thing I've ver wanted my whole life was a family and my prince charming. God did make me half way pretty and I do believe in God Jehova, but I swear, sometimes I wonder how come God made life so hard for me and still yet so easy for others. I was born and raised in a household with an extremely abusive father. We moved to a new town when I was twelve, and my parents were always alot better at making enemies than friends. So, a lot of people in that town ended up not liking me based on decisions my parents made. My parents kicked me out of the house at 14 and I ended up in foster care where I bounced around from house to house until I was 17 and became emancipated. When I was 18 I met who I thought was my soulmate and stayed with him and lived with him until I was 22, then he ate 40 hits of LSD at one time and eventually blew his own brains out. Now I'm a 27 year old single mother with 2 great kids and no man, Why???????????????
2006-09-14 13:53:15 · 22 answers · asked by Tammy C 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Think about this. God isn't going to give you a gift your not ready for. If he brought your soul mate and you were ready then it would be a throw away. try trusting that God knows your needs wants and desires. when you are ready to maintain them He will give them to you. Learn, Love , Grow and Teach.
2006-09-14 13:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are not cursed, and you weren't meant to be blessed with a million dollars and the perfect man either. You're in the school of hard knocks. You will find the right guy, but I wouldn't go looking for him at the moment. Work on raising those two kids with all the love and devotion you can. Try to look at everything you do from a different perspective and always strive to make the right choice. Sometimes when you are handed a rough hand, it's easy to let that control you and perpetuate a circle of suffering. When you can leave all of that negativity behind, some guy is going to look at you someday and just be amazed at what a beautiful person you are inside and out, because you'll have two great kids, have gone through alot of obstacles and still come out smiling.
Even the most perfect flower has to rise above the dirt in order to see the sun.
2006-09-14 14:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you would feel this way, after all that you've been thru. Sometimes I wonder this too, and I've had a hard back ground too. But this I do know: The Lord does love you very much. He doesn't cause these things to happen, but He will use them for good somehow. I expect some day you will be able to sympathize with anyone who has any kind of a problem! There won't be anything that you won't be able to understand when you hear of hard times someone is going thru, you are very valuable with your background in the work of the Lord!
The Lord knows what you need, and just talk to Him about it, He will give you answers, maybe your children need you full time right now, or maybe you need this time to be unattached. It takes a life time to heal, when you've had a life like this, I know, I'm still healing too. It is a life long process and it makes us grow. Be encouraged and know that it is alrite, He loves you and sees you and your children, talk with Him about everything.
2006-09-14 14:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are compromising too much for one thing. If the one you felt was your soul mate was CAPABLE of eating 40 hits of LSD, he's NOT your soul mate and never was. You have 2 great kids, like you said. Anyone who is involved in illegal substances needs to be kept far from you and your children. Think about what your father was like. If you find someone who has ANY of those qualities, you need to step back.
Secondly, don't 'hunt' for a man. The best relationships, and the ones that last longest are the one's that come out of strong friendships. Be friends with the men you meet first. Then let that relationship grow into something more if it's meant to. You can never force a romance to work, so be patient.
2006-09-14 14:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know Jobe asked why me too. Our trials and tribulations are unique to each of us and some have the worst while others have it easy. There isn't any reasoning in this life why things go the way they do, just have the knowledge and faith that whatever you go thru, however difficult it may be, you can see it for what it is and find or fight your way out of it. Courage, stubbornness and hard work will see you thru almost anything. If other ppl don't like you count your blessings because there aren't that many ppl out there that can be true in a friendship. Don't worry about finding your soul mate. Chances are they are looking for you too and if you are truly meant to be together nothing in the universe will stop it. Relax, there is another day coming.
2006-09-14 14:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
read what ya just wrote and ask yourself if you have been on a path that your idea of a soulmate would be on?
I am sorry for you hard life, I can't imagine your pain, but it's not too much pain for God to make something good out of!! We have a big God: Isa 40:12-18
Who has measured the waters in the hollow of his hand,
or with the breadth of his hand marked off the heavens?
Who has held the dust of the earth in a basket,
or weighed the mountains on the scales
and the hills in a balance?
13 Who has understood the mind [d] of the LORD,
or instructed him as his counselor?
14 Whom did the LORD consult to enlighten him,
and who taught him the right way?
Who was it that taught him knowledge
or showed him the path of understanding?
15 Surely the nations are like a drop in a bucket;
they are regarded as dust on the scales;
he weighs the islands as though they were fine dust.
16 Lebanon is not sufficient for altar fires,
nor its animals enough for burnt offerings.
17 Before him all the nations are as nothing;
they are regarded by him as worthless
and less than nothing.
18 To whom, then, will you compare God?
What image will you compare him to?
yes indeed we have a big God, but not one who is too big either: Isa 40:11
He tends his flock like a shepherd:
HE GATHERS THE LAMBS IN HIS ARMS
AND CARRIES THEM CLOSE TO HIS HEART;
HE GENTLY LEADS THOSE THAT HAVE YOUNG.
we are his lambs, call on him, ask him to hold you close to his heart, you cannot imagine the comfort. pray for "a" husband, and at the same time pray for "him" that he would be a Godly man who knows how to love, and lead his family. and for yourself, draw near to God and he will draw near to you.
2006-09-14 14:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The concept of soulmate is not a Christian concept. Christ taught that when two people marry it is a worldly act. They join as one flesh, but when one dies they return as they were before. The bible only mentions two kinds of love between spouses, erotic love, which is the physical expression between married people, and fraternal love, love we are suppose to share with all of our brothers and sisters in this world for we are all childrwn of God.
Putting marriage before others and especially, prioritizing it above everything even God, is idolatry and is wrong in the eyes of the world. "Love the Lord your God" and "Love your neighbor as yourself" are the two things a Christian should do in life, the second being only truly attained when the first is accomplished. Jesus was God , he is our example, he loved the world equally those who will be saved and those who would be condemned.
Matthew 19 (Regarding Marriage)
4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh' 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
Matt 22:29 (Regarding Widows)
Jesus replied, "You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.
My opinion as to why you are in your situation, it sounds as though you have not yet learned to cast all your anxiety on God (1 Peter 5:7), you worry about worldly things too much and do not focus on the things God wants, life in this world should not be "easy" for any Christian. Jesus said "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me", which means we must deal with the world that will be problematic for us even unto death, but with God it can be done. I'm sorry to hear you never married the man and that he is gone, unless you left that out, but you should focus on the here and now, first your relationship with God than your kids, than others, including family and friends. Hopefully you may plant the seeds of the Word into others hearts that they may be saved even if you cannot save yourself or those closest to you.
2006-09-14 14:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you spend too much time on how bad your life sucks, instead of making it better and being positive.
Nothing is less attractive than someone who whines about how tough it is. It is tough for everyone in one way or the other. Too many problems from a girl and I ran the other way. I didn't need the drama.
2006-09-14 13:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of the previous testomony Prophets mixed God's voices with their very own subconscious God-self voice , and so assumed that God advised them to have people killed , and so on . . yet maximum Christians , upon listening to or interpreting approximately Jesus have already executed the sin against the Holy Ghost for no longer in the present day making a easy covenant with the daddy that they are going to consistently obey all of Jesus' sayings ( greek text cloth ) no remember what . And it hurts Jesus plenty , because of the fact his as quickly as saved chum has long previous and decrease back to sinning , even after he gave his sacrificial witness as though it became in straightforward terms for him ; however the daddy consistently forgives ; yet they nonetheless could make that covenant .
2016-11-07 08:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't cursed. Some of us just have a harder time getting there than others, but your soulmate is out there, I promise you. Trust in God and don't give up hope.
2006-09-14 13:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋