Im 30 years old, and 6 months ago became single after a long relationship. Im trying to get out there and meet somebody new but i have found it really hard as the nightclubs in Leeds are full of very very young people and most of the pubs i have been in are full of very old people. I appear to be stuck in some sort of limbo just because im 30, can anybody recommend where i can meet somebody my own age or at least near my age because if they are around i appear not to be able to find them. Thankyou hopefully in advance. P.s if anybody wants to take the mickey out of me feel free and get your 2 points but please dont be too harsh.
2006-09-14 13:51:26 · 12 answers · asked by emergency_hammer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 30, just coming out of a long relationship myself. I feel that i'm at a great time in my life. I am way more confident with women than when I was in my 20's, and the swing in ages that are appropriate is fantastic. You can date from 21 to 40 with no problem. Don't be so pessimistic. It's a great time. The 20 somethings want more mature guys, and the 40 somethings are in the mood for a young guy. Feast on this opportunity, my man!
2006-09-14 14:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 shouldn't be an awkward age but you probably do need to start looking for different places to meet someone than you did when you were 18. Or rather start not looking. I'm 34 and I've had 3 relationships since I was 30 (including one I'm still in) and none of them are with someone I met in a bar or club. One was with a girl who worked for the same organisation - although she didn't work with me, which might have made life complicated. The other two were both friends of friends. My main piece of advice to you - stop hunting for the right person, cultivate your other friends and acquaintances (especially the ones with lots of friends you haven't met yet), get them to introduce you to their friends (not just the attractive ones), then, if you get one with their friends, start socialising with them too, and get them to introduce you to their friends. Build up a bigger social network, with more opportunities for meeting people, and, of course, be ready for potentially meeting the right person at any point in time. And above all never - NEVER - give off the vibe that you're desperate. It is totally counter-productive.
Best of luck!
2006-09-14 22:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by GC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my mid-30's and single... seriously stay away from the clubs, they are like meat markets, and the girls way too young, drunk and silly. Go to some good bars where the 30-something classier women hang out.
I was in Leeds not to long ago and found some great bars, although I can't remember what they were called now, sorry.
2006-09-15 02:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because by now you should have grown up and become a man. It appears you still have alot to learn. Most thirty year olds that have anything going for them are home with the wife and kid. You are still looking for something to make you feel good from the outside.
2006-09-14 20:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by the_wire_monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the supermarket, the gym, the swimming baths....online in a 30's room, theres lots of places you can go..going to the same places all the time is not gonna get you far...try looking in some different places other than clubs and pubs, meeting someone sober is very refreshing....
2006-09-14 21:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat it seems that they are all young in pubs/clubs and the only place to date is online of which im not a fan! dont look and they will arrive when you dont expect it!
2006-09-15 08:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by browntbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I see alot of guys your age around. Maybe you don't beacause you go to try and hook up which they are already are. Try the church, golf place or the pool, or just go to las vegas
2006-09-14 20:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till u hit 40 lol
2006-09-15 05:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by stephen d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey....I wish I knew....good luck!!
2006-09-14 20:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by lissad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunno, i can't help you out, i'm 37 and resigned to remaining a bachelor from now on.
2006-09-15 08:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by andylefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋