So there is this guy that i really like and my friends all think he is really wierd and annoying. and now he is interested in another girl. (he used to be obsessed with me..i hear from my friends) im so jealous! what do i do to get him back to me? i dont even know that i would be his girlfriend if he asked me. i dont want to hurt him and i dont just want the satisfaction of a guy wanting me. but i dont know! my friends dont like him, so i listen to my friedns but i secretly like him a lot! what do i do? am i shallow? is this wrong of me?
2006-09-14 13:41:26 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it is not wrong and you are not shallow. We all have this thing called 'pride'. It's not all bad, either. We have feelings of self-worth. Well, most of us do. Some of us don't have as much, but it's still there.
So it's okay if you want him or any guy to like you, it doesn't mean you have to be their girlfriend. It's natural. I'd like to be admired by many women myself! hehe!
2006-09-14 13:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong of you and I certainly don't think your a "shallow Hal." However, you certainly do have some conflicting feelings. On the one hand, you're not even sure you want him as your boyfriend even if he were to make himself vulnerable and tell you that he likes you in a special way and wants you to be his sweety. On the other hand, now that he's moved on, you're jealous because you can't have him. And to make things worse, it's more important to you what your friends think than how you really feel on the inside.
Let it go for now. But start being honest with yourself about how you feel and who you want to date. If your friends don't approve, so what. They'll either get over it and accept the one you want to be with or, in the event that they don't, then maybe they're not true friends. But please, don't try to win him back by sabotaging his relationship with this other girl. If it's meant to be, the right time will come again when you two will hook back up. And if he does come back, make your own mind up instead of having your "friends" dictate and define who you should or should not be seeing. Hang in there.
2006-09-14 14:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, and he's a good guy then forget the fact that you're friends think he's weird. You're dating him; not them. Haven't you ever heard skaterboy by avril? lol But, don't just get all jealous and want him back etc. if you really don't value the friendship/relationship etc. You are shallow if you ignore him or treat people a certain way just because your friends don't like them. Following the crowd isn't always the right thing to do. "Your heart is like a compass. It will always point you where to go, all you have to do is follow it." Stand up for what you like and believe in. If your friends don't like, or respect you for it then find new friends. :)
2006-09-14 13:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by justjerra_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think we all go through this. Be sure if you are going to tell him you like him that you will be his girlfriend. If not then don't say anything because that would make u very shallow. And you will lose any kind of contact with him. If anything you can be friends and maybe sometime down the road things will workout for you.
2006-09-14 13:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Brown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your question about being shallow. So my advise is this, be yourself and like who you want to like and not what these so called friends of your would want for you. Who knows you may get a new guy in your life and a true friend along the way.
Best to ya!
2006-09-14 13:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are stuck on yourself, which really makes you look ugly on the inside and on the outside, your just a broken barbie.
you want the attention, and he's right by not giving it to you, because you are more than just a waist of time. Don't get me wrong, your not suppose to easy and be POPULAR, I'm sure you have some morals about yourself and you in fact kind of like the guy, but your playing hard to get, and the end of that game is, keep playing hard to get and your not gonna get gotten. you will be the lonely lady in the park all dressed and made up and no one to share the time with.
2006-09-14 13:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends should accept you for who you are, if you like the guy then go out with him. True friends wouldn't care who you dated.
If you know you aren't really all that interested in him then don't waste his time, that -is- shallow. Go for guys you'd actually want to be a girlfriend to, not somebody you want just because your friends said he thought you were hot.
2006-09-14 13:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya its very shallow...your pretending to be someone your not by doing what your friends think is good. People would respect you a lot more in the long run if you just liked/talked to and dated who you liked...not who people think you should like. If you want him to like you but you dont even know if you'd date ihm, that also sounds shallow..like you like it cause its a self esteem boost but you dont take it seriously, you dont think about HIS feelings
2006-09-14 13:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah -- you like the attention and it's all about you. My guess is you'll do what satisfies you -- however --
just asking the question proves the point -- you are shallow and you know it and accept it!
I think you should go into acting!
2006-09-14 13:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say if you are shallow....you only know what is in your heart. But it sounds as though you may be caving in to peer pressure. That is a signal of insecurity. We all have to learn to be our own person. And part of being our own person is knowing what we like and dislike....and not caring what others think.
2006-09-14 13:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋