My father has abused me since I was very young. (about 5) He claims he hasn't done it, but even the rest of my family says he has. He denies doing anything wrong. So does that mean that I am the one doing something wrong?
2006-09-14 13:26:58 · 21 answers · asked by Broken_Inside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
THe thing is, I am only 12 about to be 13
2006-09-17 10:32:18 · update #1
OMG i am so sorry to hear this u should deff. go and tell someone u can trust and go get help immediatly because if u dont get help he will keep doing this no matter how much he says hes sorry or no matter if he days he wont do it again u just really need to get help
2006-09-14 13:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by droppantsnotbombs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? If you are a grown adult, you should probably find a way to put this all behind you. There comes a time when you just have to realize that you weren't at fault and that he will someday have to face reality. When he looks at himself in the mirror, he cannot lie to the face staring back at him. You are not doing anything wrong except expecting him to take responsibility for what he did. That will have to come from him on his own terms. I am sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I was raised by an abusive father as well and it took years before he and I could come to terms with what happend. I wish you all the luck!
2006-09-14 13:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO... you did nothing wrong. Being an abusive father, husband, signfigant other, etc... is a mental health condition. It's something that they can do and not remember or do and remember but not want to admit to. Being abusive isn't something to be proud of and most men or women for that matter won't admit to it. There's counseling they can go to. I know one program is called Men Against Violence. You will also have to go to counseling to learn to trust men again. I hope you get yourself out of this situation because it's very destructive and will eventually get worse and worse until you can't get out.
2006-09-14 13:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not doing anything wrong at all! you need to talk to your school counselor or a counselor in general. Trust me, I speak from experience.....I was physically and sexually abused from the age of 5 to 17.....its not your fault....get help.
2006-09-15 21:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Father beat me as a baby, it was painful for him and me.
When I ask my Dad about it, I was bigger than him. The memory was painful for my father, for there was no reason for what he had done.
In the beatings our Fathers told us we were bad. They were WRONG to beat us and WRONG to send us that message.
Our Fathers want it to go away, it will not.
Please feel free to email me CHAIRBINDER@Yahoo.com
There is real power in what you are feeling, that power is going to hurt, it has hurt all over it.
2006-09-14 13:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by chairbinder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who does the wrong thing usually denies it. why blame yourself. If you were mistreated to a certain extent then you were abused.
2006-09-14 13:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by im_a_goofy_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's in denial, and trying to hide the fact that he's abusive, since he could get into a lot of trouble for that, your not doing anything wrong, he is
2006-09-14 13:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-14 16:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that's what abusers want you to believe that your guilty and its your fault that's how they keep the abuse going trying to make you feel shameful you need to get help the abuse is only going to hurt you and make you a weak and bitter person you'll go Thur life not trusting anyone not even yourself
2006-09-14 13:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont EVER think you are doing something wrong
Your father is WRONG
Tell me where you live and ill come kick his sorry @ss
2006-09-14 13:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋