My boyfriend has become verbally abusive and I can no longer stay here with him. I'm really afraid as I already have anxiety and depression. I feel I have nowhere to turn now except for the streets. Please tell me what to do. I am so weak from not eating for two days as he's said he can no longer afford to feed me. I don't eat very much as it is. I'm down to 100 pounds at 5'7'' I'm 33 years old, unemployed and feel like my life is ending or that the streets will end up killing me. Please help. I feel like I'm no one at all anymore. I miss my mother who is in TN but cannot burden her any longer with my problems. I ask God to save me and I wait. Any advice at all is welcomed.
2006-09-14 13:22:59 · 11 answers · asked by peaceseeker 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Go to a WOMEN's shelter.
And don't wait until he kicks you out. Go today.
You obviously have a spirit and love within you. He doesn't.
Leave. Secretly pack as much as you can, take food with you and GO. RIGHT NOW.
Don't come back.
Look up shelters before you go so you know where to go.
Even if it's far away. Just walk and go. People are kinder than you boyfriend. They will help you.
And don't be afraid of burdening your mother. Unless she's abusive too, she's your mother and she will help you as best she can.
2006-09-14 13:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Homeless shelters keep you alive. You obviously got many more problems than just an abusive b/f. At 33 do you really want to be responsible for your life or keep to being a victim? I know all about abuse which I haven't for a long time allowed in my life. Right now you need a place to stay I understand. I have had to face the thought ONLY of being homeless once but it didn't happen for me so I can't tell you much about shelters. I can tell you that God didn't give you life to waste it nor live without. When anyone is sincere in their request/ I demand.... it is given. Don't lose hope every day brings about change. Blessed BE!!
2006-09-14 20:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mistolove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish Could help. I'm kinda facing the wolves at my door as well. I lost my job in June. My car has a broken trans, and I get collector calls every day..... Where are you at? Do you have any girlfriends or folks you went to school with you could crash at for a while? The hungry thing? Me too. Cup a Soup is the primary dish in my kitchen at the moment. Kinda cheap too... I would suggest you start going through you email address book and start calling in the favors....... I find Yahoo! is a good way to forget my problems for a while. Besides.... they cut off my Direct TV.
2006-09-14 20:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by lana_sands 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that "I ask God to save me and I wait." I don't know what you mean by that but if you have a relationship with God then you should ask God what He would have you do. Only Jesus Christ knows what is best for you. I guarantee you He does not want you to live with any man that you are not married to.
I don't know where you live but most large cities have homeless shelters.
The homeless shelters are there to help you get back on your feet. They will provide shelter, food, spiritual or psychological council, medical care, clothes, help or give you time to get a job. The shelters have a lot of rules to follow but they are not real hard to abide by if you have a cooperative spirit.
Homeless shelters are often full and they may put you on a waiting list. The only way to know is to call them and find out if they have room for you.
Also if you are too emotionally unstable they may not take you even if they do have room. They most likely will tell you to check yourself into an inpatient mental health hospital/ward and get yourself mentally stable and then come to the shelter.
Going home to your mom may not be a bad idea. Unless you have relationship problems then you might want to call her and let her know what is going on. She might suggest to you that you come home and try to get a job there. I am sure she would send you the money to get a bus ticket home.
If you don't want to bother your mom for money to come home on then look in the phone book for a place called "Traveler's Aid". This organization helps people who are stranded in their city with the finances to get where they need to go. Most of the time they buy you a bus ticket to your destination.
If your town doesn't have a Traveler's Aid organization then try calling the different churches in your area. Many churches have a benevolance fund. One of them might be willing to buy you a bus ticket home. Plus, they will give you some food if they have a food pantry and they will pray for you.
I have been homeless twice in my life. The first time was 32 years ago. I went home to live with my mother until I was able to move out on my own.
I was homeless again about 17 years ago. Instead of going home I lived in a homeless shelter for 5 months. It was not the end of the world. I survived. You can survive if you make the system work for you by obeying the rules and taking advantage of what they have to offer.
It is hard to know what is best for you at this time. Only God knows. That is why you should pray and ask your Heavenly Father in Jesus' name what you should do.
May God bless you!
P.S.
I gave an answer to your previous question regarding over the counter remedies for depression and anxiety after I answered the above question on homeless shelters. I hope you will take time to read what I wrote.
2006-09-15 00:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by starone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your mother, no matter how much pride you have. It's really the only good option. I know you feel you are burdening her, but I'm sure she won't feel that way. Homeless shelters are full of strangers. You need to be with someone who loves you. I will pray for you.
2006-09-15 01:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by pegasus_1174 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should not feel that you are putting a burden on your mom, if you miss your mom, you should call her and let her know what's going on and go back home to her, remember she is you mother and i know she will not turn you away, especially if she knew what was going on in your life right now. Get away from that jerk now and go stay at the shelter, It's not bad they will make you feel right at home. Good Luck
2006-09-14 20:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now please everyone don't get on my case I'm not trying to lead you to religion but is there a victory outreach church nearby? They may have a half way house you can go to. At least go there and ask for help the people are very kind and will give you food and try to find a place for you to stay.
2006-09-14 23:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find yourself with absolutely no other options, you can use this guide to some extent. The right column has different topics from which to choose.
2006-09-14 20:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a church that you attend? So many churches are able to help people in your situation. If you don't have a particular church, just call any church. If they can't help you, they will probably be able to put you in touch with some one who can help you.
There is help!! Don't despair!
2006-09-14 20:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which country are you in?
2006-09-14 20:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋