i get in to arguements with the other person like once a week, but in the end we always make up and learn from it, but that always takes a day or so..but durin the time of the aruments i feel really hurt... and half of me want to just give it up..but then the other half does not want to leave at all... what should i do?? leave or not?? i know we love each other tho....
2006-09-14 13:18:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't get somewhere if you travel only on sunny skies. Don't give up hang in there and make it work if you love each other.
2006-09-14 13:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by A K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes arguments are a normal part of a relationship, it is sort of like debating because two people almost never agree on all subjects all of the time.
You need to determine if the arguments can be discussed as opposed to leading to an argument. Then you need to access your love for your mate. Do you really love him? If the answer is yes, then your relationship is worth working on.
When you and your mate are not in the middle of an argument, ask him to sit down and have a serious talk, have him promise not to turn it into an argument. Tell him you want to have a civilized talk. Discuss with him how you feel drained from all of the arguments that you two are having. You have to make it clear that you want out of the relationship if the arguments can't stop. Be very serious, and let him know he will loose you if the arguments can't stop. Tell him that when he disagrees with something that you may want or does, he must ask for a civilized discussion. If he really loves you he will abide by that rule because he will not want to loose the one that he loves.
Us men are thick headed and sometimes we don't believe that our women will leave us until it really happens. So it will be up to you to convince him that you mean business, NO ARGUMENTS OR I AM OUT!!! Good Luck with your situation.
2006-09-14 20:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't argue back with this person. There is no reason for a couple to argue once a week. Try to look at the things you are fighting about. When you see a fight coming on just tell them you will talk about it when neither of you are upset. Nothing gets solved in a heated moment. As you said just bad feelings. Life is to short, love hard to find, and peace of mind rare. If you find it, hold it tight, treasure it, respect it. Good luck
2006-09-14 20:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by sheila s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, find someone else. It's much more pleasant to be with someone who doesn't argue with you all the time.
From what I've read, marriages where the couple spends more than 10% of the time arguing will almost always end in divorce - even if the other 90% is great. Take that for what it's worth.
2006-09-14 20:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is about compromise..... Whenever I have a fight with my fiance in that moment I always feel like we should break up but then five min later when we make up that thought is gone.. It normal to have these thoughts... Ask yourself if it really really worth it to save this relationship and will this relationship survive... If it is, just hang it there.. There always going to be ups and downs in the relationship...It just if you two are willing to learn or willing to do to change the relationship.. Remember love is selfless..If you think the relationship is doom and think it's better to be friends break up now and be friends before it get worst... I hope whatever you choose will make you and your partner happy
2006-09-14 20:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arguments are normal between two people in a relationship. they are oportunities to grow together. if you love the person then you'll be patent enough. one thing is that whenever there are arguments, yes there is hurt but then, you should not let yourself be affected that much, or else you will surely get tired and like what you said, feel like giving up.
u said you both love each other. then continue. it's just a matter of how to handle it the right way,or better way
2006-09-14 20:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen 2 dis song or read the lyrics is what i mean just some of it though cuz this boy got u torn
Torn
Part of me wants to leave you alone part of me says to get what i want ...........................you got me torn in between the two cuz i really wanna b wit u somethin keeps tellin me i should leave you alone
if thats how you feel about him then give him up unless you can't stand bein away from him then stay and try to work it out you could just be goin through a phase
2006-09-14 20:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by suga mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fights are a normal part of a relationship. Learning from it is good. It sometimes takes a very long time to learn to live with someone, if you are living with them. It took me almost 5 years to learn to live with my husband. Now we are getting a divorce. But thats not the point...
2006-09-14 20:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by CAlich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love doesn't hurt,is not hurtful and you need to move on to a relationship that gives you the room to grow and learn without all the fighting to do it. You deserved to be Loved like the treasure you are
2006-09-14 20:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up- life is too short to spend it fighting.
Trust me, it's going to be hard. I've learned this from experience. I was with a guy who treated me terribly, and we fought ALL THE TIME. I used to think everything was my fault and that I was just hard to get along with. He ended up cheating on me and breaking up with me, after everyone begged me to break it off with him.
But you know what? He did me the BIGGEST favor! I am now with the love of my life, who I never, ever fight with. We have our disagreements, but they are handled with maturity and we work it out. And we are now looking at engagement rings!
It's going to be hard, but trust me, it's not worth it staying with someone who makes you feel that way. Good luck!
2006-09-14 20:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋