hello. i have an extremely vast personality, a lot of problems, and i am very lonely. my religion has always been very important to me (i'm Christain), but i am horrified to be facing a crisis in which i don't know what to believe anymore. ever since i was very young i always believed very strongly in the permanence of marriage, and for the first time in my life my husband and i may be seperating. i have been severely depressed for many years and have not been responsive to treatment. it has gotten progressively worse. a couple months ago i attempted suicide. i always had a good life, but i was always so sad and unable to cope. my husband has always been the one i talked to. now my whole world is breaking. everything i am, and everything i know. and i can't live in a Godless world. i know this doesn't make much sense. i'd like to have someone to talk to, and i could take time to explain it a little better.
2006-09-14 13:16:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you are on the right way... forget any previous ideas you had about God and search for the real One deep in your heart and your mind and you will find it...it will take time but dont give up easily..start searching for the truth in other places..try studying other religions ....i hope you get to the truth...God bless you.
2006-09-15 18:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Smith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try the pen-and-paper solution:
Write a list of your problems on a sheet of paper.
Number each if you like and leave as space or two between problems.
Next, start from the top and see if you come up with a solution that you can handle.
If you cant think of a quick solution, tick it off and either leave it to your Creator, or go back to it later.
Kepp going down the list and see what you can do for each.
If, at the bottom of your list you have not come up with a quick-fix for any then pass all on to your Creator Who must be the one to make the final decision on all matters.
Finally, wait and see what you get as a response, from your Creator.
This should help you to begin to understand that you did not create the situation, you cannot solve it all on your own, and you need to get real help and not just a shoulder to cry on.
May be a good way to start from scratch and build up from there.
See how it goes.
2006-09-14 21:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by mythkiller-zuba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well religion I feel was made for one purpose. To provide defualt answers. The kind that let you sleep at night. God put you here, to do HIS will, your deceased Loved ones pass on to heaven, where you'll meet them eventually. I kinda refuse to beleive in something so fundamentally sheltering.
But if you do, then good for you.
If you are finding yourself without the will to live, I kinda think you may need to put aside those default answers and find what you believe in COMPLETELY - not just partly or most of the time.
See a doctor, or a therapist(preferably someone who may be agnostic as they are open to many things and may asist you in finding and recieving the help you so desperately need)
I hope you take no offense, because none was meant.
2006-09-14 20:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by mybubbles245 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Bell Jar was a very sad book. I read it when I was younger, and fighting off suicidal thoughts of my own. As painful as life can be, suicide is not the answer for you. Find someone to talk to. I'm a 46 year old married man, but I'll talk to you or anyone else that wants to talk. I'm not a psycotherapist, just someone who has dealt with depression all of his life, and has learned to overcome it and enjoy life.
2006-09-14 20:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by WHITE TRASH ARMENIAN 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had the same prob and was gonna kill myself and get divorced too , and i was afraid of myself because i couldn't talk myself out of killing myself as time went by it got worse , my husband said he noticed I've been changing and asked me plz see my doctor, so i did and he asked me am i happy at least 1 week out of the month , i said yea , and he said good i know whats wrong , its your period , some women have this major chemical imbalance from having kids and left untreated gets worse , so he put me on Prozac for a year and that fixed everything , now i can talk myself out of every bad depressing feeling i have where as before i couldn't . i think you have what i had and its dangerous, OK go see ur doctor plz
2006-09-14 20:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pray to GOD that someday you look yourself in the mirror and appreciate your self for who you are you have so much to live for you have a will for GOD to do in life he created you for a purpose i know that you love your husband and if you desire to stay with your husband then God will answer your prayers but first it is time to love yourself how can you love God or anyone if you don't love yourself as a Christan you know that GOD is always with you and he will never put more on you than you can bear you need to read the book of job in the bible and than continually reading stories of how other people faith was tested and how they overcame that's how i deal with coping in this world I'm going threw hard times myself me and my family but our joy and happiness is in the lord and we can't give up now so i pray that you know that Jesus loves you and I and the circle of prayer partners on the Internet. enjoy! life let your faith be strong !!we can't imagine a world without you !!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 20:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Carol 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
See a therapist - AND NOT ONE FROM YOUR CHURCH...
I get 2 thumbs down for suggesting to see a therapist? LOL - Honey you need help and advice. The church is a one way street and they will only tell you what they want you to hear. A therapist will try to help you, go to a licensed one and see if a therapist can guide you to help your life improve. See the negativity of the Christian Extremist? They attack someone for giving a sincere answer - because it goes against the Church. You don't need that type of narrow minded behavior right now.
2006-09-14 20:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by rab2344 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I am so sorry you are going through this. My family has problems of there own to and it can be hard. But never give up, Heavenly Father is there to help you. He will never give anything that we can't handle, and that's why I know you'll pull through.
Pray to him for guidance. I'll keep you in my prayers also. Good luck to you, I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
2006-09-14 20:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah j 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hang in there, God loves you and so do I. Go see your doctor, and see about trying different antidepressants. Also, I recommend seeing a counselor, whether Christian or secular, make an appointment and go. Remember our God is a very present help in times of trouble. I've prayed for you and God bless.
2006-09-14 21:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Not perfect, just forgiven 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can just about guarantee you that all the Christians on here who are reading this, including myself, are praying for you. Please do not give up your faith in God. If He brings you to it, He will bring you through it. I'm so sorry that you are going through such a hard time..and the devil knows that you are weak right now, and he is trying to attack you spiritually. Don't let him do that to you! Keep praying and let God know that you will do what is His will. God Bless you and i'll be praying for you.
2006-09-14 20:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by I♥him 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋