Please read and give honest , truthfull, answer, thanks.?

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Please read and give honest , truthfull, answer, thanks.?
Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now it is obvious, she doesnt want to be more than friends, but my question is, is that because she is scared( she doesnt want to ruin the frienship,) or because she just doesnt like me
Now shes only 13, I'm 15, Ive like many girls, and had many crushes, and she is just different, I like Everything about her, and just cant let her go, what should i do?

Additional Details

1 hour ago
Now, I am respecting her decision, and we havent spoken about it for 3 weeks. The last thing I want to do is smother her, so I am giving her every inch of space she needs. But 3 months ago, she really really seemed to like me, than when she found out I liked her she backed off. And now she's like that with other guys. But once we talked about it, she seems more comfortable talking to me, than she did before. Her and her mom are really really close, and her mom said she is just REALLY REALLY scared. Her mom wants me to date her daughter, she told me that. So I know I am good with ther parents, what should I do??

Answer 1

o.k. date as you like, but you are too young.

Answer 2

Some girls enjoy the chase and excitement just as much as guys, and once they find that they've won the "game" and gained the attraction, it is on to the next hunt.
I do not know you're friend, so I'm not accusing her of being someone like that, but by your own words, you've said as much.

Perhaps she's being sincere in realizing that having you as a dear friend means more to her than becoming a couple, and then running the risk of that friendship being ruined because of a break-up.
Maintaining this friendship might eventually lead to her to develope further feelings for you -- or, you might slowly decide that you find yourself attracted to someone else. Then you'd be happy that you kept the friendship as is (If not closer and better) instead of venturing further with it.

She's 13, you're 15. You have an entire life ahead of you to figure this all out. Enjoy each other's company now.

Please believe me, a lifetime of friendship with someone you can trust, respect, and rely on is far better than a short-lived bout of "passion".

-- Side note. When it comes to this advise everyone gives you. Please, don't simply read and take in the ones that seem to agree with what you really want. Consider them all, even the ones you may not necessarily like, because they go against what it is you really desire (her to be your girlfriend/tell her again how you feel). Choosing to follow advise that you like isn't always the best advise you need.

Answer 3

I would leave it alone. First off, you're 15 and she's 13. I know if I had a 13 yr old daughter and some 15 year old wanted to date her and sounded all obsessed like you did, I would probally be freaked out and make sure the two of you didn't get together... EVER! You're 15 years old... you need to be focusing on school and what you want to do with your life instead of girls. Trust me, I had lots of boyfriends in high school and none of them lasted long enough for me to be actually serious about. It sounds to me like she just wants to be a friend. That she either doesn't want a boyfriend or she just doesn't want YOU as a boyfriend. Focus on school and make sure your life stays on track. Before you know it, you'll be out in the real world, you'll meet a wonderful woman and get married. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Next time don't use Email to ask question like that.
As a friend anyway you should understand everything of each other
and easily forget of very uncomfortable situation. Just go and talk like you used to . Be open what you want to say get the meeting for good. Don't fight or cry just get the comfortable point to be together.

Answer 5

I think that you should just enjoy the friendship. I had a big crush on my male best friend and after being friends for a while, we had sex and talked about being in a relationship. But it just didn't seem like the thing to do, so we remained friends. He is still one of the closest friends that I have and I we have gone our separate ways relationship wise. I think that you should just enjoy your friendship and let things develop as they will. You don't wan to push her away. If it is meant to be, one day it will happen.

Answer 6

I'm betting she likes you but like her mom said she is scared. I'm 22 so let me tell you if you 2 break up it will ruin the friendship it ruined mine. I dated a friend I had for 14 years and now we talk but never will be best friends again. Let her come to you when she is comfortable with it!! Good Luck

Answer 7

just keep it friends i had the same situation and now i don't even have him as a friend so kinda in away i understand where she is coming from. enjoy her as a friend, some one you can always count on no matter what to ask info. get the right answer about other girls and to have some one to hang out with. don't pressure her about it you will loose her. wait till later in life and see where it might go!!

Answer 8

First of all, her parents don't have anything to do with this, they are to provide and guide her, not decide who she likes, or will be with, this is her decision, and if she is scared or unsure right now, give her time, if this is meant to go further than just best friends, it will don't push or get impatient with her, wait on her to come around.

Answer 9

Oh you young ones and your life's problems. Trust me it is only going to get harder!! Anyways, teenagers are fickle. Didn't you know that? I'm sure her mom doesn't know EVERYTHING about her daughter. I think your friend is trying to be nice. The only thing I can recommend is to be patient. Maybe she'll come around.....but you should keep having your crushes. It's only the beginning kid.

Answer 10

Continue to be her friend. It will take a little time and possibly a little discussion about where you two are at exactly. No sense in rushing into anything, but I think you know that already.

Answer 11

Even though her Mom want you to date, her daughter does not. And if you like her daughter then you should respect her and let her be. It is good that you let her have her space. She will come to.

& don't worry about her hanging out with boys. If its meant to be, she will end up with you.