this boy i like was in sir thirteen but he left them 4 me and has been clean of them for 3 months but now hes acting weird and is alwayz worried bout where i am and who im with and stuff he has never done this befor !!!!! It kinda scares me but when i asked him whats wrong he didnt say anything expect 4 gotta run bye my friends heard he was involved in the gang but i dont know what to do now ! i mean i like him but i need him to its either me or them how do i tell him ????????
2006-09-14 13:08:28 · 15 answers · asked by sunnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since I don't know either you or the boy in question, I can only offer generic advice, but I would advise you to be honest and upfront about it. However, I also caution you about how you tell him; you want to avoid sounding demanding and unreasonable. When you talk to him about it, make sure you can keep your cool and speak evenly and calmly -avoid the "Jerry Springer Show" drama. Also, try not to make it sound like an ultimatum. Instead of saying "it's them or me," consider trying something more along the lines of "If you go down that path, I cannot go with you." Boys that age (or probably anyone of any age) don't like ultimatums, and most people are more willing to consider your side of things if you are calm and reasonable rather than if you sound like you are attacking them. But you do want to be honest and clear about where you are coming from, because communication is the most important factor in a relationship. Good luck.
2006-09-14 13:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him ask him if he's in a gang i mean just cause you heard he's in a gang doesn't mean you have to believe it you should just ask him and talk to him about it and if he is in one then if he really loves you he'll give the gang up just to be with you but if he does choose to quit the gang than make sure he does it carefully and the best thing to do is to move far away from where you were when you were in the gang and just don't tell the other gang members about it
2006-09-14 13:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by suga mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what u gotta do its tell him its either the gang life or you if he cares about u then he will chose u if not then he will remain in the gang and it just wasnt meant for u two and then try to find someone who really does like you and lives a positive lifestyle
2006-09-14 13:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a person is asking questions like that they are cheating and trying to make there partner feel guilty for something they didn't do. I honestly would come right out and tell him. Something like, I don't like how you always leave me for your friends and you have to make a choice.
2006-09-14 13:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your question. What do you mean he was is sir thirteen?
2006-09-14 13:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Free Spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like this.
Hey you bastard, it's either me or your shitty gang.
If he gives you any lip, knock him around a few times and date his brother.
2006-09-14 13:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ LysoL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away now .. bad news.... you already answered your own question... you have a bad feeling about this guy... remember this through outlife...when somthing doesnt seem or feel right it isnt
2006-09-14 13:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by caligrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a real winner......
the fact you have to ask about it should clue you off to move on to someone worth while.
2006-09-14 13:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't bother telling him i would just get out! he already sounds pretty controlling. the next step is physical violence.
2006-09-14 13:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by nakita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight with him, guys like straight up answers
2006-09-14 13:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by babyblue76al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋