M-N-Law lives on our boat and pays nothing. We live in her house and pay rent, I just paid for a year in advance to be nice. Utilities in her name so she can keep it owner occupied to keep her rate low. We pay her back. She tells people she pays for everything, she's almost convinced herself. Because we paid rent in advance she feels she can come whenever she pleases, treat my children and I with disdain, she threw all our keep sakes away, tried to blame my family for her storage theft, so she could feel better about what she did to us. She actually tried to hit me when we had a verbal disagreement about her using us as slave labor because we "owe her". I wish I had not gave her the money for the entire year of rent, because we would be able to rent to own with 13,800$. She wants her son single because he clings to her when he is, she needs that control. We are in a horrible predicament, what can I do.
2006-09-14 12:49:00 · 7 answers · asked by pyxypower777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she makes you that miserable, then everyone else in the family probably knows what a pill she is and she probably has zero credibility. The bad part is, you are stuck with her, because she is your MIL. Try to get out of this living situation. You may have to wait a year, since you already paid for rent in advance, unless there is a legal way to get out of it. That may not make your husband too happy, though. You may have to wait it out a year. Its only a year out of your lives. You'll get over it.
2006-09-14 12:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move out, for sure. The lies will never stop, she'll always be hostile to you, but don't have to subject yourself to that. Unfortunately, you'll be able to claim your independence from her until you're living in a place where she doesn't have a key. If it bothers you that she tells everyone that she pays for everything, then it's ok (as long as you are the bigger person and are polite about it) for you to tell them that that's not entirely true, that you do pay rent and reimburse her for the utilities. You can have your husband tell her to back off and respect you all's privacy, but when I had a similar problem with my former father in law, all of my ex's mediations amounted to a hill of beans since his dad would agree and then still go about doing whatever he was going to do. You can have your husband ask for the money back and explain to her that you guys decided that you two decided together that you've reached a place in your relationship where you're ready to have a place of your own (don't tell her it's because of her), but she's probably already spent the money and holding it over her is just going to cause more problems.
A little advice: Don't rent to own if your credit score is decent enough to get a conventional loan. If you could come up with the kind of money to pay your inlaw a year's rent up front, then I think you'll find that it's easier to get a home loan than you think, and a mortgage will cost the same amount or only marginally more than renting. If your credit is good enough, then you may not even have to put any money down. If you rent to own, you'll wind up paying more than the place is worth if you do buy it, and if you don't, then you'll be out everything you invested in it.
2006-09-14 13:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Grandpa is totally German so i'm a a million/4 German :-] What might want to you do if: - Stare at him in wonder - initiate screaming (yet in a 'chuffed excited' way, not an 'OMG there's a creepy guy in my mattress' kinda way - stick with him ;-] - provide him a intense 5 - i'd not be taken aback - ok...... - Awwwww. i might want to hug him i loved Barney - i'd not imagine it develop into him......regardless of if i knew it develop into him :-[ might want to you fairly: - TH live performance with behind the curtain passes :D - Be their chum - Gondola journey......in basic terms so long because the guy guidance the boat would not sing the entire time :-/ - Be bill & Tom's mum's impressive chum - Be on TH television - Get the CD 3 months before......I had a nasty experience with a horse on my fifth birthday. have not lengthy previous close to at least a million ever on the grounds that question of the day: My mum & dad might want to be offended. My mum might want to bypass nuts screaming stuff like "HIS 5 YEARS OLDER then you actually! WHAT THE **** is incorrect at the same time with your mind!" even as my dad would not care about the age distinction as a lot as my mum, yet he might want to attempt & make positive bill wasn't gay :-/
2016-11-26 23:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by pere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ned to cut ties. I had a similar situation with my father. He hated my husband for the longest time, always seeking out an opportunity to split us up. Things never got better until I told him off and hubby & i moved away. Your husband needs to tell his nother to back off and you both need to do whatever necessary to not be tied to her.
2006-09-14 13:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by threedscreations 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-14 16:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll get back to her!!
i hate pple who makes me fell down, and as much as possible i fight back, and i wont be able to that, i move away, coz i hate that kind of feeling, well thats me. lol
well maybe u shld talk to ur hubby and ask him to leave his mum's house, forget about the money just move out. peace of mind is more imp. also try to seek help to ur own parents.
2006-09-14 13:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing that she lies to family & friends sure sounds like she is two sandwiches short of a picnic. your best bet is to put yourself & spouce first & leave her in the dust if she wants to treat you two rotten, what she wants from your spouce is wrong & very unhealthy,she doesen't realize that & she needs to be confronted about it.
2006-09-14 13:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋