and I have to see him everyday at work. And now I hear he is talking about our intimate times and trying to score with every woman there? Im really hurting. Ive felt this way for months.
2006-09-14 12:19:35 · 19 answers · asked by peewee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost, you must believe you are a great person who is being treated badly by someone who you gave your heart to.
It is hard to get out of a depression once you are in it, but it is possible. When I am down, I try to help others, like volunteer, or help a friend out in need. It helps them and boosts your spirit that you are worth something.
You really do not want someone who wants every other woman he sees. You deserve much much more. You are a good woman.
I know it is hard to be around someone who has hurt you, especially since you work together. Please even though you do not feel like, smile. It makes you feel a bit better And shows him that you are not fawning over him. He probably likes it. He is disrespectful to you by telling others about your intimate moments. You do not deserve that.
I know that just around the corner, there is your "knight in shining armour". You have to let this guy go in order to let the good guy into your life.
Big hug to you, and please hang in there. Smile even though you are hurting. It will get better and your pain will ease.
If you let it take over your life, you may have to go to the doctor for an antidepressant. I know you can beat this without meds.
I am praying for you.
2006-09-14 12:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your other questions you have referred to this guy as your booty call.
That seems to me that you knew the limitations of your relationship.
The problem is you have fallen for a player and you want what you can't have.
I think you went in with eyes wide open and thought you could change the game. That was error no1, error no 2 was you probably let him know that you were getting keen and he has done what any player would do and legged it.
How do you get over it?
Well in truth you never had it in the first place and the sense of loss is from your own creation.
Hold you head high first off and be happy, ignore him. If he sees you getting on with your life and being happy and not hung up over him he will be reassessing what he let go and pay you more attention, which will make you feel good. Get some male friends around you and laugh and be happy with them even if you don't feel it. Date other guys and don't be miserable. The loser will give you more attention and probably want to get back with you for sex because he will feel insecure that he has lost control of you. NEVER, EVER do that he will dump you immediately after.
Carry on seeing decent nice guys and you will get over the loser.
Exercise releases endorphins which lift moods so exercise!
Just be happy and confident somebody that is worthwhile will come along
2006-09-14 19:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bohemian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just forget about him, it's not worth for you to be depressed by a such a #$@! man. I know it's hard for you in the first few months but you can do that. It will be over and you will find another one better.
Since you have to meet him everyday at work so don't try to avoid him, let him know you're stronger than he might think. Have you ever heard the song "You'll See" of Madonna ? Try it.
Be happy! Hope you get well soon ;)
2006-09-14 19:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by ice_mp9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you fell for a very immature guy if he needs to brag about his conquests with you . There is not quick cure for a broken heart it takes time and a certain amount of ignoring him.
When he talks trashy about what you had, just say yer its in the past and that's were he belongs Neanderthal CAVE MAN.. as for him hitting on the other girls just tell them about how he treats you and the way your private life has become the topic of conversation in the bathrooms around work , ask why the hell should he change for them once a heartless fool always I'm afraid
2006-09-14 19:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Been there before, but not for as long as you are talking about. Carry on with your life. Do things to take your mind off of it. Men are like that: trying to pick up whatever they can. Don't know why, they just do. But that's not the point. You are a worthy person, with goals of your own. Focus on them. Now that he is out of the picture, you have plenty of time to devote to your higher interests. Take this great opportunity to apply yourself to what matters to you. Forget about him. He's not worth your time. Go for it! You have no idea what you can actually accomplish until you try.
I almost died earlier this year. Now that I have recovered, every moment is precious to me. It's a moment I wasn't supposed to have. Even though you didn't have that life-changing experience, the same is true for you. Grasp life and do whatever you can with it. It took away my depression; it can take away yours, too. Your renewed outlook on life will be apparent to him, since you see him every day at work. He will admire you for it, and so will everyone else. You can do it!
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2006-09-14 19:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, get away. Take a months trip somewhere to get away from it all, if people say that you shouldn't run away from your problems, you are right, but you'll be rediscovering yourself at the same time! Go somewhere that you have never been before, across seas is best, and it'll force you to meet new people, which will be a good booster for you and you'll even act and feel like a different person cause you'll be around different cultures and a totally different world. Seriously, it might sound crazy, but go for it, you wont regret it! I didn't
2006-09-14 19:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! you have it rough. breaking up and not having to see him is hard, you have to see him. It sound to me like he's trying to hurt you and that is not cool. 1. he cant talk about you at work..there has to be some sort of policy that prevents this. talk to your manager or hr person. 2. dont let him know that it bothers you, he'll give it a rest sooner then later if he's not knowing your reaction.
2006-09-14 19:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by marie34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to find another job somewhere else. That would really be sad abnd painful to see him daily. After that, only date outside of the work place. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 19:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he may not be that great of a guy if he is acting the way he is. Everytime you see him, smile and walk away. Time will heal all wounds.
2006-09-14 19:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by wildcatfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you can't let him know that it is bothering you. He sounds like trash you don't need him anyway. I've always heard you must let someone you love go and if they really loved you then they will always return if they don't then you never really had them in the first place. Play it cool, your turn will come around :)
Cowgirl Up!
2006-09-14 19:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋