i am leaving my 8 months doughter for the first time with the nani for 5 houres, she thought it would be a good idea to try that ,, i am gonna stay home .. and its the first time i let her go from the day she was born , right now a tear is going on my cheak , and i dont know what will i be feeling tomorrow ..SEPARATION ... i am going back to work in 2 weeks .. and i donnu ... im feeling really ... bad .. what should i do ?
2006-09-14 12:18:28 · 16 answers · asked by delayla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
u have to trust this person!! i mean they have the life or ur baby in their hands!!! but its ok, ull have to get over it soon...i mean u hav to!
2006-09-14 12:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dragonfly :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I know how you feel. I didn't leave my first two children until they were close to a year old, and that was just with their father,my husband. My third child I left a little earlier, but not a whole lot. It is sometimes hard for us to let go, but if you feel like you need a break, or you are going back to work soon it might not hurt to get yourself ready. Maybe you could start off by just being gone for an hour and then work your way up to the 5 hours? As long as you trust the person watching your baby and you have your phone with you I'm sure everything will be fine.
Best wishes!
2006-09-15 07:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out , go shopping anything even if it is only for an hour or to but if you are going to have to go back to work in 2 weeks you better give her a try.. even if you call home and check to see how things are going.. she is only 8 months old she will be fine.. and the sooner you get started going out for a while the easier it will be for you to go to work and actually consentrate on your job while you are there.
leaving them for the first time is tramatic for any mother. but it has to be done..
I am under the usumption that you picked a good nani that you can trust and that you had her checked out.. so that you don't have to worry about her either. . get a girl friend or someone to go out with you so that you have someone to take your mind off of the baby at home.. sit and visit.. the alone time will also do you some good.
go on out and have a good time for a little bit..
really she will be fine..
2006-09-14 19:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation anxiety - remember it well. I had a BAD case of it when I left my baby for the first time to go back to work.
I took pictures of my baby with me so I could look at them and see her face - that helped a lot. I also called a few times, just to see how things were going. Both things allowed me to still feel in touch with her.
Is it easy? Nope. Will it get better? Yes, it will. Just remember that it is better for your kid if they get some time away from you - this allows them to become "their own person" and see that others can help them with things besides mom (and dad). I think it allows them some sense of self esteem as well, for they do things on their own, and socialize with others besides relying on mom to do all of it.
Take the 2 weeks to ease yourself away. For a few days, maybe stay away for a few hours (start out small - maybe 2 or 3 hours). Go shopping. Go to a day spa. Get your hair done. Do something for yourself. Meet some friends for a lunch. But just take it a little bit at a time. Increase your time after a few days, and work up to the 8 hours (if you work full time) that you would be away if at work. You will feel better by the time you go off to work, and you will also be able to concentrate on work.
Good luck!!
2006-09-14 21:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry it's normal. if at first you are unsure of the nanny set up a nanny cam just for your own piece of mind but i'm sure that over time you'll learn to trust her wholeheartedly with your most precious thing. bear in mind that it's good for your child to learn to be in the care of others and not to be totally dependent on you. there's nothing worse than when you're invited to a wedding and the child won't stay with anyone other than you. go to work knowing your doing the best thing and in the process saving your sanity
2006-09-18 08:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you're going to miss her and worry about her, but it is a good thing to let her learn about someone new. It will help her develop social skills and become independent. My first daughter was in daycare until she was 14 months old and it was a very good experience for her. She learned how to interact with other children her age.
2006-09-18 14:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Diana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her get used to the nanny. she has to learn to get along with other people, and understand that you will always come back when you leave. You have to understand that she won't develop properly if she is constantly with you, she will grow up scared and untrusting of other people. Nanny has delt with this before, and will be able to distract her and keep her content. You really need to get out and go shopping. Just make sure nanny has your phone number if she needs you. Both of you will be just fine.
2006-09-14 19:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time I dropped my daughter off to Day Care I was more worried tahn she was. We put her on the floor with some toys and I went to give her a kiss and SHE pushed me away. That was how I knew she would be just fine.
2006-09-14 19:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Caitlyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I have been there done that, you need to have that separation anxiety taken care of now, because at one point in your life you are going to have to be away from her and then what, you will both go through the anxiety, do it now while she is young enough to understand that mommy will be back, good luck
2006-09-14 19:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by shero67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks but you have to let them go to someone else at some point. if you can't afford to stay home then just make sure it's a sitter that you truly trust. Good luck!
2006-09-14 19:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by miss_nursie_nurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are totally normal. Every mom feels the separation anxiety.
What you're doing is giving your child another experience to add to her life. You're allowing her to grow.
2006-09-14 19:27:33 · answer #11 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋