Ok , i have been seeing this guy since march of this year, we have had sex twice and it was horrible, i didn't say anything to him about it though, he has difficulty arrising to the occasion if you know what i mean but hes only 28!!!!! He says hes just not interested in having sex. Is this normal for a guy his age to be going through this?? I really like him so we spend time together and talk all the time, i just don't kow what to think , Should i talk to him about it?? Or should i hope this will eventually pass??
2006-09-14 12:12:51 · 24 answers · asked by cslynn1980 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could be nervous or anxious. Or he could feel overwhelmed by pressure to perform well. Obviously he did not with you. He may have heard before that he was not good in bed only furthering his anxiety. Maybe he needs a coach. Teach him how to like it, be gentle and supportive and then phuc his brains out!
2006-09-14 12:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest. He probably doesn't find you ultimately attractive. This is an unfortunate thing probably brought about by to much indulgence in pornography. He has probably fantasised about the girls in the magazines for so long that that is the only thing that will really get him going. On the other hand he may have had some bad experiences in the past maybe with sexual abuse and he hasn't gotten over it yet. That is about all i can offer. But No it is not normal for guy that age to be not interested in occasional sex especially if he hasn't got any for a while. Cheers.
2006-09-14 19:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by punkrockdrifter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would it pass?? The first few times with a new person are usually the most fascinating. He may like you for a lot of reasons, but may not be as sexually attracted to you as you'd like. I don't see that changing. If you are really sexually attracted to someone, but have trouble "arising to the occasion", you would still find a way to make it good. Accept he is this way or do the "friends" thing. Not that you're not a hottie, 'cause you probably are.
2006-09-14 19:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by hartovalion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is either gay, tired, or telling you the truth. If he has already told you he is not interested in sex then he is not going to talk about it again so my advice is to just be friends with him since you like him but if you need sex in your relationship you should move on, he didn't give you a hint, he told you straight up, he doesn't like sex. Don't try to figure it out, except it and move on.
2006-09-14 19:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will probably not pass. He either has a physiological problem or is simply not into you, regardless of what he says. You think he'd have any trouble getting it up for Shakira? Her hips don't lie and a healthy man's tool does not lie either. I know you like this guy, but the feeling is not mutual. Get rid of him and find someone who gets excited just at the thought of pleasuring you! Good Luck!
2006-09-14 19:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off hes a guy he wants to have sex. you have to find yourselves in the bedroom discover what he likes so he does what you like. if you want him to arise to the occasion then wear something sexy for him or talk sexy to him. if he isn't stepping up you have to. sex isn't the only thing in a relationship but it is a big part. if your sex life isn't good then neither of you are satisfied. also try to watch porn with him to get ideas if you cant think of anything to do in the bedroom.
good luck with this i hope you two find yourselfs
2006-09-14 19:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by matt B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.. tough question.. Do you mean he can't get it up? or he just sux at it? If he can't get it up, then yea.. must be an attraction issue, possibly gay I guess. I'd think he'd come out the closet by 28 yrs old though.. If he just sux, maybe he just needs practice and feels inadequate and uncomfortable.. Really though. I don't know what to tell ya..
2006-09-14 19:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it horrible other than the difficulty you described?
Does he check out other chicks when yall go out?
Maybe his testosterone level is a quart low.
Did he really want to have sex or did you put some pressure on him?
2006-09-14 19:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by Phil S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if a man that age is not interested in a young girl and sex, then he is gay, better get yourself tested and find someone else.
2006-09-14 19:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Pete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the problem is one of a few things:
1. he is gay
2. medical condition
3. he is insecure with himself - doesn't want to be embarassed
4. he is not really interested in you ( sorry don't want to hurt your feelings but this could be a possibility)
if neither one of these things are correct you have a problem and you need to bail out of this relationship really quick
2006-09-14 19:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋