we have been together 3 years i love im deeply but some times when he go away (travel)i feel like iam lonely so i cheated on him 3 times and the lst one was with his brother!!!i know iam bad but i dont know for how long i can hide my bad things...help me 2 gain his trust and love and should i tell him ?but he will leave me so?thank u
2006-09-14 12:02:03 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd leave ya
2006-09-14 12:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by c-money 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell him, one day he will find out. How can you gain his trust when he doesn't know he should loose it?
I find it hard to understand you love him deeply, although I'm sure you do. If I see a hot lookin' guy or any guy if I try to think about him sexually it makes my stomach hurt. My husband also travels, I go out to dinner with a friend or get a manicure/pedicure.
Do you have kids with this man? Unfortunately, that changes everything.
Basically you screwed up, face the consequences.
If already happened after the first time and it was your brother-n-law then nothing is going to stop you.
Maybe he will be able to look past it, it takes a big man to do so.
Wow...can you image how he would feel when you go to family functions that you were intimate with his brother. What you did is my worst nightmare.
The only reason why you want to tell him is because "you" want to release the guilt. Not because you love him.
2006-09-14 12:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pardon the pun, but you made your bed so now you must lie in it. With his own brother? That is low down and dirty. Yes you should tell him. Nothing good ever comes from a lie. Yes if you tell him he probably would will leave you and deservingly so. I don't know what the future holds for you but right now you two shouldn't be together. Love involves trusting, respecting and honoring one another. How much love, trust or respect have you shown him by cheating on him three times? None. You are a very dirty, deceitful and untrustworthy person. Your behavior is that of a common whore. If you cared about him you would tell him what you did and give him a chance to be happy with someone who really cares about him. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless. Don't make this poor guys life miserable. Tell him.
2006-09-14 12:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't have his trust since he does not know how dishonest you are. you should tell him because these things have a way of coming out when you don't want them to. You cannot say you love him when you cheat on him. If he does leave you it will be because of your actions not his. How low could you go to sleep with his brother? Now not only will he know you don't care about him, he knows his brother does not care about him. If he chooses to stay with you do your best to show that it will never happen again. But , take responsibility his going away does not force you to cheat, You cheat because you want to.
2006-09-14 12:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely can empathize, If you want to stay with him, dont tell him. It will only give him trust problems with you or any other girl. If you want other people and are willing to give him up for it, still dont tell him. Break up with him for different reasons. The bottom line is that if you tell him, you will only cause problems that can not be solved. I have made girls suffer for the mistakes they made long, long ago. Most guys never really get over that kind of stuff.
2006-09-14 12:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Seanithon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't know what true love is yet. hiding it from him shows you are a coward and you want it all. him and other guys . tell him and take the consequences as they will be, yes you will lose him and you deserve to. you will not gain his trust he will be thinking if you are cheating again when he is gone and more than likely you will , give him a break be honest and accept the fact that you will lose him.
2006-09-14 12:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the choice is up to you, what do you want to do? Just remember if you choose to tell him you're going to have to live with him not being able to trust you, because you played real close (sleeping with his brother) Good Luck and Be Safe!
2006-09-14 12:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you love him, you shouldn't have done it in the first place. But since you have, you should tell him, because I guarantee it'll be worse if you never do, and he finds out through someone else (that would show that you never intended to tell him at all, which makes you even less trustworthy than knowing you cheated in the first place).
If he leaves you, you have no one but yourself to blame.
2006-09-14 12:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by cowgba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should tell him. I cant imagine what sth like this would do to him and his relationship with his brother, it will just be plain awkward! I guess you should stop sleeping around, show him that you love and care for him and be faithful, and I mean all the time!
2006-09-14 12:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him, and if you really loved him you would never have cheated. Getting lonely isn't an excuse. With his brother? You get what you deserve if he does leave you.
2006-09-14 12:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by KC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you need to be honest with yourself. cheating because you are "lonely" when he travels is a poor excuse. if you really love some you dont cheat. so, you need to decide what you really want, i think you need to move on & let the guy find someone who can be faithful & trustworthy, you are not...
2006-09-14 12:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋