My step-dad use to be really cool, then he just changed. He's always pissy and hateful, and it's always TOWARD ME. My mom has talked to him about it, but he won't stop. He just ignores me, even when I try to ask him about it. How do I deal? I leave in a year for college though - Thank God!
2006-09-14 11:43:04 · 18 answers · asked by ashleyuvjra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can not change someone else's behavior just keep knowing his opinion of you does not matter and look forward to college.
2006-09-14 11:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by jusme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your stepdad is having some personal issues that aren't related to you, but he's just lashing out due to the stress. Somehow I have a hunch it's not just you he's doing this to, right? Perhaps you and Mom together can encourage him to open up about what's wrong, and how you can help. Maybe he needs some sort of counseling, etc., to get over his anger issues. Otherwise, just try to kill him with kindness...be nice, and maybe he'll eventually come around. If you'll be going off to college soon, you won't have to deal with him for much longer...but your Mom will. Try to find out what's wrong so this doesn't evolve into something possibly abusive. Good Luck.
Hope this helped.
2006-09-14 18:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One year and counting is not really the way to cope. If he won't talk to you don't try so hard , give him space if get worst talk to your mom again. She isn't having a easy time of it either.
Maybe you and mom could try to work it out for her.
As for the change it is common he may need to talk to someone about how he feels about the "new" family or he may have other problems. They could be physical.l there is a reason let him try to figure it out....Most likely it is not you
2006-09-14 18:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do like you are supose and try and stay out of the way. Out of sight out of mind. Just try and hang in there for the last year. If your mother understands then do you have a relative close to go stay with? Just keep on trying.
2006-09-14 18:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignores him too. Don't talk to him and stay away of his present.
Just give answer on his question. Stop thinking about the problem - life is beautiful.
2006-09-14 18:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be having some problem with someone else or with himself and he's taking his anger out on you. Maybe you're easier to do it to than the other person or himself. Or it could be something else. A midlife crises? Stress on his job? People react to things in different ways. There's no way to know what's going on with him. Maybe your mother could approach him about family counseling.
2006-09-14 19:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take his moods personal. It probably doesn't have anything to do with you. I guess I would try to avoid him so you don't have to deal with his mood swings. Hang in there and soon enough you will be away at college. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 18:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try and stay out of his way, we can't change people, the only one we can change is ourselves, When you are at home stay in your room, do all of your chores, before he comes home, that way he will not have nothing to gripe about. But I do recommend that you do speak to him.
2006-09-14 18:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a long year that will be...obviously he has a grudge towards you. What a pity. You have God....pray to God to bless him with wisdom and understanding...most of all with the skill to communicate.
2006-09-14 18:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
simple, do what you have to do, meaning be a good girl, clean the house, help around, read and do homework in the living room. then he can see that you are a good girl and will just leave you alone.
2006-09-14 18:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋