What do I do when my daughter hits me?

Question

She's nearly 3, and if things don't go her way she screams, hits me in the face and shouts 'you're a poo poo'. I try to ignore it, and put her down if i'm holding her. No idea what to do to show her it's unacceptable.

Answer 1

I am a nanny. of 2 boys one 20 month and the other almost 4 the 20 month old is learning how to hit. so here is a few things i tried. he isnt hitting any more.

when she does it. Give her The eye. at 3 she wont like mom looking at her like that. just stare at her. 10 sec. after tellling her that wasnt nice and tell her your not going to play with her. Always making her say sorry.

or. if she keeps doing it. Picking her up and putting her in her crib. and just shuting the door. NEVER HIT HER BACK! explaining to her why she is going into her room and if she screams she screams. i would leave her there for 3-5 minutes.

Or the one that worked for me was. pretending to be hurt. some people might think that its wrong. but showing them that they are hurting you might make her stop. so thats what i think i have more to say but i have 2 kids nagging at me lol Good luck

Answer 2

I am no child expert by any means, but have noticed that if you have a child that young who has a temper, you have to discipline her now. You could designate a corner of a room with a chair that every time she disrespect you, she has to sit in the corner. Make sure you tell her why you are putting her there and stand firm. They recommend that you make them sit for as many minutes as they are old, in her case 3 minutes. If she gets up, take her right back.

Back when I was that old, I got a good old fashioned spanking if I misbehaved.

Good luck and I hope with all the advice you get from the answers, at least one will work.

Answer 3

When she hit you ....

take her hands firmly and say NO...you can not hit Mommy and you cannot say bad things to Mommy

put her in a chair for a "time-out" and tell her why she's there...3 minutes is enough

every time she gets up put her back

You'll have to do this each & everytime she does this and soon she'll understand. If you don't correct this now instead of a little problem...she'll be out of control.

Answer 4

You have to enlist help from EVERYONE for this to work...
My daughter started hitting - when she would hit, everyone else would make a big deal out of the person who GOT hit & pay "no" attention to my daughter. She saw that hitting wasn't getting her anywhere & stopped.
Kids are going to hit - that's a fact. Your daughter may not understand how to express her feelings of anger yet. Next time she tries, see if you can catch her little fist before it makes contact. Ask her why she's mad & then try to help her through it. You may be surprised. Good luck!

Answer 5

First off she should not be hitting you! You have let this situation go on far too long!
You are the adult and she is the child! You need to put your foot down and show her that her behavior will not be tolerated! You need to discipline her!
She has no respect for you! By stopping her now you will gain the upper hand and she will respect you and love you for it!
Best wishes!

Answer 6

my mom would say her full name first middle last in a frim voice say no hitting if she still does it hit her back no hard just a little she should stop if not use a time out put a chair in the corner tell no one to talk to her for 5 minutes if she get up lift her without saying anything put her in the chair and tell her that everytime she gets up you will add 1 minute

Answer 7

I was once watching a show and it said sometimes you need to give them a taste of there own medicine. This was on Amazing Baby Videos and it was a doctor who said it. I'm not sure weather or not I agree but my just give her a little slap back not a hard one by any means at all just so she know it doesn't feel good.

Answer 8

Tell her that it is rude to call names to anyone and most importantly her own parents. Make her sit 5 minutes in the corner, if she doesn't want to, strap her to the high chair facing the corner... let her scream all she wants, and then after 5 minutes tell her that she has to say sorry if she wants to get out of that punishment.

Repeat until she agrees. Make sure you remind her every 5 minutes why she's there though... kids usually forget quite easily why they are being punished. And when she does say sorry, kiss her and say that you forgive her. (Reward is as important as punishment)

It works for me when I was a kid! And when it doesn't, my father actually locks me up in the bathroom!! (highly not recommended though!!)

Answer 9

Don't hit her back.
Tell her briefly and calmly "that's not nice, it hurts Mommy and you shouldn't hit people and say bad words, you will get time out next time"
Put her in a time out chair for 3 minutes if she does it again. I wouldn't wait til she hits you then warn her and wait for her to hit you again, the first time she hits you just put her in time out.
Use a cooking timer and tell her to wait for the ring.
Don't show anger or scream or get violent, just be calm and place her in time out EVERYTIME.

Answer 10

I know this sounds wrong but it has proven to work with my violent son. he bit me, just once on my hand so i bit him back, just hard enough to feel it. I am happy to report he has never bitten again! same with hitting. He slapped me in the face once so i tapped him on the cheek (not really hard at all) but enough to shock him and now when he raises his hand to me i say "that hurts...remember" sometimes I still have to remind him by raising my hand back at him. he usually just storms off and sends himself to his room lol. he is 26 months going on 16yrs i swear!!!