So I've been on 3 dates with a guy I like. I know he likes to take things slow (he told me in a conversation that he liked me and enjoys spending time with me, but that he doesn't fall in love fast and wanted to see where this goes). Fine, I'm a patient person, I can live with that. But now I've had 3 dates with him, and still no kiss. All 3 dates have ended with a hug.
But I'm used to at least figuring out where I stand after 3 dates-whether I'm in a potential relationship or am I in what I like to call "the friend zone."
So my question for the guys is that if you really like and respect a girl, do you normally wait until date #4 to kiss a girl, or would you have done so by now?
Thanks!
2006-09-14 11:29:43 · 8 answers · asked by x_filequeen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmmm...good question!!! There is no set rules as far as a timeline for kissing. I usually read the body lanuagage of the girl I'm dating. More often then not it is the girl I'm dating that makes the first move.
When I feel we are both comfortable enough and it feels right, I give them a kiss. I guess it depends, you know?
Give your guy some time. It could be that he was in a bad relationship prior to meeting you, or this is his first relationship, or whatever. It just means he isn't comfortable yet. And maybe he's scared that he isn't a good kisser or that it may seem that he's pushing things too fast. He may have some self-esteem, confidence, or past issues that he's dealing with. Just take things slow. Sometimes just the "friendship" thing is best anyway. You really get to know alot about a person that way without the romantic pressure being a factor (i.e. some guys will do anything just to get in your pants and once they do, their gone.).
Don't pressure him either, that will make him clam up even more. If nothing else, you make the first move. But being you two have talked about the "stages" of your relationship, I say just enjoy what you have with whom you have it with.
2006-09-14 11:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could of kissed you gently on the end of the first date, I'd say - but four dates and just hugs? He really IS taking this very slowly, isn't he? I understand you're in a difficult position and you don't want to "push" because he's explained he likes to take things slowly, but surely a kiss on the lips (it doesn't even have to be full-on) is expected by now?
My personal advice is this:
If he doesn't kiss you at the end of the fourth date, try and kiss him yourself. I'm guessing that he likes to take things slowly because he might be a little bit insecure or shy (you never know, he might have never kissed a girl before, too). I say take the courage to kiss him yourself... that's the only way you're going to know. If he takes it badly, explain that you have been out on four dates and it was about time. I doubt he will take it badly though, and he probably won't tell you even if he doesn't like it. I'm gonna go ahead and say you have nothing to lose, really.
Good luck! I hope you succeed in getting your kiss!
(On a further note though, it took me 3 years to kiss a girl I liked out of respect for her... and we'd been in a "shall we be a couple?" kind of place for the entire 3 years. Now we're together though, so, it's cool).
2006-09-14 11:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, to be honest, your guy is slow, after the first day, the guy give a hug to end things good. On the second day, the guy still know you are interest in him, therefore a good bye kiss is a must, especially if it is a date for a relationship. the third time should be for sure, so your guy is just slow. take your time
2006-09-14 11:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually never kiss on the first date, I feel that it gives girls the worng impresion. But sometimes dates go so well that it just happens and when it happens it so special and beautifull that..... So I guess it really depends on the outcome of the date and the conection that you make.
2016-03-27 01:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but I can tell you wot happened to me. Boys usually kiss at the end of the first date.
Maybe your guy is a little shy, help him a bit.
2006-09-17 09:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to do it first date... but that might be a turnoff, so I wait until the second usually, or the end of the first.
2006-09-14 11:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by steve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he has never kissed a girl before, he is really nervous. That might be it.
2006-09-14 11:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what ever we want
2006-09-14 11:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Skate and Destroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋