when your a virgin and you first have sex how bad does it hurt? I understand there is emotional pain and it is worse than the physical but how bad is the physical pain?
2006-09-14 11:19:06 · 16 answers · asked by M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kinda depends on how big he is. Are you going with a guy a lot older than you are? Someone with a little experience would help ease the discomfort a little bit. If he just blasts away at you..well, the "breaking in" can hurt. Make the first time "brief" and make sure he knows what's expected of him...behaviorly
2006-09-14 11:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotional pain is worse if you are not with Mr. Right. The physical pain is very little. Size and maturity plays a vital part also. Before you make that move be sure, very sure. Because
once it is over it's over. You can never be a virgin again. I hope this helps.Remember this fat lady sings only once But she can
hum mm a long time.
2006-09-14 11:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Im a virgin to, but I read alot and Ive read answers on here to the same question. It may hurt the first time. If it does it shouldnt be too bad. Also you have to do some foreplay to get yourself ready, and make sure your man goes in gently. Dont do anything rough the first couple times. If you do it, and if it hurts, tell him to stop. Also, definitly use protection, not only will it help prevent pregnacy and some STDs, they also are lubercated, which will help. So just prepare for it, dont rush, and it should go well.
Oh and yes waiting till marriage is a good idea, but not exactly nedded. Just make sure yaw truely love each other, and your are COMPLETLY sure your ready, NO "Oh I think I am"
Have fun
2006-09-14 11:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does first time sex hurt??? well sweetie, it can... the pain is brief...but you really need to think about the long term pain...
A sexually transmitted disease
Unplanned pregnancy
loss of your innocence
If you have sexual relations with this boy and get pregnant, its not him that stays home from the mall with a crying baby...or misses seeing a movie because he has to buy formula...or doesn't get to go to the prom because no-one asks the pregnant girl...
Its not gonna be him sweetie....before you take this step...think about what else you will loose besides your virginity
2006-09-14 12:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by bopddbop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This very much depends on the individual person.
Pain at first intercourse is usually related to either hymen tearing or to vaginal dryness & tightness due to anxiety. Some suggestions:
(1) The more aroused you are prior to intercourse beginning, the less likely to experience pain;
(2) Lube may help;
(3) Encourage your partner to *go slow*, or use a position where you control depth of penetration and speed of movement, such as you on top.
As to emotional pain, emotional pain from first sexual experiences are due to making poor choices in partners or rushing first intercourse. If you really want it for yourself, and have feelings of desire & affection for your partner, you are unlikely to experience emotional pain.
I encourage you to have more sexual experiences other than intercourse with your partner before penetration.
And above all--play safe! Sex without a condom is a terrible idea with potentially disastrous consequences.
2006-09-14 11:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by snowbaal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If properly done there should be no painjust total pleasure I have done thousands of virgins and they ahave never complain about pain. But this every other guy or time who have had a virgin they have half killed them totaly rip there guts up and urinated one must be very careful on choosing a proper partner for first time or any time stay awway from fags and blondes theyll pee and trash same goes for minorities.
2006-09-14 12:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the experience of your partner , I am not a woman so I can't possibly know for sure but if it hurts bad it isn't right, it should be a good hurt.
2006-09-14 11:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is momentary, as the hymen tears. If you do it carefully and slowly, it doesn't hurt as bad. And if you finish off the sex with some champagne to celebrate, it's hardly noticeable
2006-09-14 11:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts very bad ,unless your 18 then its cool
2006-09-14 11:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should honestly not have sex unless your ready! k.... and umm it hurts a little.... it depends on how big he is down there and if its wet enough! if its not it will hurt more
2006-09-14 11:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋