killing/destroying you inside because you truely love him and know hes the only 1 and ccant see your life without him
2006-09-14 11:17:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
tell him to stop being so mean to you
2006-09-14 11:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by dishwasher67 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. This sounds like a tough relationship to be in. If it's "killing/destroying you inside," then it's not good for you. Love doesn't tear you down - it builds you up.
There's crying, then there's crying. People cry out of frustration, anger, hurt, and fear in addition to sadness. If it's a release that you need, then you do it - and try to figure out why you're crying. Crying is a message to yourself that there's something serious going on, so it's time to figure out what, exactly, it is.
Are you hurt because of what he did (if so, will he do it again, or does he care enough about you to really stop, or get help if he needs it)? Are you sad because you can see the relationship isn't working out (and maybe don't want to let go)? Once you've got that pegged, you can figure out what to do about it.
You say you can't see your life without him, but can you see it with him, the way he is? My mother used to say that people always change, but almost never in the way you would have predicted, or the way you want. If he were to stay just as he is, doing just as he does, would you want him?
If he's left you, remember that -- he was willing to leave you, so he didn't value you as much as he should have. Wouldn't you be better off with someone who loved you just as you are - enough to stay?
It sounds from your question as though the relationship is over. If so, you're in mourning. Crying is a part of that. At some point, though, it's time to distract yourself with something else that keeps your mind off of what was.
Try volunteering - nothing makes you feel better about your problems than helping someone else with his (or hers), plus it keeps you from having time to do those self-destructive things people do at a time like this. Take a class - baking or birdwatching or whatever, doesn't matter. The trick is to fill your life up with so much that the hole he left behind doesn't look as big. It gives you some space, some perspective. Hope you feel better soon -- Good luck!
2006-09-14 18:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt this way at one time for over a year and a half. I cried for about six months stright and then spent everyday for the next year thinking about how I could not live with out him. I am now married and happier then ever with another man. It took a long time but here I am so I know you can do it. So what should you do, take it day by day and it will get better and until then cry thats what I did.
2006-09-14 19:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Day500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funny thing about love is that it hurts so much. I find that the people that hurt us the most are the ones we love. You have to talk to him. Get to the root of the problem. If you are crying because you broke up you will get over it. Time heals all wounds. Cry if you need. Do not hide your feelings. Come to terms with your feelings, then you can move on.
2006-09-14 20:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of like asking a parent to change? If the one you love, see a lifetime with...doesnt dry your tears...
Chin up. Hope that one day the tears will lessen over time. Depends on why...if you feel rejected by him it may take longer or never but what you should do are things that make you feel good in the meantime and heal. Trying to help others and/or make them smile is one of those ways to bring happy feelings back inside.
2006-09-14 18:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you are a co-dependant. Go to the library and get some books on Co-dependency. Like Mary J. Bliege sings, A real love don't tear you down. If he makes you cry alot, his kind of love is not healthy. Get counseling for yourself and tell him you want marraige counselling together or it can not work. If your not married yet, get rid of him now!
2006-09-14 21:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by todd h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying. I've been through that many times. Sometimes you just have to sit back, relax, and tell yourself that it will be ok. That you will be ok. Sometimes you just need to give that guy of yours some space. For me, I always end up talking to my guy and telling him how or what he said that hurted me. Usually my guy then apologizes or we make up somehow and everything is better again.
2006-09-14 18:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him and make sure he's in it for the right things, if not, you gotta find someone else. Good luck!
2006-09-14 18:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you love someone who makes you cry? He obviously doesn't care about your feelings.
2006-09-14 18:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say goodby, cry all your tears & move on with your life. hardest thing in the world to do..
2006-09-14 18:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋