Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now it is obvious, she doesnt want to be more than friends, but my question is, is that because she is scared( she doesnt want to ruin the frienship,) or because she just doesnt like me
Now shes only 13, I'm 15, Ive like many girls, and had many crushes, and she is just different, I like Everything about her, and just cant let her go, what should i do?
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Now, I am respecting her decision, and we havent spoken about it for 3 weeks. The last thing I want to do is smother her, so I am giving her every inch of space she needs. But 3 months ago, she really really seemed to like me, than when she found out I liked her she backed off. And now she's like that with other guys. But once we talked about it, she seems more comfortable talking to me, than she did before. Her and her mom are really really close, and her mom said she is just REALLY REALLY scared. Her mom wants me to date her daughter, she told me that. So I know I am good with ther parents, what should I do??
2006-09-14 11:10:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now, we've been friends for 7 years, for a long time. And I mean 3 months ago, we were so close, it really seemed to me that she liked me. And I just dont want to let her go. I mean do u think she could be scared, because she's never had a bf, and me and her are close friends, ??what should I think/ do, could anything possibly happen in the future?
2006-09-14 11:12:55 · update #1
Start dating other girls immediately and watch her reaction. Does she get protective or jealous? If she gets protective, as in, "I gotta meet this girl to make sure she's alright for you," then you are locked into the friend mode indefinitely. If she gets jealous, well then she is scared.
If she all of a sudden becomes unavailable or snippy (outward signs of jealousy), then she definitely wants to be more than friends, and she definitely wants you to stay available for when she is ready.
2006-09-14 11:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, this seems like what happened to me a few years ago. It's kind of like my saga, though me and my "girl" were older (17 and 18). She acted like she liked me romantically until I admitted that I felt something more than regular friendship, and then she completely backed away, explaining that she only saw me as a friend.
2 years later, we're boyfriend and girlfriend and we've been together for a while now. She admits now that she WAS just scared and that she didn't actually only like me as a friend, she just wasn't ready for a relationship at 15 years old. Fair enough, I say.
I hope you two can stay friends and just wait until the time is right. I honestly think you need to wait until you're older - maybe you'll move on, but remember, right now, she's only 13. Don't push her and respect what she has said.
2006-09-14 11:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would respect her wishes. You have to remember she is only 13. A very confusing and emotional time of life for a young girl.
Give her time. And, don't pressure her into dating, if she is not ready. It may be hard to hear, but just enjoy being her friend. Let her know you will be there for her. Because, a really good friend is something special and you are lucky to have her for one. Good luck. Everything will work out for the best
2006-09-14 11:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lost_Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you are being much to serious. Try and relax and enjoy the friendship. A thirteen year old girl do not need a lover in any sort of way. Neither do you. You have much maturing and learning to do first. I know your genes are boiling at this stage of your life. Certainly in the case of this friend though, do not try and advance any romance further. Your infatuations for her makes her too valuable for you to loose. Having her as a true friend will be much more rewarding.
Concentrate on your schooling and prepare yourself for manhood and becoming self sufficient.
2006-09-14 11:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 she's just a child. Forget any romantic notions you may have, they can't go anywhere. She's not mentally ready for the kind of stuff you'll be wanting at 15.
Find a girl your age or a bit older.
2006-09-14 11:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's definitely not ready for the type of relationship you're looking for. She's way too young. And it also sounds like she just wants to remain friends only, and you really need to let her go, in that aspect.
2006-09-14 11:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just wait! but still talk to her otherwise u and her have lost all forms of a relationship, she either likes someone else at the moment or she is overly flattered but is embarrsed to be anyones gf at the moment or she jsut wants to be friends, i dont really know im sorry lol ummm i would suggest just stick aorund and see what happens, u never know k
good luck
2006-09-14 11:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look having friends is good and a good and honest friend is all it takes for it to be a long life friendship. You know that you are young, and this relationship should be a good one. Hang around and get to know her. Try talking to her and see whats bothering her and try to understand. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-14 11:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by bigbrowneyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you be-live she just wants to be friends then go with that....don't try and make something work that may not get you to where you would like it to be...rushing some one to a point of making a choice may not always be the best choice......but if she does want to be with you she will come around in her own time....you are a very young person and be-live me you will tons of opportunity
2006-09-14 11:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by hawaiianstyle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is only thirteen and is probably as she says only interested in you as a pal right now but if you really like her you will be a friend and back of with the other stuff until she is ready
2006-09-14 11:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by madeleine b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋