I was broken up with by my boyfriend and chose to move on and force myself to date and meet new people. My ex wants to come back to me and I told him bout the dates I went on and he is angry. He was apart from me for 2 or 3 weeks and swears he never cheated that he just needed a break from the fighting but I know he tells people that we are not together. What should I make of this, am I in the wrong?
2006-09-14 11:03:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were nt on a break at all. I told him 3 weeks ago if he walked away from me after our lunch together that he was walking out of my life forever and he said good and walked away.
2006-09-14 11:21:38 · update #1
No he doesnt, I say move on, he will throw it in your face all the time
2006-09-14 11:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not in the wrong here. If there truly was a "break up," then either or both of you had a perfect right to date other people. There should be no anger on either side about the other one going out with someone else. If the deal was just, "I need some time to cool off. I'll see you in a couple weeks," then he probably has a point.
If your understanding was that the relationship was over and he's acting this way, I don't think you should be in a hurry to have him back in your life! If he's telling other people that you are not together, that's a pretty good indication that he's not very serious about getting (and staying) together with you.
You've already cut the ties. I say, "Move on!"
2006-09-14 11:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by baeb47 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you "it's over" when you broke up, then he gave up his right to have an opinion about what you did after that.
If, however, the two of you agreed (both of you - not just one of you) that you were going to take a break from each other to cool down after a fight, well, then he has a point.
Telling other people that you aren't together, however, sounds like a pretty clear "it's over," in which case it's time to move on. If he really wanted to come back to you, would he be telling other people something different?
Love comes in through the front door, or it's not love. Good luck!
2006-09-14 11:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not in the wrong. Whose idea was it to "take a break"? Was it mutual? Either way, you are your own person and are allowed to do what you need to to be happy. How old are you? You're obviously not married to him, so I wouldn't worry about it. Not to mention at least you are being honest, which is more than you can say for him if he's angry but still tells people you aren't together. Try to talk to him about it and if he won't budge, move on. He's not worth it anyway if he can't let it go.
2006-09-14 11:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by mamba 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in the right. Sounds like the typical jealous and manipulative ex-boyfriend. He'll tell you anything you want to hear, and guilt trip you for as much control as you will give him.
Stay away, these jealous types are out-dated and of low quality.
Most other guys will treat you better.
2006-09-14 11:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
And the attraction to allow him back into your life is what? The fights? The upset? You are not wrong. He can be angry if he chooses to be but that doesn't make you wrong. He can do whatever he wants to do but that all has to be factored into your judgment of how he fits into your life too.
2006-09-14 11:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no textbook criteria for justified feelings. People feel what they feel and if it weren't justified, at least to them, then they wouldn't feel that way. Has he lied to anyone he has told that you're not together? Obviously he feels hurt by your dates, which would indicate he still cares for you to some degree. He doesn't see his feelings reciprocated by you and that hurts. Justified to you or not, he feels how he feels and really, it's not your place or mine or anyone else's to determine whether those feelings are justified or not.
2006-09-14 11:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should have got some hot a$$ chick and rubbed it in your face what you were losing and not want to get back with you . for what ? i wouldn't have waited for one day . i would have had someone new . sound's like you didn't force yourself to hard to date someone else did ya??? are you that hot ???
2006-09-14 11:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by dirtdevil215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he does.
wat u did, was something tht showed you didnt care enough about him, enough to wait.
He has right to be angry.
How about if you broke up with your boyfriend for some time to think about the relationship. Then he went and dated and meet new people.
Would you be annoyed???
2006-09-14 11:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Nita 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you are not in the wrong. He is the one who broke up with you. how were you suppose to know that he was going to come crawling back.
2006-09-14 11:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well in that case just look back to all the times you had whether bad or good memmories. if 25% or more are platonic and everything thn forget 'bout him if they are all good nd thn platonic nd backk to tha way it was thn u can go backk to him
2006-09-14 11:10:59 · answer #11 · answered by Banstaman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋