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allday I been soo nervous, my uncle just passed away and soon we will be haveing his burryal and I'm soo sceard to see him like that. my nervs have been shot allday I start to feel sick, and like I can't eat. is this normal??

2006-09-14 11:01:04 · 16 answers · asked by ??Brown sugar?? 3 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

I also feel shakey.

2006-09-14 11:01:59 · update #1

I kow God is not trying to hurt me.

2006-09-14 11:06:39 · update #2

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i am so sorry for your loss
you dont have to see him thought sweetheart if you dont wish to .. it isnt mandatory
but if it helps any .. when we see someone who has passed away .. two things happen
we see them simply as they would look asleep
or sometimes .. we know that they arent there any more .. they have gone on to be with their loved ones who have passed before them
it really isnt as scary as it seems
what you are feeling is perfectly normal though .. i dont like using the word normal .. because everyone reacts differently .. but it is not unusual to feel sick etc
if you would like a chat at all .. feel free to get in touch xx
love to you

2006-09-14 11:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 7 · 1 0

Poor baby, of course it is normal, especially if you were close to him. Do you have to see his body, is it in your culture? If you do, you will notice that it will just be his "shell", everyone notices that, the real life essence of him has left his body. Can you go with the person you love most now, for support?People will probably talk aafter the funeral, about memories, happy times etc. this helps a lot. As time passes you will feel better, nobody ever believes this at the time, but it IS true! Remember him with love, that is what he would want. Happiness to you and your family :)

2006-09-14 11:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Juliette 3 · 0 0

Brown Sugar,

You are correct in that God is not trying to hurt you. Death is a part of life. I know that sounds trite but God is a God of the living which, according to traditional Christian views, means that what we see as death is merely a transition to another form of existence. Having said that, your Uncle is probably just as sad at the thought of you being bothered by his death as you are nervous of seeing him at the viewing and funeral. Something which may help is to pray for the peaceful repose of his soul and a happy existence in the afterlife.
I hope this helps.
God Bless,
Jim

2006-09-14 11:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by TCMJim 2 · 0 0

I'm sorry about your loss. Sooner or later everyone dies, it is a fact of life. There is nothing to be afraid of to pay your last respects at the funeral. You do not even have to go up to the coffin to do this. Hug your aunt and any one else you feel like. Tell them you'll miss him. Say a prayer in a corner if you want. Mostly a funeral is to give comfort to the family that is left behind and let them know you are there.

2006-09-14 11:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 2 0

If you believe that God made things happen for a reason then you'll get comforted by that. I knew that if someone died in my fam i would cry but hen i learned that I shouldn't cu i'll see that person in Heaven and that God chose for that certain person to die for a reason. Not cuz He hates them but becuase He has a plan for them. God has a plan for us all. Im very sorry for your loss. I hope u can see that God is not doing this to hurt you.

And its normal. Alot of people get so skinny from not eating from a deatha dn so on. Alot of people have those probelms. I am not sure but maybe also talking tour friends if u feel comforted. God comforts me everytime im in trouble.So maybe u should speak to Him. He hears u when u cry. But know that God always gives and takes for a reason. No coinedence.

2006-09-14 11:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mia 3 · 1 0

I'm sorry for your loss.Death is something that we all inevitably will have to go thru.
Be patient. Go ahead and grieve. It's OK. Cry.
But in time you will remember the good in your love ones life.
Going to the funeral is apart of the grieving process. Uncle has moved on, just his body will be in the casket. He will barely resemble your Uncle. Go. Grieve with your family. It will give you closure. Eat something.

2006-09-14 11:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There is no easy way to cope with death of a loved one..but you have to remember that at the funeral..that is just a shell..he's not really laying there...his journey to the afterlife has just begun..so take care of yourself..let all the stress go, about seeing him there..and let the peace of God calm your heart.

2006-09-14 11:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Judah's voice 5 · 1 0

I was like that at my aunt's furneral. Fear does crazy things to you. Just try to relax and breathe. Pray if you pray about it. God can ease your fear and nervousness (blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted), but I really would recommend you go. But if you think you can't handle it, don't go.

2006-09-14 11:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by branches 2 · 0 0

This is entirely normal and entirely personal. We all handle deaths in our own ways. Give yourself time and God bless.

2006-09-14 11:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 1 0

Yes its all normal. You feel like heck, i know. Im really sorry for your loss. I know you dont think it now but it'll get better. You dont have to see him like that. I didnt want to go up and see my grandpa at his funeral. I wanted to remember him as he was. Family should respect your wishes. I would like you to read a poem i wrote about this. please im me. again sorry.

2006-09-14 11:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by boo 1 · 0 0

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