Sometimes when I go out with a guy I met online , they try to kiss me or are trying to touch me (nothing bad, just put their arm around me , etc) and although I am no prude, I just find it a little too soon for that on a first date with someone you just met. It's not the same thing as going out with someone for the first time that you have known and lilked for a while, these are complete stangers. I have found that most of the guys I have been attracted to have taken a few dates to be attracted to as I tend not to be all over anyone on a first date even if I am attracted to them. I often avoid guys that I might want to go with again because they are too pushy too fast. Am I a prude, or a lady? I have no problem being affectionate to a man that I am involved with but not a stranger I just met.
2006-09-14 10:45:52 · 14 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl...you are totally in the right. No one has the right to touch you....unless
you say it's ok. It's not ok. These guys are sick perverts, who will go right on
to the next girl.....cause you won't put out ,as soon as they meet you !!
I can't stand guys like that. UHG....:P If I were you I wouldn't waste my time
on those online hook-ups. Or, tell these guys who you are...up front. That
you don't get close to a guy, until or if you decide it feels right to you. But I have
personally heard nothing but complaints about those online dating things.
Alot of those weirdos pretend to be something they are NOT......Be Careful.
2006-09-14 10:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a cautious, and smart LADY!
Let's lay it on the table; young guys have a hormonal push to mate! It's just how we were made, nothing personal, understand. The sooner we get to the mating part, the better we feel about ourselves.
It's not that we can't wait, or that we don't want to wait, it's an instinctual drive. So the guys you go out with whom you have met on the 'net, may think that they have passed the preliminaries, and can get right down to the job.
Take heart; they can be TRAINED! Don't hold it against them unless they push too hard, or get angry. 'Cause they know that 1out of about every 10 girls they go out with will go to home plate on the first date! So they just keep coming up to bat!
Train them how to bunt!
2006-09-14 17:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you at all.... No man, I mean boy should ever put their hands on someone that they just met. Are they asking your permission first before they do that. And They should only ask if it is ok to hold your hand. They should open all doors for you, if they are interested in you(a gentleman) Next time the next guy you meet online tries to do that. Tell him that you arent comfortable with that kind of contact on the first date. Also meeting people online isnt really the safest way to meet people.
2006-09-14 17:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by D G M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT a prude! No one has the right to touch, or kiss your body unless you give them permission. If they don't respect your wishes, you have the right to end the date because its YOUR body.
I have just answered a question by a girl who had problems with boys paying attention and even touching her body without her permission. How I wish she could have had your attitude on this matter!
You deserve a respectful man who loves you for yourself. I applaud you for not settling for anything else! You have a better chance of being happy than the other girl I have mentioned.
2006-09-14 17:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a prude, but a lady and these are strangers, as well as ungentlemanly. You'll find the right one, eventually. Keep the pressure off by setting dates for daylight hours.
2006-09-14 17:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go on a date with a guy you met on the net? i heard that's very dangerous. not to be all rude but i suggest you change you way of metting guys online and start finding someone in your hometown. there may be guys there wanting to know you.....and not the way those online guys do.....do probably would want to know the real you!! think about it!!??
2006-09-14 17:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_ndn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH NOT WANTING SOMEONE ALL OVER YOU ON THE FIRST DATE. IT TAKES TIME TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE,AND TO BE AFFECTIONATE. IF A GUY IS ALL OVER YOU AFTER ONLY KNOWING HIM 5 MINUTES HE IS PROBABLY ONLY AFTER 1 THING ANYWAY
2006-09-14 18:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats cool. I always felt better about someone that was reserved on the first couple of dates. You're doin' it right!
2006-09-14 17:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by Bucky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try another method of meeting guys or stay in public places or into sports activity instead.
2006-09-14 17:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by chickenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very prude,theres nothin worng with a guy puttin his arm around a girl on the first date,grow up
2006-09-14 17:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by baseball_saenz 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋