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Question

I have a 4 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. My son although only 4 he is very smart. He taught himself how to wright and he just learned how to spell different words on his own. I don't know how he teaches himself to do so. I still can't figure it out. On the other hand my daughter is the opposite. She is only 3 but I figured if my son can learn on his own at 4 then maybe I can teach her. But she is completely lost! Ive tried to teach her simple things like her alphabet and numbers 1-10 but all she does is scribble on paper and says that is her alphabet. My question is, do you think she is a slow learner or is my son just a little more advanced than she is? Or could it be the age difference? Maybe she just needs a little more time?

Answer 1

I don't know if she's necessarily slower, I think she just doesn't want to learn. At that age they are so fly-by-the-seat-of-their-pants that they change what they're doing every other second. She probably just doesn't want to sit down and learn when there are a bunch of toys in the other room. Your son, on the other hand, likes to learn and isn't distracted by other things. Try getting your daughter interested by getting her learning toys. Leap pad brand is excellent...maybe try that! Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

let me tell you my experience and maybe that will help you.

my oldest (now 8years old) was a very smart kid for her age. she still is. when she was 2 she could use bigger words than most 2 year olds and say them in the right context. she was writing and spelling by the time she was 4 with ease. she learned everything very easily.

my youngest however is exactly the opposit. she refused to learn no matter how hard i tried to teach her. she would say her alphabet right then deliberately say it wrong. i could never get her to learn how to write. then one day right before she started kindergarden she had a piece of card board and a marker and just started writing letters as if she'd been doing it all along. it was amazing. it showed me that she was learning what i was teaching her she was just learning at her own pace.

prehaps your daughter is doing the samething as my youngest daughter.

Answer 3

There's a tremendous difference between being three years old and four years old. She also has the disadvantage of being the second child, which can have a whole different set of dynamics to it.

If he learned on his own at 4 she probably will as well. She's not four right now.

Being a second child with an older brother that close in age, she may actually decide that her way to differentiate herself from him is to resist any attempts you make that appear to her you're trying to make her like him. Let her lead you in the direction of what activites she should be doing. Be very careful not to make a huge deal about his "work" in front of her or to unintentionally "establish" that he's "the smart one who learned on his own".

If at all possible, try to "clear your memory banks" of what her older brother does when you're dealing with her. Try to start clean as if she's your first child when it comes to what you say to her and how you treat her.

A scribble from a three-year-old isn't a sign of much of anything for the most part. I think, in general, three-year-olds are expected to draw a body with - like - two parts and some limbs. I could have the wrong, but its in child development books. It is possible, though, that it isn't that she can't do better than the scribble. Its possible that's all she's going to do for you. (Even twins differentiate themselves from their sibling, so don't underestimate how much a child will do to accomplish this.)

Its not for me to guess how skilled she'll be at four or five, but I don't think you have much to worry about right now; other let it "be established" that her brother is the "smart one".

Answer 4

It sounds like your son is advanced for his age. You daughter is perfectly normal. At three most of their learning comes from from their surroundsings... what they see and hear. Toddlers are very visual oriented. She is still learning a great deal everyday. I wouldn't neccessarily recommend pushing her so hard to be like your son though. Children are each very individual and you can't force them to learn the same way or even at the same rate. This would be true even if they were twins. I would let them have the time to learn at their own rates and let them enjoy being children. It will all change fast enough when they start school.

Answer 5

All kids are different. My daughter was very advanced and then started to school and began to fall backwards. My son was not like that. Took me forever to get him potty trained her one time it was done. He was 3 when i got it done she was 1. She could spell and all the stuff your son can do but my son did not. Now she just graduted and barely made it and my son does great in school. A's and B's. Every kid is different. Give her time and let her do it at her own pace. It will come.

Answer 6

Your son is unusually gifted in this area.

Most three year olds don't know their alphabet, but it's not too early to start playing games with her to learn it. Every child is different, make sure you don't judge one by the standards of the other.

Answer 7

i think your son is a relly smart child and will grow up to do great but your daughter is just normal like the rest of us and thats not so bad

Answer 8

your son is VERY advanced and your daughter is perfectly normal

Answer 9

each child ia different.she will do all kinds of stuff when she is ready.so try not to worry.she will be just as smart or smarter then you son.you never know. will just have to wait and see.

Answer 10

well he is a littl emore anevanced that you r dautgher and your daughter is slow .My advice is that you spend more time working at it no matter what