We´ve been together eight years. We never had troubles, we´ve never been apart. Our relationship has been always free with great times together and respecting each others time with one anothers friends. We were preparing things to live together, we talked about children, in fact, just before this happened we had a conversation and he told me he won´t be able to live without me and I told him the same, and all kind of romantic stuff. Then he started to have big problems with his bussiness (he´s the owner), then, everything changed. Now I don´t understand what´s going thruogh his mind, he said hes very confused with everything, his family, friends and me and he is not confortable not even with himself. I asked him about us and he told me he didn´t know anything, I asked him if he needed time and he said he didn´t know, and if he wanted me to stay with him through this difficult time and he didn´t knew either!!...so he doesn´t know anything at all!!...I´m very confused.
2006-09-14 10:32:28 · 18 answers · asked by altair 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Owning a business can be a draining, harrowing experience, regardless of the rewards. Long hours and constant stress inevitably take their toll on a person's health and personality.
Unfortunately, the mood and demeanor of someone closely tied to their business is often tied directly to the prosperity of the company. When things are good, they are euphoric, secure and elated. When things are poor or uncertain, they are often irritable and insecure.
If his business is having problems and these problems are impacting your relationship, you should assure him that you're nearby if he needs you, that you love him regardless of what happens with work, and give him some space to sort things out.
Rest assured that in all likelihood it has little or nothing to actually do with you. Don't give him the opportunity to project work problems onto your relationship, though. If he feels that he is losing control over his business or its direction, he may overcompensate by trying to exact control over your relationship.
Detached support it likely the best answer, even though it may be difficult, and watch his behavior to make sure that it really does stem from what is going on at the office. If you take a step back, you don't want someone else taking a step in when you'd made yourself available.
2006-09-14 10:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by jinxmahoney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is very stressed and worried about his business. It probably has nothing to do with you and your relationship with him. If his business is in trouble, he doesn't know how he's going to support himself financially so, he doesn't want to take on any more financial stress than he needs to. He probably is confused because he's not sure what the future holds for him. I would not take it personally. It's nothing you did wrong. What he needs now from you is reassurance that you will be there for him no matter what. Tell him it doesn't matter to you whether he is rich or poor. I would not give him a hard time about not knowing where your relationship stands but, just continue to be there for him. Offer to cook him dinner, run errands etc. Be together when you can. Continue to be supportive of him. If you both love each other, things will work out in the good times and bad times.
2006-09-14 11:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible his business is going down the tubes, and he's too embarrassed to admit it to you, and might even feel guilty about it (whether or not he did anything wrong). Have you tried to get to the bottom of what's causing his stress with the business? Have you offered any help to him? Ask him if there's anything you can do to help, either emotionally, physically or financially (but be extra cautious on the financial part of it).
You might open up some communication doors by probing to find the root cause of his stress. However, if he doesn't want to talk about it, give him a little time and space, but be cautious in the meantime.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 10:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
christ some people giving very bad answers here. im starting to think this answers area is very damaging.
hes not trying to break up with you or anything, hes clearly stressed out and frustrated, the fact he has a business to run and it has problems its plainly obvious.
im exactly the same and can assure you he would want you there to support him and DONT NAGG! hes clearly stressed out and probably abit anxious with it. running a business when its troubled is very stressful and will do that to a person/
trust me - been there my self!
hes stressed out!! try get counciling and talk with a counciler/therapist (same thing) - it helps alot and you come out after talking it over feeling alot relieved and re assured.
just reassure this dude and what ever you do dont stress out yourself and question your relationship and say your going to leave as that will only compound this problem and make it 1000 times worse for him.
theres probably nothing wrong. just hes getting swamped and frustrated with stress!
reassure and understand is what you must do. not nagg or question whats up.
just take a step back and look at the situation. its quite clear to me whats up - and from what you said of your relationship theres nothing wrong there. so dont question that there is or that there might be!
2006-09-14 10:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by the dogone dog 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just the problems at work that made him this way. Give him some time. If he still feels the same, talk to him and see how he really feels about you. If he still feels confused about you, maybe he's not ready to settle down with you. Maybe he's seeing someone behind your back. You never know. When I starting seeing another guy, I told my bf I was confused about everything.
2006-09-14 10:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may feel that if he is not a success you will not remain with him, regardless to what you say. Just give him space even though yous are together. Let him pour it out to you; don't push it.
You also have to look for signs of other things that he may be going through which he's not mentioning. Look at action, listen to small apparently insignificant things.
Most of all, tough it out as long as you feel there's hope.
2006-09-14 10:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by kasar777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i recently had kinda the same problem, my boyfriend was stressed out at work and said he was confused. he said he needed time by himself, so i was ok with that. later on, i found out that it was all a lie and he was cheating on me. im not saying that your boyfriend is cheating on you. that's just what happened to me. my advice is to be careful and be prepared for anything. and if he really is just confused, then give him some time. he'll eventually get over this and be back to normal. good luck!
2006-09-14 10:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys do that from time to time when they get stressed. Don't worry too much about it. Stick by his side & do what you can to make him happy. Sometimes when guys get stressed with work, they think they need to change their whole life. It's just a difficult time for him; be there for him. If it's meant to be, it'll work out! Keep him happy!
2006-09-14 10:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes confused himself, how can he tell you?
Be there for him. Be patient. Hes having trouble with work and since he is the owner, this is his life we're talking about. Its major. Be supportive and open is all you can do at this point.
2006-09-14 10:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 23:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋