I am 22 and he is 31. We have been together for 3 years!. We break up like every 2 weeks. But I cant stand being away from him for too long. The relationship got so bad at apoint where now I even lie to my family about still being with him.
What am I supposed to? We have been on one of our little breaks for the past 6 days and its about time we either get back or stay away....if i love him, should I just go back and risk a rocky relationship forvever, just just suck it up and be aloone for a while??
2006-09-14 10:23:07 · 19 answers · asked by gigerninfo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will refrain from calling you stupid...please save yourself and leave this thing you call a man forever. You haven't mentioned it but I'm sure he is a control freak, you probably have very few friends because of him. Good possibilty he has even hit you once or twice...you get once chance at life and you are gonna waste it on him?
2006-09-14 10:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are a SADO... with all my respect read this
Sadomasochism is a paraphilia that combines both sadistic and masochistic sexual behavioral patterns. The main characteristic of sadomasochism is the eroticizing of pain.
What appears to the outsider to be painful, even very painful, is experienced as somewhat painful but mostly pleasurable and very sexually arousing to the sadomasochist.
The sadist in the sadomasochistic pair is the person who inflicts the pain or punishment; the masochist is the person who submits to the pain, humiliation or control of his or her partner.
Sadomasochistic sexual encounters usually occur in the context of scripted scenes that simulate interactions between master or mistress and slave, employer and servant-maid, teacher and student, owner and horse or dog, and parent and child.
Sadomasochists may wear black leather or rubber attire. Some gay males and heterosexuals engage in a genre of sadomasochism known as "leathersex", wearing key chains or colored handkerchiefs symbolizing the role being played. Wearing keys on the left side indicates that the individual is a sadist; on the right indicates that he or she prefers the role of masochist.
Sadomasochism — Alternating Roles
Sadomasochists tend to alternate between the masochistic and sadistic roles. In milder form, without overt cruelty or bodily punishment, dominance and submissive behaviors may be found in many relationships, or may be an element of fantasy life.
Although sadomasochistic acts in their extreme forms can be physically and psychologically dangerous, the majority of people engaging in these behaviors do so with an understanding of the risks and stay within carefully predetermined limits.
2006-09-14 17:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mario 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to go back? you break up every two weeks, cheat on each other and lie about being with him. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. Sometimes it's better to be alone for a while. You need to find someone who is healthier for you and can make you happy.
2006-09-14 17:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its in a womans nature to hold on and be a nurturer,,that is why you hold on but,,you are young enough to get out & move on.Step back,,think about all that you have been thru & learn from this.Part as friends but do spend time alone for awhile without him.Then surround yourself with more uplifting people.That is alot that you have been thru.It has to stop now.If there are things in your life that you dont like,,you can change it.As you dream,,so shall you become. Good luck.You deserve better for sure.
2006-09-14 17:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to suck it up and be alone for a while. This guy and this relationship are very bad for you. As long as you keep wasting time with this one you will never be able to find the right one. Its time to close this chapter. I had something similar going on and I finally ended it for good and so should you.
2006-09-14 17:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get strong & stay away. I've been in a relationship for 7 years & we never break up & get back together. That's not natural or healthy. Get away from him, you'll meet someone else & will be very thankful you weren't wasting time with him anymore! It's hard, but you can do it!
2006-09-14 17:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you break up every 2 weeks, how about if you are in marriage area?? Will you divorce ever 1 week? Dont be silly!!! Leave him and move on!!!
I know it must be hard since you have done lots of things with him, but try to move on! You can geeet so much better guy out there if you try to look for it.. Maybe so far you didnt look for em.
Whats your having rite noe isnt love...its lust!!!
2006-09-14 17:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Aurora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to leave him, and start your life back in order but we all know it won't happen. Theirs a saying "Misery Deserves Company". What more will it take to open you eyes and figure your in a bad relationship. You won't change because you like the life your in. I just hope you don't raise children because they'll be more screwed up then the both of you.
2006-09-14 17:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i smell a need for some foundation repair.
you both need to be more responsible to your bodies, for one, when it comes to drug use. another thing is the abortions.. you can't be throwing sex around like that and then terminating developing lives. another thing that's missing is respect for eachother... 3somes always end up messy and someone usually gets hurt. you need to treat eachother lovingly and throw your pride out the window. i think you know what you need. if he is willing to change and grow WITH you, stay with him. if he wants to stay as an immature middleaged man, have no part in it, because you are wasting valuable time on earth.
God Bless you!
2006-09-14 17:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by jami p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a very low self steem and you need to get away from that relatioship as soon as possible.... On the other hand, you know what can happen when you open your legs, so better use protection next time and stop killing babies.
2006-09-14 17:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋