My Adoption Story: I want to be closer to my birth mom....?

Question

I am 13 years old,almost 14.I was adopted young is all I know.
Supposedly,when my birth mother was pregnant with me,my birth father died,which is true he really did.I didn't know all my life I was adopted in fact I haven't known that long at all!Well my real mom,I have known her as my cousin in the family.She's like a second cousin to my adoptive-dad.So I really am related to them.Nobody,has yet told me what age I was adopted at,but I can remember many things.I love my adoptive parents.But the problem is I haven't always been so close to my "was cousin..now mom".I mean I see her every now and then.Well just last week I saw her again,at my aunt's funeral.And the whole time her and I talked trying to get to remember each other better.I really want to be closer to her so bad! I miss her everday,do you think if my adoptive parents say it's ok it's a good idea to spend the summer with her? Any ideas on things to do,stuff like that?

She's 30 years old.
I'm 13.
She lives 2 hours away from where I live.
She just got married a year ago but the man isn't my real father.

Answer 1

You should start out slower than an entire summer. Send her emails and letters. Call her once in a while. Get to know her as a person first, not your mom, because there was some reason she didn't keep you. You have 2 parents who love you very much or they wouldn't have taken you in when you needed them most. Just give the relationship with your cousin (and that is what she is) time to grow into more - if it is what both of you want - and do it without hurting the feelings of the two people who raised you and loved you when no one else would.