I have had a problem latley with people noticing my chest! I was talking to a guy the other day and he was talking about my chest and starring at my chest, then i had a group of guys (in which i know) yell "David said you have huge boobs"
My last problem with this guy i know fairly well, is always hitting my chest with something, one day a water bottle, the next day his hand.
The thing is i know these guys are joking so dont say "file for sexual harresment" i understand what they are doing is not appropriate. What should i do (one of the guys i like) and i dont want him to stop talking to me either..
If you have any ideas on why they are suddenly so observant, or how to get this to stop let me know! thanks =]]
2006-09-14 10:09:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and also its not that i let them "get away" with it i usually ignore the comments, but i feel so self conscious and i have pushed one guy away and told him to stop.. so its not like im helpless
2006-09-14 10:16:19 · update #1
tell them that it bothers you... although they may be good friends you still have the rightto stand up and be like "whoa, hey this is getting outta hand"
2006-09-14 10:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere along the line, David and these other men have gotten the idea that you do not mind them paying attention to and even touching your breasts. They are getting a vulgar thrill with this power they think they hold over you.
Either you did not verbally object to the attention or they don't take you seriously. In any case, word has probably gotten around that guys are getting away with it, so expect the attention to get worse and more brazen, unless you are prepared to stand up to them legally.
2006-09-14 10:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say "file for sexual harressment" so is this happening at work?
If it is... you really should talk to them one-on-one and say you don't appreciate the remarks they have been making lately and they need to stop. If they don't then yes.. file.
If you are in school... chances are David has been telling his friends "stories" of about how he knows just how big your chest is. And.. how willing you are to show him it as well... so now.. they are all hoping you will show them too.
No one has to put up with what they are doing. Talk to the one boy you like and let him know how you feel about it and he may call them off. If he doesn't then you need to ask youself why someone you like and want to like you would allow others to do that to you.... the answer is.. they wouldn't.
2006-09-14 10:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk about an uncomfortable feeling! The one you like, can you maybe go to him and ask his friends to stop? Or maybe talk to all of them, and tell them they are creating a miserable situation for you. The one that is bumping in to you needs his hand smacked. Maybe that would drawl enough attention, and show you don't like it. Good luck! I hope you can get this resolved.
2006-09-14 10:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you at work when this happens definitely create a log of events and asemble witnesses so you can win big bucks at the courtroom
2006-09-14 10:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by jercha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to me. It'll be as unobtrusive to me as light turning yellow on an intersection. Normally women shove it in my face as if they are trying to hypnotise me.
I don't find breasts appealing unless I have control over them.
Naive tease breasts are as bland to me as raw cauliflower.
2006-09-14 10:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are doing whatever you are letting them get away with. You can talk to them, but the minute they mention your chest, look at it, whatever, walk away. They will get the message evetually.
2006-09-14 10:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make them toe the line.
You are the one in control not them.
If you are at work and they do that, get a witness and you can retire young.
Peace!
2006-09-14 10:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u like it and u want them to keep doin it then dont worry if u dont ask the boy u like to go out w/ u so if they wanna touch u hes got ur back
2006-09-14 10:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by kwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...u could cover up. breats are visually inviting.
stop hanging with immature boys who see large breasts as freak of nature thats why they giggle.
mature guys wont talk bout or stare.
2006-09-14 10:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Necat T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋