how does one escape the trappings of "unrequited love"? (well.. to be honest, it would be closer to "unrequited strong interest")
2006-09-14 10:08:11 · 4 answers · asked by classy_gui 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you actually been turned down or are you just assuming? You should tell her how you feel - so at least you get it out for you. If you don't say anything, you'll spend your life thinking "what if." If she's already turned you down, tell her again how you feel but that now you know she is not interested and that you are going to move on with your life now. Once you say it to her, you may actually believe it yourself.
2006-09-14 10:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well here's what i think we all should do for ourselves before we get into any relationship:
1st, make sure YOU are the kind of person u want as a partner. so, make sure u take care of urself, ur attitudes, the way u think, the way u judge (or don't judge) your partner; take care of YOUR responsibilites and actions and reactions to situations; be as open minded as possible, be willing to Learn, and strive to be a Good Person, and Good man or woman, someone to be admired and trusted and well-liked. so that may also mean u gotta take care of ur Appearance and ur Knowledge, so that u Feel Good, Look Good, and Understand many things, in order to build that confidence in urself.
2nd, i think the more u are happy and positive in ur life, the more attractive u are to others. in a Good way; when u are positive, u attract positive people to you. when u are negative, u kinda attract negative, or "bad" people to you. so while u are working on urself, u are actually working on ur ability to maintain and make Good relationships, with Positive people; because u are feeling confident and happy, u will be able to see, and filter out, the negative ones. stay close to Good, Healthy, Happy people, and stay away from the Mean, Negative ones.... ones that don't prove they are good women, ones who cheat on you, or don't appreciate you. the thing is, the stronger and confident u are in urself, the more likely u can "bounce back" from someone who DOES treat u horribly; think of it this way, u were the "good boyfriend", and that person treated you badly. therefore, who is wrong? not you. and that knowledge will keep you Strong, and Learn from your mistakes, and keep distance between that person and yourself.
so, long story short, work on yourself, continuously learn and grow, keeping an open mind, and u will be the kind of person OTHERS WANT to be with.... and u will be able to "pick and choose" who is a great person to be in ur life, and who needs to change in order to fit in w/ a Healthy, Positive Lifestyle. good luck! :)
2006-09-14 17:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well... i don't know how comfortable with buddhist teachings... but the buddha said "desire leads to suffering, if you do not desire, you do not suffer"..
it sounds like you desire her a great deal, and that desire is causing you pain. My advice:: Desire something else, or even more important, YOURSELF!
2006-09-14 18:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea!
2006-09-14 17:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋