i was listening to the radio and the men were complaining that when they are "friends" w/ female coworkers, they become labelled as "Gay" if they listen to problems and give advice. but because they are so bothered by that label, the talk show host said "if ur not attracted to her, be mean to her to stop her from talking to u...?" but why should men "be rude" to show their masculinity.... does that make sense to u?
how does Being Rude = Taking charge of masculinity? i understand why being labelled as gay is not appropriate, but being someone's friend usually means listening and giving advice, being someone worthy of leaning on. i think this adds to why a lot of women feel that men are "pigs" instead of being able to Respect him as a Man... what do u think?
2006-09-14 09:56:45 · 16 answers · asked by sasmallworld 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was Ryan Seacrest on Kiis FM.. he's funny, but sometimes i don't agree w/ him. funny thing is a lot of GUYS called in and were complaining about being labeled as gay!! weird.... =T
2006-09-14 10:06:08 · update #1
i've addressed this in a previous question/answer, but i think women go for "bad boys" not cuz of the jerk factor, but because bad boys tend to know how to make a woman feel SPECIAL, and are Confident.. now if "good, nice guys" learned to be more Confident (not obnoxious), i think more girls will go for them and not the "bad boy".
2006-09-14 10:07:53 · update #2
The irony is all of the men who answer your question will be labeled as gay according to your radio show.
A. Find a new radio show to listen to ...that one sucks and is for ignorant rednecks.
B. A friend is ANYONE who you can talk honestly with and they won't judge you. Does not matter if they are male / female / tranny / gay or whatever
C. The reason a Man is a pig is because somewhere along the line that Man had his heart ripped out...cooked and fed to his fish in tiny little flakes......That man in turn seeks to act out his revenge on all womankind.....a part of me cannot blame him. Its a VICIOUS cycle that we are all wrapped up in....baggage and all
Hope it helps
2006-09-14 10:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What program was this? Howard Stern?
Whoever you are listening to sounds quite stupid and misinformed. I suggest listening to another station. Men are trouble shooters by nature, even when women don't want them to be, we are. We immediately start to try and find a solution to a problem.
As for being labeled gay, THAT is a stretch LOL. Does that mean that gay men are more sensitive? If so, they have an edge on most straight guys.
2006-09-14 10:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of women don't catch a clue until they guy has to be rude to them. Once a girl has decided a guy is a "friend (ie he ain't getting any from me!!!)" then he becomes someone "safe" because there isn't any chance of sleeping with him. Guys on the other hand see a woman's attention as an invitation to work towards "getting some".
The reason guys say that only "gay" guys have friends that are girls is that the only reason a 'straight' guy pays any attention to a woman is because they want to sleep with them.
Its true - I've asked a few of my guy "friends" once - "if no one would ever find out (like their wife/gf etc) would you sleep with me? 100% of they guys answered "yes".
When i told them there wasn't any chance of that happening.... 100% of them were no longer "friends" within 6 months.
2006-09-14 10:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the label "GAY" may be being used incorrectly. They may just see the guy as "soft". The women may get the feeling that the particular guy is safe to talk to and other men may find it less than manly only because he is approachable. Now if a man feels that he needs to be rude in order to show his "machoism", then that is a man struggling with his personal identity and needs to know that he is okay in his own skin and that others see him the same.
2006-09-14 10:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by sermed420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been branded that labell before .. which is not nice but i dunno the worlds a ***** i suppose im a good talker and get on with girls very well but sometimes guys see giving advice and being nice as a lil gay which in turn makes you feel uncomfortable about who you are ,,, guys have a reputation to be all hardmen who are only there to basically "f u c k women" without no emotional feeling afterwards but sometimes you just cant be like that , obviosly this is some form of standard which which guys have to follow otherwise your seen as gay
2006-09-14 10:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Izzy10 S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's truly idiotic!
Our society does reinforce the fact that a man needs to be rough and tumble to be a real man.
I don't know why that host would say so.
However I know a lot of men who do in fact listen when I speak with them and they don't care a lick about what they're male counterparts might think.
Don't worry, there's still a lot of positvity out there. Problem is just finding it!
Ciao
2006-09-14 10:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jehan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont agree that you need to be rude to show your masculine. But truth be told it seems to happen more often than not that women go straight for the "jerks"... and even tho the nice guys are sitting there listening to your problems with genuine concern... we often get overlooked...
2006-09-14 10:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by Reaction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all it boils down to is some men are insenseitive with them selves. i'm a man and have friends that are girls - i give them a shoulder to cry on and listen to their problems and offer my advice. i am not gay by no means. men don't have to be a billy bad *** and most are not that is just what they want you to think. bottom line is men have feelings and men cry O Yes we cry too. they just don't like to show it. so all these talk show hosts that are saying that about men can just kiss my ***.
2006-09-14 10:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what radio station were you listening to. That is just plain ignorant on thier part. If a man hangs with a woman and they are friends... they CAN JUST be friends! Some people don't understand that.
Maybe they are gay.....
2006-09-14 10:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men think that being mean to women shows that they are in control, but to me it's just showing their silliness.
2006-09-14 10:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋