...I need help with a guy.?

Question

Please take me seriosuly as this is really getting me down. I really like his guy called Petr who Ive known for a few months now. Im not a girl who usually tells people that I like them, its sorta because Im afraid of rejection but I know Im an attractive girl and I do get a lot of attention from boys, but not ones that I want. This fella is compltely different to the guys I usually have after me. Hes quite quiet, smart, and very hardworking and I really like him for this. I told him I liked him the other day because I was really 100% sure he liked me but he then said nothing could happen until he spoke to his mate Chris (the Chris thing is a long story, hes become a bit obsessed with me so Peter wants to be loyal to his friends). What I think the problem is is that Peter is a bit intimidated by me, even though Im not how he thinks. I think he see's the fellas that usually like me and they arent likehim at all. He doesnt drink or anything like that so I tihnk hes a bit worried that Im

too much for him or something but really although I attract fellas who try to act hard and stuff I dont want them...I just want him and I want to show him that it will work. He tells me he really likes me but he doesnt think a relationship would work but yet he really does like me...I just want him for him!

Answer 1

sweedie there is nothing you can do about this. congratulations for having the courage to tell this guy you like him! and sounds like he does like you back but hes friend chris was obsessed with u. now put yourself in his place. say you like a guy but your friend is obsessed with him. now would u go out with him? see , chris needs to calm down a bit before that. i dont think he will see the drinking and the partying as such an important issue. hes a guy after all! lol. hes obviously worried about his friend there. so there is nothing you can do about it, you can show him the side of you that he doesnt see but sounds like he already likes you for what you are so you know, you dont even need that.
and i know how annoying it is to atract guys you dont like and not atract the guys you do like...always happens! but like i said, i dont think there is much you can do rigth now so see how things go...i truly hope that you guys will end up together, cos i like a guy whos quiet and hard working too...so yea! all the best

Answer 2

This is a tough one. An attractive looking girl that's afraid of rejection, i never heard of that before. this guy peter is different from his friends, but why are they his friends when he doesn't do the same things the rest of them do, ie probably drinking and smoking etc? Also, i can't understand why he's intimidated by you or why he needs his friends' permission. Is he intimidated because he thinks your'e a party animal or something, or that your'e more suited to the guys chasing you? He doesn't want to loose his friend chris, whom he has little in common with? Everyone is chasing you except him, is that why you want him? I cant really tell you what to do but maybe you should talk to him again,tell him that you want a date, nothing too heavy. Make sure it's not a secret so no sneaking around so that nobody will be surprised ie (chris). someone once said if 3 people are in a relationship it's better to have one unhappy person and two happy people, than 3 unhappy people. Phew!

Answer 3

Well first of all, a friends cooperation is really big when you both like the same girl. First rule of guys "dont go out with the girl your best mate likes". But if you could explain to his friend (if he really is his friend) what you have told us in this short description, then maybe he wouldn't mind and let his friend be with you.
If the guy you like is quiet, he probably gets extremely nervous just talking to a beautiful girl (trust me i know) so just step back a little and give him space. He will come around. Also explain to him the part about how you don't want a tough guy and show him what you're really like.

Answer 4

the fact that he had to check it was ok with his mate is a really nice sign in a guy - it probably means that hes really considerate. I guess all you can do is talk to him and explain that the reason you like him so much is that hes different from all the guys you normally date - and you've had no luck with them and you realised that its a guy like him you need to date.
Ask him for one date - no obligations to anything after that - but just one to see how you would get on together - then give him the option of a second if ye enjoy yourselves and get on well.
You cant force him to be with you - the best is to be totally honest with him - good luck!!!

Answer 5

If you think he might have misconceptions about you, maybe you should talk to him about how you feel, WHY you like him (and frankly, those are very valuable qualities in a guy; he'll be glad to know you don't just want to get in his pants or whatever).
As for his friends, that's just a thing you have to work out as someone in a relationship. It's always tough to balance between the girlfriend and the guys. But that's what life requires; balance.

Answer 6

I think you need to tread carefully here coz your failure to devulge about this Chris issue to us and to him means that at one time you were a good pair.Loyalty among friends goes a long way so don't ruin their relationship as that will be the beginning of desaster towards your relationship.
Again, you already have negatives against your own character, a sign that this will not work in your favour as you will need to tone down on your behaviour.Sometimes men feel intimidated by women who pester them coz you will end up trying to control them.
If you want Peter to love you then you have to show him that you will be his alone and that he isn't going to be put on a contest with other guys.Alcohol intake tends to bother teetotallers as you will not be operating on the same wavelength so it looks like you will have drop most of the things which you like for the sake of winning this guy's love.
You should weigh the benefits of your persistence towards this guy and if you think they are in your favour then tell him about your feelings and how much you are prepared to let go of some of your stuff to allow this relationship to work.Remember in life we have to be prepared to take risks and we have to live with the outcome; should it be good then so be it; should it be bad we forget about it and embark on another adventure.So make your choice, isn't life about choices?

Answer 7

Obviously he is attracted to you, so just keep being yourself, and he won't resist. If things are met to be, they will happen for you, if not, his loss. Right? Show him you only have eyes for him. Maybe start out with going to his friend that he feels the need to consult with and explain to him how much you like Peter, maybe he will understand and help you out. Good luck!

Answer 8

well if he likes you he should atleast invite you out for a first date. I think it is abit wrong that he involved his friend Chris. This is somthing that is between you two nones else. I would see what he does next and if he is still being reciliant then i would walk away. I know you really like him but dont let him hurt you.

Answer 9

Well ... he may just be afraid of ruining his friendship ... because of all the guys I know ... NONE OF THEM wouldn't give an arm away to go out with a gorgeous girl. As far as intimidation goes ... if he is intimidated it's only because he's not sure why you like him ... after all, he's nothing like the usual guys who go after you.

Answer 10

Well this is a tough one. Im gonna give you one of my tips, when i like a boy but he doesn't feel for a relationship i try to make him notice me more by talking to a friend of his. once he see u talkin 2 a friend he will wonder about the two of you, and think about the relationship status. ( trust me,it really works)