Is this ethical? how?
2006-09-14 09:52:05 · 15 answers · asked by ms_sweet_real 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
a catholic one?
2006-09-14 09:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by JerseyRick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on how long the minister has known the couple. If he has known them and their families as part of the church community for a long time then I see nothing at all wrong with him/her officiating at their wedding. If he just met this couple last week and has no connection at all with them then I think he should have done more counselling. But, at least, they did go to a minister and get married. Support them and be happy for them.
2006-09-14 16:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You assume all pastors have an ethical view that mirrors your unstated disapproval of the age of the two to be married and of pre-cana counseling of one session. Some don't counsel at all you know. I don't think it's an ethical issue. it's foolish, but I'm not sure ethics enter into this.
2006-09-14 16:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is legal and ethical. It is better that they be married so that the baby has a mother and a father at home. There is nothing OKAY with single mom households. The father must be present for there to be a family and for the children to grow up civilized. I see the corruption of the family all the time and it is not pretty. Single parent households are failures.
2006-09-14 16:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You sound upset. Perhaps the ethical thing to do here is make an appointment with the pastor and express your concerns to him? Perhaps s/he will be willing to share things with you that might give you some information about the decision of the three involved - man, woman and pastor./
2006-09-14 16:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He believes the baby needs a mother and dad. If they are in a sexual relationship and already have one child, they need to get married. I say that is a wide pastor.
2006-09-14 16:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why is it not ethical?
they already jumped the gun by having the baby.
the counselling probably should have been longer, but proper guidance from both sets of parents should have prevented them having sex outside of marriage.
im not christian either.
2006-09-15 11:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by marmalade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get married one does not have to be counseled. That is choice you don't have to have it done. I didn't and I married in a church and yes I'm not a christian.
2006-09-14 17:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by genaddt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a child and they want to do the right thing.
Yes, they will likely end up divorced, but the counseling is irrelevant to that.
They will want new friends when the kid is older and they are older!
2006-09-14 16:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do not know about that denomination, but in mine, premarital counseling is a several week long affair.
2006-09-14 16:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you did the wright think by going to talk to a pastor before you get
marrie, but if you are not comfortable of what he said. go directly to God and ask him to show you the way.
God bless you.
2006-09-14 17:00:16 · answer #11 · answered by g-man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋