My Biological Mother! Wanting to become closer?
I want to become closer to my real mom?
I was adopted as a baby.my real mom is actually a cousin of my adoptive family.So my whole life ive know her as a cousin,and looked at her as that.Well now she and i want to become closer and im not getting any younger im 13 almost 14! How can i ?? She lives 2 hrs away from my city,and just got married will she still love me the same?? HELP!! Please and Thank you!! :)
I was adopted b/c she was young when i was born and my father died before i was born.
e-mail is Hayley1125@yahoo.com
2006-09-14 09:51:45 · 12 answers · asked by PolishChikka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have an adopted son and we try to keep his birthmother in our lives as much as possible. The problem is she was 15 when she got pregnant and just turned 18. She is pretty busy going to school and living her life. So we keep in touch through email. This may be a way for you to ask her questions that you may not normally be able to ask face to face.
Just take things slow and dont expect too much. Things will work themselves out.
2006-09-14 09:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - I was adopted too as a baby, but not by a blood relative. Are your legal parents willing to help you build a relationship with her? How do they feel? Talk to them and they will help you. Maybe with weekend trips, phone calls, emails. Your bio Mom should also make arrangements to come see you. Don't leave it all up to yourself to do.
Your biological Mother will always love you.
2006-09-14 09:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kissingbythesea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just write letters and send E-mails..Plan get together once a month...But don't selfishly neglect the people who raised you..Sometimes people fantasize how great people are when they really don't know them at all ...You may find the closer you get to your biological mother she may not be everything you thought she would be
2006-09-14 09:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is ur mother and no matter if she is married or have other kids she will love u the same...There is nothing bigger than the mother's love.Try to visit her at the weekends...Everything is possibile if u want it...I think that u have a great opportunity to find out more for her and dont miss it...
2006-09-14 09:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she want to get closer? If she does she will have to be the one doing the driving to see you, and making sure you get there. What do your adoptive parents think? After all they are the ones who love you and have taken care of you.....don't forget about THEIR feelings.
2006-09-14 09:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will love you the same because you are her daughter no matter what. Well you can visit every other weekend and talk on the phone anytime you guys want to. Well Good Luck.
2006-09-14 09:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your biological mother will want to become closer to you too. But please don't forget that your "real" mom is the one who has raised you and has been there for you through good and bad.........
2006-09-14 11:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she would still luv u the sameif she got married and yall wanna get closer maybe to will get to know both of them better!!!
2006-09-14 09:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by kwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her don't rush it. If she loves you the same, why are you so Paranoid with this?
2006-09-14 09:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by Classica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start from the begining
2006-09-14 09:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by classiclady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋