I met this girl a little while ago and she is amazing, but she told me something horrible recently. When she was younger in high school she got drunk on a school trip and blew multiple guys. i have a real chasing amy situation here i really like her but i can;t get the visual out of my head. any advice
2006-09-14 09:48:52 · 36 answers · asked by tg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just say... it couldve been worse. she could have had sex.
2006-09-14 09:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you REALLY like her, stay with her. See how she is as a person/friend. We all do stupid things when were drunk, so don't hold it against her. She probably feels real bad about the situation, but it's a good thing that she trusts you to tell you something very personal like that. Over time it will be a thing of the past. Just keep the alcohol away, "Because tequila makes her clothes fall off".
2006-09-14 09:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by latinoheat131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop getting hung up on the 'Chasing Amy' thing. The whole purpose of it is that you eventually have to let her go, right? So save yourself a world of headache right now, and move on. If she had a few drinks on a high school trip and made like a circus seal on a bunch of guys...first of all...where was she when I was in high school. Second of all...if all it takes is a couple of Smirnoff Ices to turn her into a raving nympho, what's to stop her from doing it again? If I may cram another Kevin Smith reference in here, "sometimes, you just have to let the smaller chips go..." The girl has issues that you may want to think twice about getting involved in.
/just sayin'
2006-09-14 09:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by 2 cents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
I'm sorry for your conflict but you must realize that no one in this life is a Saint. Meaning men and women alike, we've all done things that we're not proud of whether we were drunk or sober.
Please don't judge this girl. Her past is her past and she apparently likes/trusts you enough to tell you something as embarassing ro raunchy as that. At the very least this shows that she's honest - and that's hard to come by (male or female).
If you really want her, let your feelings be known and go after her.
Ciao!
2006-09-14 09:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jehan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the visual is bad. It probably happened a long time ago. If I were you I would be happy that she is so open and honest with you. At least she is not trying to hide anything. Besides what she did that day may have given her enough practice to be able to satisfy you.
2006-09-14 09:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are only human, we all make mistakes especially when drunk. to be honest if she was that drunk, does she know for sure she actually did those things, or has it been told to her. if she was drunk how good could it have been anyway. She is a different person now and to be fair she didnt have to tell you anything did she,? you got to admire her honesty. So give her a chance. she obviously likes you enough to be honest with you.
2006-09-14 09:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her, if you really like her see how things go between you and her, you might find out that it will work out and she really is all that you wished she could be, then again she maybe totally diferent than what you're looking for. my advice would be to try out the relationship but KEEP IT SLOW that is the best way to discover someones personality, if she is only going with you for sex, get out of the relationship, it's only going to hinder you. and make you feel worthless. everyone makes mistakes and hers was drinking and blowing multiple guys. Just give her a second chance, if you don't like the way she's acting get out of it before things get worse.<><
2006-09-14 09:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she your girlfriend? honey everyone has their past! everyone has baggage. her past makes her who is is today, that's truly how i feel. if someone can't accept my past, they can't accept me because my past experiences, relationships or even flings have made me who i am today. you'll prolly get a lot of bullcrap answers for asking this question so here's an honest answer if you want it. my significant other has had alot more girlfriends that i have and at first i felt the same way you did, but hey i fell in love and i can't hate my partner because of their past or sit there and let the visuals ruin what could be a great relationship! and if those things never happened maybe my partner wouldn't be so amazing, mature, great lover, etc.. you know? hope this helped. don't dwell on the past. if she's worth it stick with her.
2006-09-14 09:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has done things they're not proud of. The fact that she would even confide in you about something so embarassing is a big deal. She must really care for you.
If you can, get past it, make some good memories of your own. (And at least she knows how to give a good bj)
2006-09-14 09:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by squirellywrath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...she told you that? I never would have revealed that sort of scandal this early on.....
Why can't you get past it? Does it secretly turn you on? Did you by chance know any of the guys?
I would seriously let this go...it was a while back and you guys weren't seeing each other. Try to start focusing on the future and not the past....it doesn't make things any better, trust me.
2006-09-14 09:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is amazing, but something she did so many years ago (when she didnt even know you) bothers you.
Now, wasnt that sentence a ridiculous one? We all have a past, one thing or another. You are being completely unreasonable and unfair. Open your mind a little bit before you lose a good woman over something stupid.
2006-09-14 09:54:44 · answer #11 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋