Am I out of order?

Question

I am a 44 year old mum, who had too much to drink on Monday evening. 2 of my sons came round for a drink too. I was a complete frigging IDIOT (before you people tell me) & got my tittys out. My 24 year old thought it would be a good idea to video me on his phone.He promised me he'd deleted it. I have found out today, from inlaws, that they had a good laugh, at my expense. I'm not bothered that my sister inlaw & niece saw it, but my nephew saw it too. I've told him that I don't want anything to do with him anymore,beause if he had any respect for me, then he wouldn't of shown other people. If he thought anything of me, he would of had a chuckle on his own, about his mad Mum, & not shown the family. I swore I'd never speak to him again! AM I WRONG

Answer 1

You are angry and hurt. And a little wrong and a little right. What your son did was wrong. What you did was immature. We can only control our own actions, not those of others. If you are into partying, you should find a different crowd. If exibitionism is your thing, find another outlet for it that is not infront of family and friends. You sound educated and lucid, so why did you do it in the first place?

Answer 2

One thing we cannot do,no matter how much we wish we could is turn the clock back.
Two wrongs certainly don't make a right,he was wrong to show the video to anyone else,but give yourself some time to calm down and reflect on what has happened;on the grand scale of life,no one has died,no one is seriously ill,imagine how you would feel if you never seen him again and for what ?
I think you both need to sit down while both are sober and discuss what happened and try to put it behind you and move on.
Maybe you could take up tap dancing or something of a little less embarrassing party piece for the future !
Good luck !

Answer 3

So you get 'em out after a few drinks? Hmmmmmmmmmmm. I'd say sit back and wait for the date invitations to come rolling in!

Seriously, laugh it off - don't turn it into an issue. You can't really hassle your nephew for any disrespect - lets face it, how much respect does waving your boobs about really demand?

I'ts definatly not worth losing a family member over.

Answer 4

Total wind up.

No one would admit to that...well not unless they are drunk now!!! And if it did happen then I doubt that you were ever in order.

I wonder why it is that when we drink and we do something wrong we either say I can't remember or it was the drink.What a.load of Tommy rot.

I am not being judgemental but how have your brought your Son up?

Answer 5

so you got drunk n acted silly im sure people think mums have to be prim n proper all the time
try to see the funny side n dont fall out over it lifes to short
it was drink enduced so just blame the beer if anyone starts having a go

Answer 6

Okay, wait... This can't be real. This cannot be real. Lemme get this straight. You got piss-drunk, invited your SONS over, ditched your top (and by the way you were disturbed enough to use the word "titties"), and let your son get it on video. And then have the nerve to be mad at him for showing it to someone else? Hey dipshit, he should have took it to the police station and reported your ***. What was your intent?

Answer 7

Everyone was drunk. forgive yourself, forgive your son and move on, Be mad for a few days, than have a good laugh. The whole thing isn't worth losing a son over.

Answer 8

why did you get your tittys out with your sons there? there's something wrong with your son too for videoing it and yes, it does show disrespect that he showed everyone, but he probably sees it as harmless fun and didn't realise how much he'd hurt you, you should make up with him and explain how embarassed you are and ask him to delete the footage.

Answer 9

tell your son to delete that from his phone immeadiately (make sure he does ) he should not have shown it around , but you should not have been so stupid either , you said he had no respect for you where would he get it, and it would have been alright for him to have had a laugh at your expense on his own , !!! and yes talk to him , it a stupid thing and not worth falling out over .

Answer 10

I'm afraid you brought all that on yourself and it's a bit unreasonable to give anyone else a hard time about it now. If you were a man acting that way in front of female children it doesn't bear thinking about. Focus less on taking out your emabarressment on others and deal with your drinking.