I have two girls, three years old and ten months. But I'm afraid that I won't be able to love all three equally. How do parents share their time and love between multiple kids? I find it hard sometimes and I only have two. Is it easier than it looks? It's just me and my husband.
2006-09-14 09:39:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The love part will just come. If you have 2 kids you know that you love each differently you just love diff things about them and their personality.
I only have 2 kids and no more for us. My friends w/3 say it's to much because they are outnumbered now kids vs. parents. But then again I have friends w/4,5 and 6 kids that says it gets easier at the 3rd so.....it's what you feel is best for you. If you are not sure and happy w/what you got then consider it a blessing and done!!
2006-09-14 09:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids and loving them all equally is not hard at all. The amount of love you have will never run out no matter how many kids or people you have to love. Time on the other hand is a little more difficult to make equal. With a newborn who gets most of the attention all day, I can see how my other two are wanting more. And I have to admit, I feel with 3 that it's harder to get things done. Since if I get my baby to sleep or to be happy without me holding her, then one of my others decides it's their turn to get mommy attention. And when I only had the two my oldest was acting more independent and didn't need attention like she wants now. I guess it all depends on your children's personalities too. If they are really needy it will be harder. But perhaps learning to share and be more independent might do a clingy child some good? I'm glad that I have 3 and I want two more, I just have to accept that it's going to be a little harder from now own and to rely just a little more on my husband for help. But I'm not too worried about my kids not getting enough attention.
2006-09-14 09:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your scared about not being able to give all three kids love, then don't have another child. If your having a hard time giving the two kids you have right now all the love and attention they deserve, the definitely don't have another child.
I have an 18 month old son and a 7 1/2 month old daughter. I give them both love and attention and have no problems at all with it. I know if I had another baby which I plan to have in 3-4 years, I will be able to give all three of my children love and attention.
Don't have another child until you are certain that you can give them all the love and attention that they deserve.
I hope I don't sound mean because I don't intend it to be like that.
2006-09-14 09:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 children. They are 27, 24, 21, and 9. The older 3 were, of course, all little together. I personally found that going from 2 children to 3 was considerably easier than going from 1 child to 2. I am not sure of the reasoning behind it other than strictly mathematical...1 to 2 is twice as many while 2 to 3 is only a third as many. In the same way, I am not sure how it works, but I had plenty of love when our oldest was born and seem to have just as much for our youngest little "surprise" baby. It seems unfair, but you will not always love each of your children equally, but you will always love them each differently. As they grow, your relationship shifts and changes. You go through times when you only have love left for them because at the moment you really can't stand them. You will have enough love for all the children you and your husband decide to have and will even have enough love if you end up with an extra little surprise like we did.
2006-09-14 10:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE SEVEN CHILDREN. MY OLDEST CHILD IS TWENTY FOUR AND THE YOUNGEST AND FOURTEEN MONTHS. I HAVE FOUR GIRLS AND THREE BOYS. I LOVE ALL OF MY CHILDREN. THE LOVE IS NO DIFFERENT FOR EITHER OF THEM. THE THING IS, YOU JUST HAVE A DIFFERENT TYPE OF CONNECTION TO EACH CHILD INDIVIDUALLY. ONE MAY NEED A LITTLE MORE ATTENTION THAN THE OTHER. ONE MAY NEED A WHOLE LOT OF ATTENTION. ITS NOT THAT YOU DO NOT LOVE YOUR CHILDREN THE SAME, IT'S JUST THAT ONE MAY REQUIRE MORE FROM YOU THAN THE OTHER. FOR EXAMPLE: YOU MAY HAVE TO PUT THE BABY TO THE SIDE FOR A MOMENT TO HELP THE OTHER CHILD WITH HOMEWORK. THE BABY WANT MOMMY, BUT BABY HAS TO WAIT A MOMENT WHILE MOMMY HELPS THE ONE THAT'S IN SCHOOL. THAT DO NOT MEAN THAT YOU LOVE THE BABY LESS BECAUSE YOU PUT HER DOWN TO HELP THE OTHER. DO NOT BE SCARED. A GOOD MOTHER IS MULTI-TALENTED. SHE KNOWS HOW TO SPREAD HER LOVE AROUND. YOU CAN DO IT MAMA!
2006-09-14 09:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just do, the love just spreads naturally! I want 2 kids, and my fiancee wants like 10 or 12, we'll see how that goes! Unless technology changes, and he can start having them, I think 3 or 4 will be my limit!
2006-09-14 10:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by pitbull lover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i only hav one and my man wants another one but i know im not ready. our daughter is three and sometimz she gives me a "run for my money" if u know what i mean. i know if i were to hav another it would be like hell for me. i do want more but i'll know when im ready and now is not the time.
so i guess what im tryin to say is evryone is different and u'll know when ur ready and some women hav kids even when their not and hav to learn how to cope. so sit with ur husband and talk about discuse all the angles of ur life and figure out if u can fit another child in there some where. hope evrything works out for u.
2006-09-14 09:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sooo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have 1.
2006-09-14 09:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by vicky l 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
we have 5. and it DOES get crazy and things, including kids, sometimes slip through the cracks. but we do try to pick them up, so to speak as soon as we realize it. mornings are rough, shopping trips almost aren't worth it. christmas is chaos, lol. i was perfectly content with 2. but things happen and we work it out. as for attention, they give eachother a lot of attention, our 9 month old rarely gets a moment to herself! and i would never keep my head above water if i didn't have so much family so close. i wish i didn't have so much to deal with, but i do. so i deal. whatever. but each and every one of them are different and fun in their own way. if you want another child and you are in a position to have another both mentally and financially, then do it. you are gonna be scared about the 10th child too.
also, make sure you have enough patience and you do not value personal time too much!
2006-09-14 09:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by bad kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have 6 children they grow up to help each other out and look after each other some days its hard but most days its easy and i ahve been a single mum for 4 years now, i love them all the same and i ahve one with a serious illness but i show them all i love them each day , they understand why i am very protective over the poorly child as she has a bad life ahead of her due to he rillness but as i say i show them all the same amount of love
2006-09-15 10:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋