2006-09-14 09:33:47 · 10 answers · asked by camachomexican 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
16 or 17...you are in love...and wanting to get married and have kinds...but you are unsure of their age?
2006-09-14 09:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! Noooooooo! I say this not to be a jerk, but hear me out...
Look, you're 18. You're hormones are in full gear. You got the need to breed. You got the man thing going on. And I would say go for it, if we were farmers in the 1700s.
Our biology does not keep up with our society. Look, you love her. I won't question you on that. thats not the question, afterall. Doesn't she deserve the best possible? Security? A man with a good education and a good job? The best enviornment possible for her children? High quality chocolate on demand? If you are 18 and can provide this, kudos. I do think its a little unlikely.
If I were you, I would keep this in mind when you think about her. And think about yourself too. Feelings can change. Even the most convicted of feelings. St. Paul hated Christians until things changed. You need to watch out for yourself. Finish school. Get into a college program and take up a decent major. Or go a technical route. Find a job with decent benefits and put half your paycheck aside. Be more practical than smart. Keep out of trouble, and of course, crack is whack.
In 5 years, you could be in good shape and ready for a kid.
If you both are crazy about each other, and it has to be on both ends, concentrate on making yourselves better first, then marriage. Then kids. Give it some time. Marriage should be a life long thing. You got your whole lives to work on that then. No worries.
You both should keep your minds open, don't lock yourselves into anything too deep right now, and work on making yourselves productive at this point in life. It pays off later. Anyways, hope this helps.
2006-09-14 16:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by coffee_addict 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, the likely hood of you staying together is very slim. I would suggest you wait. You can always get married at a later time knowing it is for real. Even if you are sure you are right for each other, then what's the harm in waiting a few years? The only reason I see to getting married that age is because you want to start having kids, which is a whole other can of worms.
2006-09-14 16:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Take it from Toby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you had better discuss this with her parents and yours. She is under age now. If you don't have her parents approval you can get into legal trouble. You had better have a job and a good paying one. You need to build your life from scratch unless you are rich. You need the help and cooperation of both families. Without that you stand no chance to be married long.
2006-09-14 16:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be a rush to get married. Good luck to you. Far too many divorces in this country these days...you may want to think about this a little harder.
Love is patient....is soooo many ways.
2006-09-14 16:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..do you have your own place, graduated college with a degree, a good stable job that pays at least 60,000 a year to support this family you so badly want at such a young age? if not then i advise you to get the above done first for your own good..
2006-09-14 16:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sexxssay? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love that person so much that you aren't even sure their age....This should be interesting...
2006-09-14 16:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you don't know the persons age,........well that could be a problem.
2006-09-14 16:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nep-Tunes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck but please try and finish school before you make such a big step
2006-09-14 16:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck.
2006-09-14 16:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋