he won't buy me a airline ticket. We both work but he makes twice as much as I do. The ticket cost about $500. bucks. He said I should buy my own. His family expects me to be there as well, but they don't know that I can't afford the ticket. I told him I wouldn't be able to go then and he said "OK" Does it sound as if he really cares whether I go or not?? I didn't think so, but the rest of his family won't understand. We keep separate accounts for now. What do you think, should I try to save up the money? Or not go?
2006-09-14 09:32:02 · 16 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I could explain the separate accounts, but that was not what I was asking about. I wish you guys would just answer my question. Do you think you could do that?
2006-09-14 10:23:47 · update #1
Its his niece if he wants you to go let him buy the ticket...other wise dont worry about it....and for all the others who answered.... there are many couples with seperate banking accounts...
2006-09-14 09:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have separate bank accounts also. And the same type of problems have risen as a result of it (we are currently separated). I would say he needs to pay for the ticket. It's his niece and he makes twice as much a you. As for his family, don't spend your life worrying what everyone else is going to think. You have to do what is best for you and it doesn't sound like your husband is very supportive. I wish you the best of luck with him in the future.
2006-09-14 09:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jens 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are married his money is yours too! Use his account and buy the damn ticket! Sounds to me like you need a divorce! Marriage is about give and take!
2006-09-14 09:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u told him i wouldn't be able 2 go and he said ''OK''
than why bother go and waste ur money, if he doesn't care why should u!
and if he changes hes mind, tell him ''shes ur niece why should I go and waste my money if u wont help me buy the ticket''
plus I think married couple should help each other
and shouldn't think of these things.
and if u say he makes twice as much as u and wont help
than sorry 2 say sweetie his greedy!
2006-09-14 09:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u both need to work on ur marriage first! dont go. u cant afford it and he doesnt care. its not ur niece its his. so if he wants u to b there he will pay for it. unless u r close to this niece of his. then the sttory is differnt then u should be there. if u r not close then it doesnt matter.
but seriously. ur husband or ex husand. doesnt sound like a loving man to me. if he cant share than he cant share his life either.
u have more problems than going to this wedding
best of luck
2006-09-14 09:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, this problem is much smaller than the one in your marriage. Why is this even an issue? You two have a lot work to do to create a true marital relationship. Right now, you sound like roommates sharing expenses.
2006-09-14 09:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get divorced. Seriously, if you don't share the responsibility of a Small thing like money then you have a big problem.
2006-09-14 09:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this. Do you have separate accounts? I wish couples would grow up and share things equally.
2006-09-14 09:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go and when his family asks why tell them he was too cheap to buy you a ticket.
2006-09-14 09:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Obsidian © 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes try to save money
what a cheap azz husband... separate accounts and also pay your own way.
2006-09-14 09:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by d2pain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋