well i met my ex like 9 months ago and we fell in love. It was going great. However like a week ago he told me that he felt like betraying me and he feels guilty by going out with me cuz he still cares about his ex who lives in texas (they are still in contact, but see they went out 4 2 weeks and it was his first girlfriend but then she moved. this all happened in november). and i am here ****** caring for him 24/7 and he appreciates it but doesnt realize that i feel used u know. And hes like yea, we'll stay close friends but he still wants the physical **** from me...and i cant take it cuz it hurts me. So i told him off that i dont want any physical **** so hes like okay thats fine. but like from then he would never call but i would call him. So after sunday i stopped calling him and he has not called me yet. he said like he trust me soo much, but he acts this way. We're in the same friends circle and we have this cookout on sunday before college starts so we r all meeting up.plz help
2006-09-14 09:30:51 · 10 answers · asked by Sweetie928 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
simple answer, and it won't be easy, it won't be fun, but you have to let it go. You said you are going to a cook out before college starts...so you are about to embark on one of the GREATEST times of your life...I know it may take a while, but you are going to meet so many people, and have so many new experiences that thsi will only be a distant memory by second semester. Trust me, as a recent graduate I cherish my college days and all the wonderful people I met, and who are still in my life. If his mind and heart are not with you, ther eis nothing you can do about it, and dwellign on it, is only going to make matters worse. Remember the times you did have together, do not hook up with him, and give him his space. He realize what a tool he was to you and in the end, I bet things will work themselves out.
2006-09-14 09:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by laydehoo05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you are still pretty young sweetie. It doesn't really matter, I guess, that kind of stuff hurts everyone. But it seems the younger you are the more easily you let people into your heart and the easier it is to get hurt.
He doesn't deserve you. You deserve happiness. As hard as it will be, go to the cookout, act mature (ie: be nice but not too nice) and then when college starts you will find many new guys to help you move on. Promise. In the mean time, it is okay to be hurt. Just try to find other distractions.
2006-09-14 16:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Iristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by discontinuing sex with him. Never let someone else have control over your sex where you give it up and you're not getting what you want out of it. As far as the cookout.. go, have a good time, talk to him.. show him that you're not affected like he'll expect you to be. Let him know and prove to yourself that you'll be fine. Besides that, you're heading off to college. You'll probably meet far more interesting, more mature, guys than your ex. The important thing is that you don't avoid him. Live as you would've if you'd never met him.
2006-09-14 16:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still cares/loves the other girl and is just using you to pass the time away or for the physical stuff, then you should just let him go. You deserve someone that will treat you better. If you are going to meet at the cookout, don't stress over it. Just act cool and be friends with him.
2006-09-14 16:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like ALL he wanted was physical. You will be mad for awhile and then you will get over it. Just be glad you found out what he was truely about before you got married or had kids together!
Go to the cookout and just ignore him!
2006-09-14 16:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by newsgirlinos2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus H Christ.
My suggestion is to appear on Springer.
2006-09-14 16:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nobody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring a new guy to the cookout..
2006-09-14 16:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please please, just get on with your life. You're going to college and will be starting a new life. You wouldn't have had time for him anyway. This way you can concentrate on school and meeting new people. Just have fun, you have your whole life ahead of you and it will only get better I promise you.
2006-09-14 16:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way you were a rebound. Sorry
2006-09-14 16:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his ***! tell him just because he cant move on doesnt mean you wont.
2006-09-14 16:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by qt pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋