i can handle this no more. my dad has alzhiemzers.?

Question

my dad has been diagnosed with alzhiemzers. this has been has been so hard for me as im only 15. but ive been strong for it as im so very close to my dad. sometimes he looks at me as if weve never met. and he forgets who i am. now he's getting put on the DLA as he's really bad now. he's noty allowed to drive anymore or work < he used to be a mobile hairdresser you see> it hurts to see my dad sit there and look so sad and confused. i also have a big family but most are grown up now and have there own lives.
but my two younger brothers live at home. my dad is still with my brother and my 2nd youngest brother has autism.

will my family be ok?

my dad has been diagnosed with alzhiemzers. this has been has been so hard for me as im only 15. but ive been strong for it as im so very close to my dad. sometimes he looks at me as if weve never met. and he forgets who i am. now he's getting put on the DLA as he's really bad now. he's noty allowed to drive anymore or work < he used to be a mobile hairdresser you see> it hurts to see my dad sit there and look so sad and confused. i also have a big family but most are grown up now and have there own lives.
but my two younger brothers live at home with me my dad and mother. my dad is still with my mother and my 2nd youngest brother has autism.
a couple of years ago my mother also give birth, but he later died.

will my family be ok?

i can loose the man that has brought me up. i love my dad so much. and its hurting to see him fade away liek this

Answer 1

so sad

Answer 2

I'm so very sorry for you sweetheart, you are awful young to have so much sadness laid on you...........I know because I went through something simular when I was 10 years old, it was my Mom. One night she woke me up, actually it was 2:00 or 3:00 AM, she was having a stroke(A blood vessel had broken in her head) we didn't have a phone so I had to go to the neighbor's, it's a story like yours, my life was never the same. Forget about me, I'm going to try to help you, you're probably tired of people telling you to be strong, so I'll tell you in a different way. All the things that have happened are not your fault, this is one of those things a person has no control over, you can't change them either, but you will have to take on more responsibility than anyone else your age. These are the kind of life's realitys that will make you grow up before your time. From here on out your name will be called alot more than normal, your load at the house will be more than usual, so you'll have to change a few things. You won't have the time you use to for the things you like to do. It's OK..........you asked if your family will be alright.......they will, but your Dad,Mom, and Brothers are going to need more from you. Remember girl.....God will not give you more than you can bear, since it won't hurt you, it's only going to make you stronger. You are not the first teenager that has had to sacrifice some of their life for their familys well being. I'm going to pray for you, I have faith in you, you will gain alot of what it takes to be an adult, sooner than your friends. Show your family that you can do as much as you can to make it through this crisis They will have to come first for a while, you'll get back two times what you put into this. Make them PROUD!!!! ALL THE BEST!!!!!!

Answer 3

awww, I'm sorry. I used to take care of a elderly lady that had Alzhiemzers. She would eat so much because she didn't remember if you ate lunch or a snack.

I used to come visit her Monday thru Friday and she wouldn't know me and ask the same questions, "Are you a friend of the family? Why are you here?"

I would take her to the mall and we'd have so much fun, everytime she bought something, she didn't know how she got it.
One time she bought a pair of shoes, she liked it so much she decided to wear them. When we were driving home, she's like "Stop the car I stole someones shoes!"

At the end of 8 hours she always said the same thing that I loved to hear. "I had such a lovely day with you, It was so wonderful, I won't forget it. Will I see you tomorrow?" and she'd give me this big hug and thank me and say "It feels as if I've known you forever" I always loved seeing her, because I know she loved spending time with me, even if it was doing cross word puzzles together, we'd laugh at our answers. Or taking walks, watching the weather channel, we had fun just blurting out our ideas together.

Answer 4

Yes its hard but you will get through it. Just remember good things and times. Try to make it a funnier time more then sad. Tell him jokes like haha you don't remember when I did ?????? (something bad). Just remember alot of people dint have a day so enjoy just being with Him regardless if he knows or not. Don't forget to take time out for you. go out somewhere with your friends to get away from things sometimes. Your 15 don't let it affect you so much you don't live. Big family is big love. Whenever you think you got it ruff remember somebody is alot worst off then you.

Answer 5

Yes. Your family will be ok. Even if it doesn't seem so right now. Please talk to an adult that you trust. Find someone who can guide you and give you support. You don't mention if your older brothers or sisters are in the picture. There isn't anyway you should be shouldering this alone. There are support groups out there, if you have a computer, look for it using google. The main thing is don't be afraid to go for help or talk about your feelings.

Answer 6

I'm sure it is harder on your dad than you realize, Your only 15 and have had to grow up fast. Get a good church you really enjoy and try your best to look on the postive side of everything. It will get better make the time you have with your family as humours as possible. Make every effort to laugh as mush as you can. Give it to God and quit trying to carry the weight yourself. Know your dad really loves you and can't help the way he his, I'm sure he would chage in a heartbeat if he good. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 7

I'm sure everything will turn out well.
These trials only strengthen us more... We must have faith in our resilience to handle the worst of hardships, and believe these troubles shall also pass.
My dear, the darkest hour is before dawn. How much worse can life get? At one point, the only way will be upwards... things will improve and your problems will certainly end... but for now you will have to find the strength to bear with all this.

Initially, it will be difficult to adjust with your father's condition, and it will take some effort to comfort your brother with autistic disability... but if you make an effort, I'm sure that you'll find its reward somewhere.
Have faith... and keep the struggle going!! You will win, and your family will surely find happiness...

(Wishes and prayers for you...)

Answer 8

Your family will be fine...Although I am alot older than you I know what you are going thru...I am 56 and my mom has alzheimers too...She has been in a nursing homw for almost a year now...I realize that it is very hard on you , but you have got to be strong!!!!!!Because deep down inside your dad remembers you but his memory is gone and he just can't remember..but you are in his heart...You need to put your dad in a nursing home, It is alot better than trying to deal with all the things he has been doing or will do.....You are at a delicate age and too young to be going thru this but it is right there in front of you and so I am going to try to tell you how to deal with it ...hard as it may be
I am telling you that your dad needs to be in a nursing home because they have people there who deal with this everyday and who are trained to deal with alzheimers patients. They are really good with the patients, and your dad will be medicated , but not alot just enough to calm him down. Because I hate to say this but being at home with family isn't the best thing for your dad..He will not only say hurtful things but will become violent........YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER....He doesn't realize what he is saying or doing.......He will try to runaway and he will probably go back in time...I saw my mom a couple months ago because I live in Georgia and she is in Wisconsin and she had gone back to when she was a teenager.......She is 78 yrs old.....I shouldn't have been telling you all of this but i thought you should know...I am running out of space but if you want to talk more go to my profile and send me an e-mail ok...I will help you anyway I can or will just listen ok? I am very serious about this and look forward to hearing from you

Answer 9

you will be okay, but it's a long, rough road and I know how hard it is for you. You need to find a support group, be with other people who are going through this as well - no one else can truly understand how cruel this disease is unless they have watched someone they love slowly slip away from them. It breaks your heart when they don't even know who you are anymore, in some ways this is almost worse than death. You need to reach out and find some help for yourself, and know that there are others who know what you're going through.

Answer 10

Yes your family will be fine. It is hard dealing with alzhiemzers. And there will be alot of times you will have to look out for yourself. Dont keep from crying, Dont punish yourself. Know that this is happening to you as well as him. But keep your chin up and find someone you can talk too. Some one that will let you pour out your feelings to.

Answer 11

i really feel for you, times are going to test you but you will emerge from it a strong and graceful young woman. lokk to other family members and friends for support. you are only 15 nd shouldnt be expected to cope on your own but i see you are also mature enough to realise your lil brother has needs too.